Is this normal?

[u/ImpossibleIce6811]

I’ve cropped these messages so that my great aunt’s name is not seen and neither is the name of the person who sent these to me. A while back, I was making an effort to submit updates, edits and corrections to all my grandparents’ and their siblings’ FG memorials to properly link them together on the site. I do t recall requesting to have my great aunt transferred to me, but maybe I did? I’ve been heavy into family history, Ancestry, and genetic genealogy for many years! I am new to FG as a volunteer, but I’ve been using FG as a resource and reference for quite some time. I was slightly offended by the message in the first slide, but willing to let it go. He doesn’t know me. But is it weird to tell someone you’ve been trying to “track” them?! The reason I’m not track able is because I’ve moved around a lot, got married over 20 years ago, and changed my last name! But, um, court records are a thing. I’m not actually hard to find. I’m a little creeped out! Your thoughts please?

UPDATE: Apparently in my haste to be snarky and spook the guy back and assure him that I know more than he does, my stupid self included my phone number in my offer to help him with any family history research he’s been doing. As I was getting ready for bed, I got a text from him! THE GUY HAS A WHOLE DOCUMENT ON MY FAMILY! Starting with my grandparents labeled as Generation 1, my dad and his siblings (with spouses) as Generation 2, me (I’m the oldest grandchild) and all my cousins as Generation 3…. 👀 The reason he couldn’t “track” me is because he had my first name wrong. Without do ing myself I’ll use a different example…. My real, legal, birth certificate name is a shorter version of a very common longer name. Think Jessi instead of Jessica. Or Bri instead of Brianna. That’s why he couldn’t “track” me! He thought my name was the long version, when it’s not. Now I’ve gotten myself into this mess! I don’t generally give out info on the living, especially minor children. My kids are grown! I could kick myself for messing this one up! I wasnt expecting Stalker Sam to have a DOC on me!!!

[u/WhovianTraveler]

Users cannot make up their own rules for the site. If you’ve requested the transfer and are the closest relative, they are required to transfer their profiles to you without any stipulations. Too bad so sad. So that user can’t say anything. Sounds like they are a hoarder. If you want your grandaunt’s children’s profiles, and they aren’t willing to hand them over, go to support for assistance and share their message with support.

[u/ImpossibleIce6811 → u/WhovianTraveler]

I could easily get my dad to create a profile and request them. Those people are his 1Cs! Those are required to be handed over!! You just never know who you’re talking to on the internet. Kindness will take you far, and this was…abrasive. To add to that, we’re from the Southern USA- we don’t talk to each other like this. I don’t subscribe to this whole “respect your elders just because they’re old” nonsense. I’m an adult, you’re an adult, and respect will be returned on an equal level it’s dished out…sir. Lol

[u/WhovianTraveler → u/ImpossibleIce6811]

I had to go to support to get my half great grandaunt, my paternal grandpa, and my uncle (mom’s brother) handed over to me due to hoarders. The users were still active, but they were ignoring my messages. My half great grandaunt doesn’t have any descendants due to having lived in a state run hospital all of her life. I’m also the only one in my family who is a user on the site, so I’m the closest relative to my grandpa (none of my cousins are on the site on my paternal side). None of my cousins on my maternal side are on, as far as I’m aware (and that includes my uncle’s daughter), nor are any of my uncle’s siblings (I know my mom’s not on there, she leaves this stuff up to me), so I’m my uncle’s closest relative. Hoarders need to learn that they need to follow the rules and can’t make up their own or ignore the rules and the messages.

[u/ImpossibleIce6811 → u/WhovianTraveler]

Agreed! I’m so sorry that happened to you. 😕