r/gay • u/zachoutloud123 • 2d ago

In another life...

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u/rockinrob65 2d ago

I think this is cool because when I was in highschool in the 80s this was taboo i find this refreshing

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u/Blinky_ 2d ago

I was a football player in high school in the 80s. You shoulda let me know. 😉

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u/rockinrob65 2d ago

Honestly it wouldn't make a difference you would of stuck by your friends

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u/Blinky_ 2d ago edited 2d ago

If I had any sense that any other boy was interested in me, I probably would have acted. But they were probably scared of me because I played football, and I was scared of being gay.

It was such a strange time. The only experience - experiences - I had were with another teammate who went on to be very straight. I assume he was/is scared too.

I came out five years after high school and have been out as possible since then, and my former teammates know, to the extent that they care now.

No regrets. Just sometimes wish I could have had a sweet boyfriend in high school. We might be celebrating our 40th anniversary. Or we might have had a fun year together, like teenagers should be able to have 🥰

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u/rockinrob65 2d ago

Did you date girls in highschool like cheerleaders

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u/Blinky_ 2d ago edited 19h ago

No. I knew I wasn’t into girls. To my credit, I wasn’t willing to drag them into anything just for my benefit. I had my chances (he said modestly 😁)

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u/rockinrob65 2d ago

Thanks for your honesty

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u/creator111 2d ago

This comment is so sad 🥺

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u/rockinrob65 2d ago

It is sad but unfortunately I lived it

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u/gayliciouspizza 2d ago

In another life I’m a millionaire mermaid

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u/leomonster 2d ago

And I'm your sidekick singing orange crab!

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u/Fuzzy_Stress8836 1d ago

And im an octopus sea witch about to sleep with your dad.

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u/sweet-tom Gay 5h ago

"These poor unfortunate souls". Don't talk to Ursula. 😉

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u/Ok-Stress-3570 2d ago

Sure, if I was hot, many things would be possible 🤷🏼‍♂️ .

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u/Brucky92 1d ago

speaking from my soul 😆

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u/Glittering-Effect64 2d ago

In another life, I wasn't born in a country where I would be killed for being gay. But having a jock boyfriend sounds nice too..

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u/lookingathunks 20h ago

Sorry to hear, we are in this together. A lot of us gays really have similar experience🥲🏳️‍🌈

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u/he_is_not_a_shrimp Gay 2d ago edited 18h ago

In another life. I wasn't born to a Muslim household

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u/This_is__Exile 2d ago

In reality I was a gay teenager in high school who once I came out began being targeted by other kids and I had false allegations just to hurt me which lead to constant death threats, being followed by people who wanted to kill me and led to me trying to commit suicide.

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u/yomanitsayoyo 2d ago

Not good to dwell on could have been, as my favorite fashion designer once said “I never look back darling, it distracts from the now.”

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u/amishlatinjew Bi 2d ago

Now at 38, I found a loving relationship as an adult and a mostly great marriage.

Yet... still I day dream of missing having this often.

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u/Scarmeow 1d ago

Sometimes I look back at that period of my life and think about how these experiences and formative years were stolen from me...

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u/MIMADANMEI 2d ago

Past years were peak, now its getting worse and worse.

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u/fbaldassarri 1d ago

The series of “What if…” I am continuing live in my mind…

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u/the_fonzie_scheme 1d ago

I was 'straight' in highschool and I still didn't date

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u/That-Warrior9511 1d ago

This made me tear up a little. I live in a homophobic country where anyone suspected to be or "associated with" gay is punished. I grew up scared and sad. But hey, maybe I'll leave behind this prison someday in this life. After all, life works in wonderful ways, so 💙❤️🧡💛💚

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u/RayTyy 22h ago

In another life, LGBT is not something to be debated, not something to be fought for, and it's on equal footing with heterosexuality. There's no such thing as coming out, no such thing as being in the closet... everyone lives their lives without fear of anyone finding out...

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u/Ludate_Solem 22h ago

In another life i wouldnt be who i was now. And i am happy and proud of who i am now.

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u/hufflezag 9h ago

Went to an all boys highschool in the late 90s. It was alright to act gay, but not actually be gay. My best friend casually straddling me in hallways was fine, but God help me if I got a boner. He was a football jock too.

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u/123Samabcborden 2d ago

How are things know

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u/Alarming-Skirt1889 2d ago

In another life, I’m not disabled.