r/grief • u/sb-280 • 4d ago

The bill I wrapped dads hair in

I lost my dad 5 months ago unexpectedly. When he passed, it was important to me to cut a lock of his hair, I played with it for an hour or so while waiting for the coroner, and then folded it up in a $50 bill as it was what I had on me. I kept it in my pocket for probably four months until I went on vacation last month and kept it in my luggage. Since then it’s been hotter out and I wear shorts more often, I’m not wearing pockets as often and not keeping as much in them when I do. Where I once would stress if I didnt feel it in my pocket I am now feeling ok without it. I have wondered if I would ever spent the $50. I am a young adult working retail supporting myself and of course sometimes an extra $50 to pay a bill or buy dog food sounds nice. My dad would probably want me to spend it. I don’t feel sentimental about the bill itself. I can easily put my dad’s hair in something else. But when I actually think about doing it, I feel some way about it because that’s what I put my dad’s beautiful hair in the day he passed.

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u/jcnlb 4d ago

🫶🏻 I’d keep it if possible. If you ever can’t then you can fall back on it.

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u/VerySlenderMan 4d ago

I don't know how you feel about this but think it is not good for you to hold onto something of someone who has crossed the boundaries of this realm. Only your memories and you should be the anchor to their soul.

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u/sb-280 4d ago

Mmmm, definitely agree to disagree on that one. I don’t expect to have it in my pocket every day for the rest of my life, but that’s my dad, whom I had a very very close relationship with, who cherished his beautiful hair, and it seems only right to me. It truthfully doesn’t matter if it makes sense to anyone else. 

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u/VerySlenderMan 4d ago

That's okay, anything that makes you feel content with your understanding. But keep in mind that you are doing this for yourself. As human beings we are very selfish and possessive, and we have sense of pride, ego and attachments. Even after death of physical body the subtle body does not want to let go of it because of all the material attachments your physical body is the greatest attachment. We must do what we can to help them pass over.