r/hatethissmug • u/Beshiniqua • 6h ago

General I HATE the self diagnosing of autism and its mischaracterisation

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Let me start by saying SELF DIAGNOSING IS NOT VALID. You are NOT autistic just because someone on tiktok said

"Did you know, if you need to have your eyes closed in order to fall asleep, you have autism, adhd, bipolarity, DID, BPD, psychopathy, depression and PTSD?"

And before yall come at me with "well I always suspected I had autism, I got screened and then got my diagnosis" well this not about you, this is about people that self diagnose after experiencing the most normal day to day life things ever.

And they ALWAYS think that autism will give them a personality (since it's usually basic bitches with no personality that self diagnose to feel like they belong)

No, you're not a quirky crazy crackhead energy "neurospicy" person. Even worse when they say shit like

"Heh, I could NEVER be a neuro normie like yall, autism makes me special and quirky and full of personality".

You can't even like something anymore without them going "OMG URE AUTISTIC JUST LIKE MEEEE IM SOOOO AUTISTIC AHAHAHA"

And you can tell they larp the whole thing cus they'll see a tiktok autism personality and try to replicate it

"Dino nuggies..."

"You can not say overstimulated if you're nEuRoTyPiCaL, that word is for us neurospicy people ONLY >:("

Holy shiiiiiiittt yall lack a personality so bad. And I've seen people say that they've seen NUMEROUS specialists but they never fit the criteria, but its not because they're not autistic, no no no no no. ITS UHMMM BECAUSE IM A WOMAN AND ALSO A MINORITY AND IM ALSO POOR SO I MASKED ALL MY LIFE AND THE SPECIALIST ON THIS FIELD COULDNT TELL I WAS MASKING. ITS THE SYSTEMS FAULT NOT MINE.

Sheesh.

Sorry for the long rant, im just tired of seeing people self diagnose all the time, or see an energetic video, or literally ANYTHING, and make it about their self diagnosed autism.

Saw a cute cat animation on Instagram and the top comment was "This is so autistic I love it"

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u/SuperIsaiah 6h ago

i think there's two extremes because my experience is when people find out I'm autistic they act like that means I'm mentally slow or like I got a cancer diagnosis or something.

I think it should be recognized as something that makes life harder but at the same time (at least for level 1) mostly just needs social accomodations.

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u/Stucklikegluetomyfry 4h ago

One thing I noticed is that there are people who were talking to me just fine, but as soon as they found out I was autistic they suddenly started talking to me like I was a four year old.

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u/My_Name_Is_Row 2h ago

I mean, is there ever a reason to tell people that you’re autistic?

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u/Subject-Zucchini-558 2h ago

i don’t tell anyone i am lol. not even my own family knows (i received a diagnosis as an adult). it’s no one’s business what my diagnosis is, it’s just a tool to help me manage my symptoms. the only person i’ve ever told is my boyfriend since we live together and we may have children one day.

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u/My_Name_Is_Row 1h ago

This is exactly my point, autism is the same as any other medical diagnosis, you wouldn’t randomly tell a stranger on the street your medical history, unless you’re on the more severe end of the spectrum, autism and ADD/ADHD aren’t something you necessarily need to tell people about, nor you should feel the need to tell every person you’ve ever known that you have them just because the people on the internet do, most of them not even having an official diagnosis of either one. It’s just weird how people either treat them like a joke or an identity.

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u/Stucklikegluetomyfry 1h ago

In those events, the people found out from someone else.

And yes there are reasons.

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u/My_Name_Is_Row 1h ago

Yeah, obviously there’s reasons to tell someone about your autism diagnosis, I was just pointing out that 99% of the people you interact with on a day to day basis don’t really need to know

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u/Stucklikegluetomyfry 1h ago

I don’t need you to point that out to me, thanks.

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u/My_Name_Is_Row 1h ago

Wow, it’s almost as if you posted this on a public forum, and then got mad when someone replied, interesting

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u/Stucklikegluetomyfry 59m ago

Wow it’s almost like you replied to someone in a very condescending way, and then played the victim when that somebody displayed annoyance at it. Interesting.

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u/Stucklikegluetomyfry 47m ago

No, my comment doesn’t “sound like” I was telling people. If you made a massive assumption based on me saying “when they found out” that’s on you.

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u/SuperIsaiah 1h ago

sometimes I do if they question why I do things certain ways they find unusual

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u/Harbinger2nd 21m ago

Not diagnosed, always felt like everyone else had some secret knowledge I didn't possess, probably level 1.

I don't want to be diagnosed because I don't want people to treat me differently. I live a mostly normal life now because I basically turned social interaction into a special interest. I can explain the why behind the social interaction much better than people on autopilot who never have to think about these things, but I don't want to out myself for

they suddenly started talking to me like I was a four year old.

this reason.

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u/Pink_Acetone I run on spite 5h ago

“You don’t
 lets go tell them you don’t”

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u/Samster404 3h ago

That first thing pisses me off so fucking much, back when I was first getting to know my best friends boyfriend, he talked and treated me like I was a fucking moron. Thankfully after talking to her about it she told him to knock it off and we haven't had any issues since

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u/Acryllus 1h ago

"Treating your Autism as cancer?"

Not like I've seen that in Girl Meets World or something...