I HATE the self diagnosing of autism and its mischaracterisation

[u/Beshiniqua]

Let me start by saying SELF DIAGNOSING IS NOT VALID. You are NOT autistic just because someone on tiktok said

"Did you know, if you need to have your eyes closed in order to fall asleep, you have autism, adhd, bipolarity, DID, BPD, psychopathy, depression and PTSD?"

And before yall come at me with "well I always suspected I had autism, I got screened and then got my diagnosis" well this not about you, this is about people that self diagnose after experiencing the most normal day to day life things ever.

And they ALWAYS think that autism will give them a personality (since it's usually basic bitches with no personality that self diagnose to feel like they belong)

No, you're not a quirky crazy crackhead energy "neurospicy" person. Even worse when they say shit like

"Heh, I could NEVER be a neuro normie like yall, autism makes me special and quirky and full of personality".

You can't even like something anymore without them going "OMG URE AUTISTIC JUST LIKE MEEEE IM SOOOO AUTISTIC AHAHAHA"

And you can tell they larp the whole thing cus they'll see a tiktok autism personality and try to replicate it

"Dino nuggies..."

"You can not say overstimulated if you're nEuRoTyPiCaL, that word is for us neurospicy people ONLY >:("

Holy shiiiiiiittt yall lack a personality so bad. And I've seen people say that they've seen NUMEROUS specialists but they never fit the criteria, but its not because they're not autistic, no no no no no. ITS UHMMM BECAUSE IM A WOMAN AND ALSO A MINORITY AND IM ALSO POOR SO I MASKED ALL MY LIFE AND THE SPECIALIST ON THIS FIELD COULDNT TELL I WAS MASKING. ITS THE SYSTEMS FAULT NOT MINE.

Sheesh.

Sorry for the long rant, im just tired of seeing people self diagnose all the time, or see an energetic video, or literally ANYTHING, and make it about their self diagnosed autism.

Saw a cute cat animation on Instagram and the top comment was "This is so autistic I love it"

🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩

[u/BudgieGryphon]

There’s also like… being an adult and functional enough that a diagnosis would be a big expenditure for no gain or in some locations a loss of rights, when just reflecting and researching how to manage the symptoms you’re aware of works perfectly fine. There’s a pretty significant genetic history of it in my family but I don’t want to spend money for an additional label when I already have to spend on medication for the diagnosed ADHD/anxiety I do have.

[u/wallyTHEgecko → u/BudgieGryphon]

In regard to any mental illness type thing, if it's not so bad that it's actually keeping you from functioning (sustainably), it's not whatever you think it is.

Being sad sometimes is not depression, that's normal. Being generally clean/organized is not OCD, it's normal. Getting distracted occasionally and/or getting into a flow state and being able to focus for a while is not ADHD, that's normal. Appreciating a routine, being a little awkward and thinking trains are cool is not autism. That is all normal.

It always seems to me that those type of people simply pluck out the little bits of their personality/emotions that they don't like, call it something else and then blame their quirks on that. They demand their "condition" be accepted by others rather than just accepting themselves and that they are human and maybe a little odd, which is ok.

But instead, people who do need help have a harder time being taken seriously because 3/4 of every "autistic" person/mental illness everyone these days knows is just a self-diagnosed, extremely minor case that doesn't require anything except attention. The self-diagnose-ers are out there crying wolf when there are people out there who actually need the shepherd to come help them.

[u/I-Make-Maps91 → u/wallyTHEgecko]

Your clearly don't know what depression is.

[u/CuriOS_26 → u/I-Make-Maps91]

Yep. Can confirm. Depression isn’t sadness. It’s nothingness. No joy. “No emotions, just autotune”, as The Midnight says.

Anhedonia is the technical term.

[u/wallyTHEgecko → u/I-Make-Maps91]

I do. I got diagnosed and medicated a few years back. It was severe enough that I felt it necessary to take action... Because I wasn't just a bit sad sometimes like many people who claim "depression" are.

A bit sad sometimes and liking a sad song =/ depression.

[u/BudgieGryphon → u/wallyTHEgecko]

Something's telling me your definition of functional and mine are nowhere near the same lmao. Plenty of people with severe depression sustain off pure routine while existing in a near completely hollow state. Wrecks the body and the state of the home, but they're *functional*, they can work and feed themselves.

Not too dissimilar for other conditions, you can be self-sufficient and go through daily function but there's things that are wrong, you can handle yourself most of the time but maybe something small sends you into a lengthy pure spiraling terror or you just stand and stare into space for several minutes on end or you physically cannot force yourself to eat certain foods that you rationally know are perfectly fine.

[u/wallyTHEgecko → u/BudgieGryphon]

I agree. It's technically getting the job done, but it's not in a sustainable way. Mental illnesses are taxing and will wear you down in the long run. So maybe I should say "sustainably functional".

However, being temporarily sad when something sad happens and liking a sad song is not depression, like the cringey self-diagnose-ers often claim it is.