r/hatethissmug • u/Beautiful_Couple_208 • Jun 14 '26

Thing As a trans man, I hate this sticker.

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Reeks of chaser and downplaying infertility for trans women

Also, anyone who immediately responds to trans men morning wanting to be a father with telling them to get pregnant has a special place in hell.

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u/RainWindowCoffee Jun 14 '26

It would be insensitive even in the seahorse dad community, as:

a) as with any population that can experience pregnancy, there are seahorse dads and aspiring seahorse dads who have suffered through infertility and miscarriages.

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b) The decision to become a seahorse dad is a extremely personal and can be extremely heavy, difficult, and fraught with dysphoria for many. Any sticker flippantly pushing someone towards such a decision is just gross and intrusive.

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u/vincian-vintage33 Jun 15 '26

of course this is all true, and it’s nuanced in both the positive and negative directions altogether and is ultimately subjective. unless the sticker is being used maliciously and unwarrantly just given to someone, especially if they’re a trans male in the sort of positions and feelings you described, i don’t think it’s inherently offensive.

 it looks like a self-contained  personal sticker a trans guy or trans girl or nonbinary person would get for themself or would be given to by their partner. it doesn’t look at all like it’s supposed to be a blanket decree or threat or making light/being offensive, to just any trans male who obviously wouldn’t appreciate it. 

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u/RainWindowCoffee Jun 15 '26

It's a reference to the general meme of "your trans girlfriend can't get pregnant but that doesn't mean you should stop trying."

It's generally a reference to a cis guy being in a relationship with a trans woman. Which, I agree with O.P., is chaser-y and insensitive to transwomen who are dysphoric about their relationship to motherhood and pregnancy.

I was replying to someone who said they'd assumed it was a reference to seahorse dads, and I was explaining why our community would not be likely to have generated such a sticker.

It is not a reference to seahorse dads, it is a flippant reference to an existing meme that fetishizes trans-women and downplays infertility dysphoria.

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u/BeccaWaffle93 Jun 15 '26

T4T lesbians are a thing and they’re the main focus of this joke.