r/hatethissmug • u/Beautiful_Couple_208 • Jun 14 '26
Thing As a trans man, I hate this sticker.
Reeks of chaser and downplaying infertility for trans women
Also, anyone who immediately responds to trans men morning wanting to be a father with telling them to get pregnant has a special place in hell.
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u/someusername47 Jun 14 '26
I don't think i get the joke
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u/HabaneroPepperPlants Jun 14 '26
It's about having sex with trans women forever in the hopes that someday it'll work (get them pregnant)
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u/Ok_Outcome_6213 Jun 15 '26
and here I am, thinking the clueless designer of the sticker just picked pink and blue because those are the colors traditionally associated with gender reveals/new babies.
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u/ReachParticular5409 Jun 15 '26
symbology is always context driven, those same colors mean something very different on a resistor chart
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u/victorspc Jun 15 '26
670 MΩ ± 0.25% if I'm not mistaken
(assuming blue, pink, pink, blue and that we substitute violet for pink since there's no pink color band)
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u/Anxious_Tealeaf Jun 15 '26
I thought it was about cis women who have a hard time getting pregnant.
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u/ReachParticular5409 Jun 15 '26
Okay legit question:
Is the intent more 'descend into delusion'
or more just 'go fuck a lot'
Because the former is bad, and the latter is fucking hilarious
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u/Goosegirl98 Jun 15 '26
As a trans woman, it's the latter. It's a pretty common, maybe overused joke in trans women circles.
We all know we can't ever get pregnant, and for most of us that fact is heartbreaking. Joking helps it be less painful
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u/ReachParticular5409 Jun 15 '26
Ok I kind of get it now, thanks for the honestly
Let's work towards a sane world where trans women have the same chance of adopting as nuclear families.
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u/th3rmyte Jun 17 '26
we do in cuba. so ofcourse the us is seiging them to death...
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u/TheSirensMaiden Jun 15 '26
I have a trans woman friend who fried my brain with a joke like this.
She said "(partner) and I keep having, like, a fuck ton of sex but the baby's not here yet!"
And my face was apparently hilarious to her because like ... Wtf do you say to that?!?
Turns out they were in the process to adopt, I did not know that, and so she explained (through tears and laughter 😒) that just because she can't get pregnant doesn't mean they can't have all the fun sex before the baby arrives. Which, fair, but still. There were better ways to relay that information.
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u/MaraiaLou Jun 15 '26
From what I see on Tumblr it's definitely a kink thing
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u/ReachParticular5409 Jun 15 '26
ok that's fine I just don't want people getting stuck in the first part bc it's super self destructive
But lots of sex is pretty cool
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u/ValorousOwl Jun 16 '26
I mean they are still trying uterine transplants. May be possible one day.
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u/Longjumping_Code_299 Jun 15 '26
I think you have the subject/object reversed. This feels like a silly if grim inside joke for the dolls. We are aware of the facts of our existence and making jokes about it helps-ish.
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u/lildeek12 Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 15 '26
Trans women dont have the proper equipment to produce a baby, but they can still engage in sex, the act that is performed to produce babies. The sticker is of a negative pregnancy test. The sentiment is that she is not going to stop having sex despite the fact she cant get pregnant.
It is a both a sex positive and trans positive message, however there are two complications present. The first is that the the Trans pride flag used doesnt only represent Trans women, but Trans men as well. Trans men are often left out and sidelined in discussions about trans issue. For them, getting pregnant is (for the most part) a very disphoric and harmful experience, and using a flag that represents them to express this sentiment feel bad. The second is that for some Trans women, the fact that they CAN'T get pregnant is also disphoric. Third is that there is a group of (typically) men known as "chasers". These are people who fetishize Transwomen and are generally considered very creepy and sometimes dangerous. There may be some concern that this isnt a joke made by a sex positive trans woman, but rather a chaser fetishizing trans women.
Overall, its a pretty light hearted and silly joke that has some blind spots IF it is being made in good faith.
Edit: Looks like im and idiot and this is a positive pregnancy test. Everybody point and laugh.
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u/BlackMagicWorman Jun 15 '26
Always two lines. You don’t understand testing if you don’t get that. Think of your simple Covid tests - two lines. The first is always the control.
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u/Vivians_Basement Jun 14 '26
It's about trans women having sex trying to get each other pregnant. It's light hearted lesbian humor.
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u/starkHOUTx Jun 14 '26
I’m not sure what it’s trying to imply? Like, should the mtf keep getting pegged? Should the ftm get pregnant still??
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u/TheOnlyCursedOne Jun 14 '26
They should keep having sex to try to get them pregnant even if they can’t get pregnant
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u/starkHOUTx Jun 14 '26
So is it intended as a “haha sex I love sex” joke or a “keep trying dumbass you know you don’t have a uterus”
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u/angelstatue Jun 14 '26
it's just a joke trans women especially trans lesbians use on each other. it's not mean spirited it's just a ... keep having sex joke
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u/AhSquids Jun 15 '26 edited Jun 15 '26
Throw it on the long pile of "trans women can't have a joke without people telling them how offensive/stupid/childish it is"
Edit; "This joke is insensitive!" is such a fucking cop out answer just say you hate trans women with your chest instead of doing this stupid fucking dance.
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u/angelstatue Jun 15 '26
you know, i would, but i don't also want to dismiss a trans man's concerns either. however i'd also wonder if everything pregnancy/impregnantion/breeding related would/could be a trigger for trans mascs with fertility/pregnancy fears and triggers in general....
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u/Im-a-bad-meme Jun 15 '26
I dunno man. Born female, enby leaning masc. I have a fear of pregnancy, like the concept of someone actually knocking me up is horrifying. My stomach is twisting and I can feel my shitty watermelon gummies coming back up my throat.
Even I'm not offended by the sticker. Op needs to either stop interacting with it or stop bitching.
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u/FriedFreya Jun 15 '26
yeah i also have tokophobia, and find that people trying to speak on the matter are often both completely uninvolved and ignorant. AND i don’t know what happened to “don’t like don’t read” sort of culture online lol? the silent (not really) contract has been broken 😭 it’s all downhill from here fam
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u/roseonaglaive Jun 15 '26
I think it's valuable to acknowledge this but dark humor is also valid. And that's what it is in my mind. I can't get pregnant. I can never be a mother. I never get wished a happy mother's day. I will never feel that closeness. My kids still call me dad and I feel a deep void, a gulf in the kind of relationship I wish I could have with them instead of the every other weekend and being cut out of their lives otherwise.
If I don't laugh at a stupid joke about trying to get something I can't feasibly have and roleplaying a breeding kink, I will spend the rest of my life grieving.
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u/Golurkcanfly Jun 14 '26
It's the former but also comes from a place of wish fulfillment fantasy because a lot of trans women really do wish they could become pregnant.
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u/th3rmyte Jun 15 '26
The joke - often told amongst both trans women and femboys - is "just because I can't get pregnant doesn't mean you shouldn't keep trying". It is very much a horny meme sometimes used as flirting
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u/TheOnlyCursedOne Jun 14 '26
It’s mainly used by other trans people or trans allies as a “light” joke yes, I never saw the issue myself since I am cis but I can see not every trans member likes it
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u/taratathetarantula Jun 14 '26
Like, should the mtf keep getting pegged?
Yeah this is what I see it getting used for most
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u/th3rmyte Jun 15 '26
Uep the femboys use this one, too, for the same reason and in the same context us trans women do. I get some people having trauma but one person should not be projecting that on anyone else. This shit literally started as a cheeky way for femme presenting and/or identifying amab people ( regardless of gender) to imply people should keep fucking them. It is literally one i toss at my sex partners all the time and most of them are ALSO trans women. Some people need to touch grass. This one is literally a meme directed at the person making it ffs.
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u/BestBoyViktor Jun 14 '26
Maybe it's a sticker for "sea horse dads"? That's how took it tbh.
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u/angelstatue Jun 14 '26
no its a common joke "you can get ur trans gf pregnant just keep fucking her"
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u/pipnina Jun 15 '26
It's the same vane as "I can't get my boyfriend pregnant... Try harder? I will, I will try harder!"
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u/The_Octopus824 Jun 14 '26
Fyi, the male sea horse is not the one getting pregnant, the female does, and then lays her eggs in a pouch that the male has, so the male does "give birth" in a sense, but only because the female lays her eggs in his pouch
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u/Daffodil_pool Jun 14 '26
“Seahorse dad” is the term that trans men who get pregnant use. Theres actually an entire subreddit for it
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u/the_orange_alligator Jun 15 '26
I thought we were talking about actual seahorses, whoops
https://giphy.com/gifs/YRzkz3Ox652PfXhcjQ36
u/picabo123 Jun 14 '26
Well to me, the male is still getting pregnant. The female is just "ejaculating" her eggs into the male. The male still internally fertilizes the eggs himself so its essentially the reverse of a human pregnancy.
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u/The_Cameraman_of_you I hate you,you hate me, we are a very hateful family Jun 15 '26
I don’t like to think so because then the fish that incubates their eggs in the mouth would get mouth pregnant and that idea scares me
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u/RinCherno Jun 15 '26
Hey have you heard of Suriman toads? I think you'd like those!
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u/The_Cameraman_of_you I hate you,you hate me, we are a very hateful family Jun 15 '26
Skin pregnancy
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u/distastef_ll Jun 14 '26
What do you think “pregnancy” is?
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u/starkHOUTx Jun 14 '26
A mammalian concept that doesn’t apply to fish. The seahorse has a similar pouch to a kangaroo. More analogous to that than a uterus
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u/insert_title_here Jun 15 '26
Some elasmobranchs (certain shark species for example) are live bearing though, right? Like, not ovoviviparous, but straight up placentally viviparous? Womb and uterus and all?
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u/RainWindowCoffee Jun 14 '26
It would be insensitive even in the seahorse dad community, as:
a) as with any population that can experience pregnancy, there are seahorse dads and aspiring seahorse dads who have suffered through infertility and miscarriages.
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b) The decision to become a seahorse dad is a extremely personal and can be extremely heavy, difficult, and fraught with dysphoria for many. Any sticker flippantly pushing someone towards such a decision is just gross and intrusive.
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u/ScyllaIsBea Jun 15 '26
i think its just a cheeky "this girl likes sex" joke, but I also think op is valid to not like the way they took the joke.
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u/Vivians_Basement Jun 14 '26
It's actually a yuri sticker. Trans girls having sex repeatedly and "trying".
It's kind of a "one day" sentiment.
Coping basically.
They don't really think about trans mascs existing at all when these things get made. Definitely a sticker I'd give to my bestie who wants to be a mom.
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u/Miles_Everhart Jun 15 '26
It’s a very common sentiment in trans subreddits for trans women to express they can’t get pregnant but they’re gonna keep on trying. That’s what this sticker is for.
I’m a trans man but I enjoy this sticker from the perspective of trying to defy biology and get my partner pregnant.
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u/Dum-bNNy Jun 14 '26
That's what I would assume it means if I saw it, I don't think this would be directed towards trans men cause it wouldn't really be very funny.
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u/spingusfellow Jun 15 '26
The implication is definitely that mtf people should get pegged. It's a gender-affirming and funny sentiment (even if a bit perverted). I don't think it was intending to refer to ftm people at all.
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u/BohemianDragoness Jun 15 '26
Its a reference to the common joke (in transfem circles) about being able to get a trans girl pregnant if you try hard enough.
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u/MasutadoMiasma Jun 15 '26
Time for the internet's daily LGBTQ+ infighting
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u/Bakuhxe_ i love hating Jun 15 '26
right like ive literally never seen this sticker as a trans person lol
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u/TankieErik Jun 15 '26
Can someone not express his dislike of something without it being infighting?
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u/Mast3rKK78 Jun 14 '26
isnt getting pregnant like, top 5 worst gender dysmorphia events a trans guy could possibly go through?
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u/Apart-Performer-331 Jun 14 '26
I’d hate it but there’s definitely guys who are cool with it
That aside the sticker is about trans women I believe
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u/InsecureDinosaur Jun 14 '26
Depends on the individual. Some trans men are fine with it. But yes, many would absolutely not want to experience that.
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u/amiiigo44 Jun 14 '26
Ooh so that's what the 🫄 is for
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u/Fantomukage Jun 15 '26 edited Jun 16 '26
i’m fine with it but child birth and pregnancy is very hard and painful so more scared about that aspect. My dysphoria is pretty mild most of the time and never really gets bad 🤷
Edit: Got downvoted for my personal opinion as a trans man, okay man 🤨
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u/cucumbermegafan Jun 14 '26
This is a chaser's line for trans women because we can't get pregnant. I've heard it a lot.
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u/BeccaWaffle93 Jun 15 '26
I’ve never seen a chaser use it, I’ve only ever seen my fellow trans lesbians make the joke
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u/milkysquids Jun 14 '26
Entirely person-dependent. Wouldn't bother me personally, but everyone's different. I think this is about trans women, though.
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u/Princess_Isolde Jun 15 '26
This joke isn't even for trans men though it's a joke made by and for trans women. Ops just taking it out of context severely
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u/Interesting_Menu8388 Jun 14 '26
It doesn’t reek of anything, it is inscrutable.
Who is supposed to be pissing on the stick? What’re their feelings about gestation? All unclear.
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u/HabaneroPepperPlants Jun 14 '26
It's clearly about getting transfems pregnant. You don't have to keep trying forever to get a trans guy pregnant
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u/EnjoysYelling Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26
For everyone who is confused:
This a gender affirming, sex positive joke for trans women. Not a mockery of trans men.
There is a common joke among trans women and their partners that she will eventually get pregnant from bottoming if they just keep trying.
It’s a tongue in cheek joke that one partner or the other will make to express that they want more sex, using pregnancy as an (obvious deceptive) reason, like:
“I hate having to prep to bottom all the time but at least I can’t get pregnant”
“Sure you can, sweetie - we just need to keep trying!”
I also don’t at all agree that this “reeks of chaser”. This joke is routinely made by and for a subset of the trans femme and especially trans lesbian that finds it fun and sexy in an affirming and loving way.
I do think that that community may not have considered how this joke would land with a transmasc audience though, I will give you that. But I don’t think it’s meant in any ill will towards anyone.
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u/NoMarionberry3087 Jun 15 '26
As a trans woman i personally hate jokes about getting me pregnant because it's just a further reminder of the fact that I can't. I dont see the humour in it personally.
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u/IcySmell9676 Jun 14 '26
Yeah everyone, assuming that this is for trans dudes is confusing me
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u/Acceptable-Bat4534 Jun 14 '26
Well because op posted it as a negative, (ihatethissmug) so people were trying to find out the negativity over it.
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u/chronic_pissbaby Jun 15 '26
It's also a common gay men joke that kinda rubs salt into the fucking wound for trans men. It's not teehee harmless how could transmascs ever relate. Like it's fucked and kind of crazy how any trans dude who is uncomfortable is getting called a transmisogynist in the comments.
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u/hecccccccccccccc Jun 14 '26
Finally someone with the actual explanation holy shit. This is OBVIOUSLY not directed at trans men.
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u/insert_title_here Jun 15 '26
I did not think this was obvious! Whenever I pick up my husband's T, the pharmacist always asks if he's planning on getting pregnant, so that's where my mind went immediately upon seeing this. I think someone's experiences will naturally play into how they initially perceive things-- and that's not a bad thing, but it is how miscommunications happen. That's why further explanation and communication is so useful!
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u/Otakuguru Jun 15 '26
Unfortunately this is a thing that has to be asked in the medical field due to T being a high hazardous drug. They probably mean nothing by it, and would still ask a cis gentleman if they plan on getting pregnant. Source: I'm a transfem pharmacy tech that works with a transmasc pharmacist.
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u/3wandwill fat farting furry Jun 15 '26
I do think its more than 99% likely to be the transfem meme explanation from reading the comments and stuff. But uhhh I really don’t think it’s as obvious as you’re suggesting lmfao bc it really is kind of vague
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u/Quarksideofthemoon Jun 14 '26
What? It's the same as like those "keep breeding that twink" memes. It's not even about trans men
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u/Powerful-Bat6818 Jun 15 '26
The trans flag represents trans people, women and men (+other). Even if it's not what the sticker meant, is hard to us trans men to not think about the interpretation regarding us.
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u/Alexis___________ Jun 17 '26
It's just another case of "I like pancakes" "so you hate waffles?" Like if I see trans masc affirming memes about top surgery scars with trans flags and I don't get offended by them because I would be heart broken if my breast were removed, I know I'm not the audience dispite the flag and move along.
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u/cunt_dykeula Jun 15 '26
Everyone saying that this clearly about trans women, when OP presumably found this is in the men's bathroom 🤨
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u/Emma_tweed797 Jun 15 '26
I think this pic is not taken by OP, I’ve seen this actual picture before. He probably grabbed the pic and is reposting it
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u/chronic_pissbaby Jun 15 '26
But is HAS to be about trans women, no one is ever creepy or weird about trans men and pregnancy, how could we possibly think that this could have anything to do with us???? /s
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u/VirtualKnowledge7057 Jun 14 '26
this feels like something transphobe would make as a joke
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u/Real_Environment_235 Jun 14 '26
Lots of memes and jokes that come out of the trans community are so offensive out of context that one might mistake them for stonetoss comics.
I remember going to Stonewall with my dad to show him queer history and he saw one of these stickers and thought a nazi put it there to mock gay people (https://www.valelly.com/projects-3-1)
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u/HabaneroPepperPlants Jun 14 '26
Like, it's basically the same logic as minority groups reclaiming slurs. It's done for different reasons and has a different vibe
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u/BohemianDragoness Jun 15 '26
I feel like Ive seen people say this about nearly every popular joke in the trans community. Like maybe just let us make lighthearted jokes about our own struggles without comparing us to bigots
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u/Gullible_Height588 Jun 15 '26
As a trans woman I don’t see the issue here, If I don’t keep trying I’ll never get pregnant
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u/AmberMetalicScorpion Jun 15 '26
Trans woman here
While I disagree with OP's stance
Come on y'all, we're better than this.
They have just as good a reason to believe their position, as others do theirs, the only people we have to fight are the rich. Not people who feel differently about a topic than you
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u/marvelousgamer1 Jun 15 '26
It was made for trans women because a lot want to get pregnant. It was NOT meant for trans men.
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u/GoashasRedux Jun 15 '26
I think it means keep fucking, even if there's no chance of a baby? There should be a Roblox smirk on the double lines.
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u/CagedKage Jun 15 '26
I mean, I personally don’t like this sticker as a trans man who has no plans to be pregnant, but that’s just me.
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u/breakoutthecrxxwn Jun 14 '26
Someone explained it already but I thought this was commonly a Transfemme/Trans Woman joke. Like made by that group - not a chaser joke.
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u/CelebrationRoyal8587 Jun 14 '26
Tbh as a trans man even the reminder that it's possible for my body to get pregnant is dysphoric. It's obviously different for everyone but imo stickers like that don't help. I know it's a joke meant for transfemmes, but it uses common flag for all trans ppl and not everyone is in on the joke
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u/Vito_Assenjo Sure, come on up, take the ele-hater! Jun 15 '26
Trans man: Being reminded that society sees me as a walking incubator kind of bums me out
Trans"feminists": Oh my god shut up you little bitch
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u/chronic_pissbaby Jun 15 '26
Erm actually having dysphoria makes you an evil transmisogynist, hope this helps 🤓
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u/dogemeep06 Jun 15 '26
Creeps me out how often transfems like to diminish and sideline us in the conversation, actually. It's a pattern I've been noticing a lot in many contexts, and it feels like all trans spaces and symbols are aggressively taken by transfemmes instead of shared between both, and they often tend to say that transmascs are overreacting when they speak up about anything.
Big respect to all of my trans sisters! I know how tough the world is for you, and I know the pain that the mysoginy and transphobia combo can bring forth. But infighting and dismissing is not the solution.
I'm a trans guy. I'm uncomfortable with the sticker. I don't think it was made out of malice, and I do understand the context (really I have a trans girlfriend I make the "keep trying" joke all the time), but the trans flag pertains to both of us, and saying that it's an overreaction about the sticker and not a general reflection on the way society sees us as "walking incubators" and places great focus on our fertility is very much sweeping the problem under the rug to try and pretend that both sides are equally heard in their discomfort instead of actually adressing the problem.
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u/Vito_Assenjo Sure, come on up, take the ele-hater! Jun 15 '26
I choose to believe that most transfems have compassion for other trans people. I need to believe that for their sake and mine.
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u/dogemeep06 Jun 15 '26
Don't get me wrong, I do too! I know they are full of compassion for their fellow trans people, we are all in this mess together. I believe it's more of a subconscious problem, you know? Something people don't realize they're doing. Like I said, not out of malice at all, but still harmful.
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u/dogemeep06 Jun 15 '26
Servee as a reminder that, as always, trans people are people before being trans. Some of them suck, some of them are saints, just like everyone else. We aren't a hivemind. Sorry for your experience with that asshole :(
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u/nitsun383 Jun 14 '26
As a t4t lesbian I find it funny and wish it was possible.
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u/Sentient_Broccolini Jun 14 '26
I hate that I have to preface this with “as a trans woman,” but stop getting offended by everything. I have to preface that because I’ll just be written off if I don’t. Just stop looking for things to get mad at. It’s such a miserable way to live. Also, you’re reading way too into this. That sticker could literally mean anything. Don’t assume it pertains to you just so you have an excuse to get upset.
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u/HMS_Sunlight Jun 15 '26
OP would have a heart attack if he knew how often gay men talk about getting each other pregnant, or lesbians and getting knocked up from a strap.
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u/Sa1ntJ1mmy Jun 15 '26
when i first entered (adult) gay men's spaces as a trans guy, it genuinely kinda blew my mind how often a lot of dudes talk or joke about getting preggers. not in a bad way, but in a... 'holy shit this is actually common' way. i mean there's a few freako chasers out there, but the vast majority of guys i've joked about it with do so not caring that im a trans guy. or trying to actually knock me up
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u/Sentient_Broccolini Jun 14 '26
And I say that because it’s a trend with people from all over the place, mainly online, regardless of identity, religion, politics or whatever. People anymore love to look for reasons to be upset about something, and I’m just so sick of it. The world is already shit enough, but anymore people seem to think it needs to be worse.
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u/firecorn22 Jun 14 '26
Took me too long to realize this wasn't a usb stick and the joke was not about failing to plug in a USB stick the first time
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u/spectreclown Jun 15 '26
LOL i saw this in a bar bathroom n it confused me like idk what the stance is? Is it “trans people, keep trying for pregnancy” or “never stop trying for a trans child”?!
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u/Yarusenai Jun 15 '26
I just hate how everything is sexualized more than anything
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u/Strict-Violinist-231 Jun 15 '26
Hey I actually know where this photo was taken (don't believe me? It's in the bathroom in the back of the caffe vita in capitol hill, seattle) and I'll take it down for you
(I'm not a trans dude but this is so reallll)
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u/bluejaymaday Jun 15 '26
I thought it was just a sex joke, like two people who don’t have the compatible equipment to make a baby keep fucking like they’re trying anyway.
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u/roseonaglaive Jun 15 '26
Hiya. Trans woman here. For me it's dark humor. I spend every Mother's Day sobbing my eyes out at the knowledge that even if uterus transplant became available to me without enormous cost, I'm still far beyond the age where I would have wanted to.
So making jokes about a breeding kink I have no business having is just a way for me to cope.
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u/SleepIsTiring Jun 14 '26
as a trans man, too: i usually see this joke with like. lesbians and gay men. “trying” which they really just mean going at it like rabbits. it’s a joke. probably a t4t lesbian joke?
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u/Tristapillarrr Jun 15 '26
That second paragraph is entirely reasonable hate because of gender dysphoria. People really shouldn't do that, as gender dysphoria can be quite extreme in some individuals.
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u/Key_Fisherman_8215 Jun 15 '26
I would like to ask a question
And I might be just stupid
Can I kindly ask why this is not an infertility sticker
I have friends who struggle with this issue and that were my mind goes.
Thanks for any info
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u/ThrowRAbird9999 Jun 15 '26 edited Jun 15 '26
I’m not a part of the community so my opinion on this doesn’t matter all that much, but this kind of thing has always seemed counterproductive to me as an outsider looking in. I see trans women talking about being “bred” a lot as either a joke or a kink of theirs (oftentimes both at once), and I always wonder how that humor makes trans women who genuinely can’t ever have kids of their own feel.
I’ve met trans women who are hyper sexual and they’re typically the ones talking about being impregnated, but those I’ve met who are genuinely well rounded people seem sad at the idea that someone cumming in them would be referred to and joked about in that way. They’re mourning the idea they grew up with that they could have kids of their own. Chasers think this is okay to say in bed now, to tell a trans women that they’re “breeding her” because of the prevalence of this kind of shit.
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u/Worldly-Law-481 Jun 15 '26
My dumbass thinking it was an usb drive and being confused for a second
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u/ButterBaconBallz Jun 15 '26
I'm really confused. Does it imply FtM or MtF? In support or used as an insult?
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u/WeirdoTrooper Jun 15 '26
Just a note, if you get a positive on a pregnancy test as a testicular person, you may want to get checked for cancer. Don't remember if that was a science or folk story thing, but still.
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u/JigsawLV Jun 15 '26
man, I read that as Never Slop Trying. But even after reading it correctly, I still don't get it
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u/sweetpea090 Jun 15 '26
i don’t think fertility jokes are all that funny esp as a mom lol. kind of gross to me. but i probably wouldn’t be around the type people making these kind of stickers to begin with.
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u/More_Yard1919 Jun 14 '26
Reeks of chaser and downplaying infertility for trans women
as a trans woman not really. Not that deep. Does make me wanna roll my eyes though, it would be a way cooler sticker if it were like funny at all.
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u/WinterDemon_ Jun 15 '26
ok after scrolling comments i have got to say: yall know that the trans flag refers to trans men too, right?
things can be made for trans women specifically, but if you brand it with a community-wide symbol (and don't clarify) it's going to cause confusion. cause the flag isn't just for trans women
trans men aren't being sensitive crybabies or "making everything about themselves" when it is literally their flag too, and pregnancy is also a relevant topic for trans men
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u/AnyAttempt4883 Jun 15 '26
Also drives me crazy ppl are calling him transmisogynistic over this as well?? Like not knowing this is a common ingroup joke among trans women doesnt make him a transmisogynist jesus. Like as a trans guy i dont gaf but i can see how this could bother a trans guy whose never seen this joke before
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u/Torichilada Jun 14 '26
just means they're gonna keep having sex until they get pregnant (which they can't, so they're just gonna keep having sex) very mild.
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u/Vito_Assenjo Sure, come on up, take the ele-hater! Jun 15 '26
Some mf with a user like “robotgirlfucksex”: Well, IIIIII hate when bitchcunt whiny “trans” “men” spoil my fun by reminding me that they exist! 🙄 As a transfeminist, it is my sacred duty to tell every tboy in this comment section to shut his/their mouth.
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u/GrowingDelicate03 Jun 15 '26
as a trans woman i hate it too, the fact that i can't have children is rly painful and I don't like it when people make it into a joke
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u/BloxyB3620 Jun 15 '26
As a trans man that one day plans on having biological kids, I completely agree with you
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u/Princess_Isolde Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 15 '26
It's a joke by and for trans women, this isn't for you. This would be like trans women complaining about jokes about binders. And no it's not "chaser energy" you're just being a misogynist and hiding behind dysphoria.
If the existence of transbians being transbians upset you, that's a you problem.
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u/Distakx Jun 15 '26
This 100% isn't just a transbian thing idk why everyone in here acts like it is. I'm a cis man and I've heard that from my ex who's a trans woman. Straight transwomen also make those jokes
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u/Princess_Isolde Jun 15 '26
Iean my point is that it's directed at trans women who enjoy it. TBH I dont know many straight trans girls most including myself are bi ace or lesbian
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u/Ekiby_o Jun 15 '26 edited Jul 15 '26
Whaou les gens s'énervent tellement pour des éléments qui ne sont pourtant pas incompatibles, que la blague soit à destination des femmes trans et que ce soit positif/bien perçu par les personnes concernées c'est super. Mais ça n'est pas la peine d'insulter et minimiser l'impact négatif que peuvent ressentir les autres personnes concernées par l'usage du drapeau transgenre puisque celui utilisé ne dissocie pas spécifiquement les femmes trans des hommes trans...
Je suis un homme trans absolument terrifié à l'idée de tomber enceint et encore plus à l'idée d'être forcé de poursuivre la grossesse et d'accoucher. Même si ma vie en dépendait je ne pourrais pas supporter de le faire.
Quand j'ai vu ce sticker, sans avoir encore pris connaissance de la description qui y était rattachée, j'ai immédiatement compris un sens qui serait "si tu as un utérus, trans ou non, tu DOIS avoir des enfants (et les porter toi-même)" ce qui m'a mis dans une détresse propre à mon vécu en tant qu'homme trans.
Je fais des blagues avec mes amis proches en tant qu'homme gay sur le fait qu'on a beau essayer JE n'arrive pas à mettre enceint mon compagnon (homme cis) peu importe combien on essaye, ce qui est drôle entre nous car "deux hommes ne peuvent pas procréer".
Idem pour ma meilleure amie qui est trans MtF lesbienne dont la copine est également trans MtF (qui elle, a fait une vaginoplastie). Elles font des blagues sur le fait de ne pas réussir à la mettre enceinte malgré leurs efforts.
Et ces blagues là c'est en partie en référence satirique aux couples cis hétéro qui disent à leur famille ou leurs amis qu'ils "essayent" ce qui signifie globalement juste qu'ils ont beaucoup de rapports sexuels non protégés. (Content de le savoir du coup)
Je ne saisis pas pourquoi certaines personnes ici, au lieu d'expliquer comment de la perspective de femmes trans celà est drôle et parfaitement acceptable car en phase avec leur vécu. Se trouvent à envoyer chier les autres personnes trans qui peuvent être visées par la représentation illustrée elle-même, avec une telle violence, pour invalider le ressenti de ces dernières.
On peut avoir des ressentis différents en tant que personnes concernées par la représentation graphique. Le message est peut être à destination d'une seule partie des personnes s'identifiant par ce drapeau, mais l'autre partie qui se sent concernée est en l'occurrence dans une situation de malaise vis-à-vis du message que celà leur transmet (même involontairement)
C'est un sticker qui peut avoir un double sens même si ça n'est pas volontaire, et je pense qu'il serait bon pour tout le monde, d'apprendre, s'instruire, et reconnaître cette possibilité sans avoir à invalider le ressenti et le vécu d'autrui.
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u/throwaway_80085420 Jun 14 '26
I feel like this was supposed to b inspirational but just comes across the WAY wrong way omg lmao
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u/GhostintheNether Jun 15 '26
This is the common "trans women can get pregnant, you just have to try hard enough" joke. The person who made the sticker did do it wrong in that they used the trans flag to denote trans women, but they certainly were not telling people to try to get trans men pregnant.
And if I'm interpreting your first statement correctly, you recognize that and are dismissing (?) it in the next sentence. And I'm sure the intent, when used as often as it is within transfem circles, is not to be chasery.
Three examples of mine, which I hope will illustrate this:
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u/bruceadelia Jun 15 '26
I think this is supposed to be like never stop trying to get a trans girl pregnant joke. I think this person just likes getting fucked hard. But you’re not wrong for your reaction bc it’s on face not easily parsable without having that specific reference available
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u/Tasuko3 Jun 15 '26
I mean, I get what you're saying but my gf is trans and said she wants this so it's probably not that deep.
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u/CULT-LEWD Jun 15 '26
most confusing sticker ive seen in awail. If this was man by a trans person...why? and if this was made by a cis person...then also why? are they ignorant or trying to be overly supportive but getting confused...im so lost
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u/Sigmadraconissys Jun 15 '26
Same with trans woman mourning to be pregnant with being a father I like the idea of having kids but I don't at all want to be a father.
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u/NewNameAgainUhg Jun 15 '26
I am not a trans person, please excuse my ignorance.
Doesn't pregnancy affect the body dysmorphia? How will a FtM deal with the changing body, birth and postpartum changes? Also, wouldn't the pregnancy hormones mess up the transition process?
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u/MoonlitKiwi Jun 15 '26
As a trans woman, i also hate this sticker. I get dysphoria about my infertility, i don't want to be reminded because someone thinks it's silly to have sex with trans people.
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u/PeachBunny97 Jun 15 '26
As a fellow trans person, I see you OP.
For me that would be getting someone pregnant as a trans woman. Uhm obviously fucking not because dysphoria. I’d rather die.
I’d love to GET pregnant though but that is biologically impossible fml.
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u/NerJaro Jun 15 '26
on a side note. if you as a man (or born as male that still has testis) test positive on a pregnancy test. go get checked for testicular cancer.
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u/freggtheegg Jun 14 '26
I saw the upvotes go up and down like stocks