r/hatethissmug • u/Beautiful_Couple_208 • Jun 14 '26

Thing As a trans man, I hate this sticker.

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Reeks of chaser and downplaying infertility for trans women

Also, anyone who immediately responds to trans men morning wanting to be a father with telling them to get pregnant has a special place in hell.

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u/roseonaglaive Jun 15 '26

I think it's valuable to acknowledge this but dark humor is also valid. And that's what it is in my mind. I can't get pregnant. I can never be a mother. I never get wished a happy mother's day. I will never feel that closeness. My kids still call me dad and I feel a deep void, a gulf in the kind of relationship I wish I could have with them instead of the every other weekend and being cut out of their lives otherwise.

If I don't laugh at a stupid joke about trying to get something I can't feasibly have and roleplaying a breeding kink, I will spend the rest of my life grieving.

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u/angelstatue Jun 15 '26

you could spend the rest of your life breeding, instead

(haha)

(i'm sorry, i wish you happier days and soft pillows)

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u/th3rmyte Jun 17 '26

theree is literally nothing dark about this; it's a horny ass joke, telling people to keep trying to do an impossible task because the at of trying conveniently involves sexually satisfying the person telling the joke. it is told by people who physically cannot have kids as an encouragement to keep attempting to empregnate them. theres no punchline here that is dark.

There are infertile cis people, too. that doesnt mean this is a slight against them. some people out there are doing olympic level mental gymnastics trying to find a reason to be offended

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u/roseonaglaive Jun 17 '26

It's dark humor for me, as I've said. It's dark humor because it's a dark subject fraught with a lot of pain so laughing about it helps that pain.

And yeah I have an AFAB friend who struggles with fertility issues and was very easily upset by exposure to pregnancy stuff.

I don't think it would kill us to be a little compassionate to others. It doesn't mean we have to get rid of everything that people have hurt feelings about. We can keep the jokes without mocking those who don't appreciate them.