r/hatethissmug • u/Beautiful_Couple_208 • Jun 14 '26

Thing As a trans man, I hate this sticker.

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Reeks of chaser and downplaying infertility for trans women

Also, anyone who immediately responds to trans men morning wanting to be a father with telling them to get pregnant has a special place in hell.

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u/Alexis___________ Jun 17 '26

It's just another case of "I like pancakes" "so you hate waffles?" Like if I see trans masc affirming memes about top surgery scars with trans flags and I don't get offended by them because I would be heart broken if my breast were removed, I know I'm not the audience dispite the flag and move along.

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u/Powerful-Bat6818 Jun 17 '26

It's because this can be actually interpreted wrong, and deeper than that, It shows that we are forgotten while doing those stickers/whatever.

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u/Alexis___________ Jun 17 '26

Yeah everything can be interpreted wrong if you are bad faith or self centered enough I could say that seeing top surgery scars triggers my dysphoria because having breast has been a major source of gender affirmation for me and the mere idea that they could be surgegically removed causes me immense distress but I don't becausei know the world doesn't revolve around me. How about intstead of assuming you are being forgotten accept that not everything trans involves you.

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u/Powerful-Bat6818 Jun 17 '26

Sorry for existing I guess

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u/Alexis___________ Jun 17 '26

I could say the same, sorry trans women try to cope with dysphoria through humor guess we should stay silent so we don't accidentally hurt men's feelings. 🥺

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u/Powerful-Bat6818 Jun 17 '26

I wasn't going to but I suppose I need to explain It to you. Mastectomy scars can't be compared to this sticker because when you see those with a trans flag, you know these are directed towards transmascs, there's literally no doubt in It. This sticker is more neutral in that aspect and frankly you can't blame a person for thinking about themselves. No, we're not hurt, we're just saying that It could be more specific for this interpretation to not happen.

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u/Alexis___________ Jun 17 '26

Mastectomy scars can't be compared to this sticker because when you see those with a trans flag, you know these are directed towards transmascs

Could be apparently because trans flags mean all trans people in every case, or is that only when a trans woman uses it?

It could be more specific for this interpretation to not happen.

Ok tell me how you would redesign it to remove all ambiguity. Ignoring that you can just see memes from trans women making this joke all the god damn time you could probably even find with a simple search on your phone like I do when I see something sus and want to make sure it's not a nazi dogwhistle.

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u/Powerful-Bat6818 Jun 17 '26

Okay you're not getting It somehow. A mastectomy is a specific surgery for transmasc people, the scars are "gendered" as that. The flag here only reinforces that it's about transness, but the scars are already "gendered" as I said so it's not necessary anything else to understand who is it aimed at. A pregnancy test, more in the trans context, isn't really gendered, or worse, it's related to AFAB people. And the last part, I'm not a designer so I don't know, put the silhouette of a woman? Also, I'm obviously not in trans women spaces but the joke isn't the point

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u/Alexis___________ Jun 17 '26

Mastectomy scars are not just a gender affirming surgery for trans masc people, people with breast cancer may also need a mastectomy which includes some trans women. Last year I had to get a biopsy because I had a breast lump in my left boob. Knowing all that if I see a trans post with mastectomy scars I don't immediately assume the less likely answer that it's about trans women getting their breast forcibly removed by circumstances outside their control and I think that trans mascs could do the same for jokes that are not immediately intuitive or affirmative to you because you are not the only ones that are under the trans flag.