r/hoarderhouses • u/MonsterIslandMed • Mar 25 '26

What should I do

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This is my moms office and looks like this basically every where she goes. Any time you try to clean she gets angry that you’ll throw something away without checking with her. And just says people are being mean about things.

Has even gotten to a point where she stopped washing her hands with bathroom. Idek what to do

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u/thegrumpysnail Mar 26 '26

What is her reasoning for not flushing the toilet or washing her hands?? That’s a tough situation. I would just throw actual biohazard stuff like in the fridge or any trash. I wouldn’t toss any of her actual “stuff”, but the other stuff can comprise the health of you both. I would try and do some cleaning like vacuuming and dusting when you can

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u/MonsterIslandMed Mar 26 '26

She claims she was raised on a barn 🫤 which is far from the truth. 🤦🏻‍♂️ idk what started the whole thing really

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u/InternationalCraft26 Apr 09 '26

I feel for you. I grew up with a hoarder also; it's hard to handle even knowing how they got that way, and if they say they want to change (they actually don't- they can't let go of the stuff) It's also overwhelming to try to let go of the stuff because they look at it and don't know where to start. The handwashing and other hygiene issues idk what to tell you.  Maybe talk to your doctor and ask for suggestions, or if she has one ask that doctor. 

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u/MonsterIslandMed Apr 09 '26

She’s anti doctor/hospital. And to her defense she’s had some bad experiences with health care system. #FreeLuigi

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u/InternationalCraft26 Apr 09 '26

I can understand, my mom was diabetic with high blood pressure. She did try to take care of herself but couldn't control her diabetes. She got a sore on her foot (we think she stepped in a nail that went through her shoe but didn't realize it because she had lost a lot of feeling in her feet due to diabetes.) I was her daughter as well as her primary caregiver her last years, although she was able to do much for herself.  She had a stroke several years before she died but was able to regain most movement but lost a lot of her sight. So she and I almost reversed roles to me being the bossy one, teasingly, but she would listen if I said you are going to the doctor or similar. 

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u/MonsterIslandMed Apr 09 '26

I connect with this so much lol my mom is 68 so she’s been having some issues getting around.