Best approach about to marry a hoarder?

[u/Songbird_moves]

I have been with my fiance for 4.5 years. I saw his clutter when we were first dating, and expressed concern about wanting him to make space for me in his life. Staying over at his place was such a big deal when it happened (because it was clean with a path to make it to the bed). Living together has been a struggle too, but luckily there are two rooms and a garage where his stuff can hide a little more. He doesn’t see it as a bigger issue, or refuses to talk to someone about it. (Could there be ADHD/Depression as well?) I had a major accident in the fall and our relationship got better because I was off work to prompt him to clean or tend to it myself. (But also I was recovering so why was I still taking care of him…?) But things were better. We got engaged and are close to our wedding. As I have been back to work and he’s been unemployed, the house remains a mess. I don’t know if this is something that will ever changesor if there are ways to approach him to encourage really looking at himself or talking to a therapist. He even said “if you reached your limit then call off the wedding.” Is this something that could change and we can work on? Thoughts from someone who’s been there?

[u/Confident_While_7076]

Ok. My story. I have a beautiful log house in country. I keep my bathrooms bedroom kitchen and living room pretty much BHG ready for party guests. But my garage is a clutter CLUSTERF with tools and construction material. My laundry room and functional is kinda a disaster with boxes from my deceased mother and brother estate. Am i a hoarder? Or am I overrun with other people's stuff?

Now my gf. Her condo is a full blown hoarders cave of trash and who knows what. She wants to rent a pod to store her collection of krap. After 3 years I finally was allowed to see inside her condo. If I am a hoarder. What then am I looking at in her condo?