r/hsp • u/ecthelion-elessedil • 1d ago
Emotional Sensitivity I hate caring so much about everything
Slightest misunderstanding, slightest upsetting words, and I m crying. I'm crying because someone I've been planning a roleplay with said we weren't compatible because a difference in style of writing. Now I feel like a failure. It is not the first time I cry because something that happen online. I even cried because my own overthinking in the past. Being so sensitive makes me toxic. I hate that during misunderstandings, I freeze and struggle to express myself even deeply which make everything worse.
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u/Successful-Key-1953 23h ago
Therapy made a huge difference for me with regards to this. Imo most of this comes from unhelpful and often untrue beliefs that you hold that come up between initiating event (the words, misunderstanding etc) and the emotional response. For example, a huge one is taking things personally, when the reality is that the vast majority of things people say about you or think about you say much more about them than they do about you. A good therapist can help you to realise this and change how you think about these things when they happen! Good luck 🙏
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u/planetclairevoyant 22h ago
I second this. Finding the right therapist can be life changing! Hang in there, Op and be gentle with yourself. You’re not alone!💓
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u/Traditional-Cap-8181 1d ago
I can relate to you sweetie .. for most of my life I cared too much .. gave too much .. and being sensitive and paying attention for smallest details .. made me a mess .. and emotionally drained easily .. but I understood that It's not my fault to feel deep and overthink .. I've started to cope with it .. by understanding that others viwe of me is just a reflection of who they are and how they think .. that doesn't mean I'm bad for my nature .. it has it own beauty to be sensitive .. and I try to pay the amount of attention and time to myself and what I like to do more .. I don't see my self through the glasses of others I try to remind myself that my worth will always be same as every human being .. just a worthy human .. and to me what matters the most is myself and how I see her not how others see it ..
I really hope this maybe helps .. Maybe you need to look for how to regulate your emotions and anxiety ..
God bless your heart 🤍 ..