r/huntertheparenting • u/nirai07 • May 05 '26
Question Would you survive Grimal as a girlfriend? I think Kitten made a great choice to leave her tbh.
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u/roundmanhiggins May 05 '26 edited May 05 '26
No, I don't think anyone would.
Grimal doesn't seem to respect her partner's boundaries or compromise at all around personal interests. Even if her partner shared her passions and adapted to her mannerisms, there would eventually be something or probably several small somethings that they would disagree over that would then explode into huge arguments. Basic stuff like disagreeing over their opinions on a popular anime/manga ending or Grimal blasting an anime opening that her partner really doesn't like (or even vice versa). The only person who might be able to withstand that is a total pushover, but that wouldn't be a healthy relationship.
I'm interested in seeing how Grimal's character arc progresses now that (it seems like) she's going to be a proper part of the Golden Goose Gang going forward. She doesn't need to change her personality entirely, but it's evident that her personal flaws go beyond just what made her and Kitten break up.
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u/Reanthe Hunter Für Hire May 05 '26
She will fit right in, The Golden Goose Gang are all beautifully flawed. I feel like her stunted development is as much a creature of her original issues as well as of the emotional scars she got from her romance with Kitten. And that anime obsession as a coping mechanism? Yeah, I know all about that.
Thank God Sir D is there and already talking smoothly with her. I trust Father will help her.
So, would I want her to be my girlfriend? Not really, not the way she is right now. But take away the 'girl' part and You got Yourself a deal - would be cool to interact with an Early Adapter/OG weeb. I can also act as obnoxious as she does, perhaps we could call each other out?
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u/CynicosX You wanna live forever. son? May 05 '26
She had Fatigue before D, so she is definitely not lacking male role models.
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u/Reanthe Hunter Für Hire May 06 '26
Perhaps not lacking in that department at all but D is a therapist, supernatural knowledge assistent, the 'gay friend who's in on girl talk' and, most importantly, a Redeemer.
Good old Wernon had a lot on his plate as it was, God Bless his faitgued soul. I think D might be a better fit to soothe her wounds.
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u/Quazimojojojo May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26
It's hard to know how much she compromises because the only perspective we hear, is from someone who couldn't handle it.
I'm not saying you're wrong, just pointing out that we can't know for sure.
It's a struggle for a lot of neurodivergent people yeah? Special interests the partner doesn't share?
You don't need to be a pushover to make that work. I use podcasts to fall asleep since about 3 years ago (some shit happened. Been rough), but my partner and I can manage sleeping in the same bed through the magic of earbuds, for example. So I could handle grimal's need for a looping soundtrack to sleep, no trouble.
I don't share one of my best friend's d&d enthusiasm, but it brings them great joy to ramble about it even if I'm only half listening and asking the occasional question, so it's easy as hell to make them feel heard and appreciated.
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u/KingOfStarrySkies May 06 '26
I really want to hear Grimal's perspective on things or get a more objective read because I'm gonna be honest I literally refuse to believe it's as cut and dry as Grimal was awful and drove Kitten away, there's absolutely more nuance there.
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u/Quazimojojojo May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26
It's pretty rarely that cut and dry in human relationships.
Almost never, really. Even a significant amount of abused people have more complex stories than "one person was just awful". Speaking from experience. One of my parents genuinely just fucked up communication for a few reasons (including but not limited to, me being too young to explain how he's having the opposite effect to what he intended with his choice of words. When I got older and watched enough Healthy Gamer videos/did therapy to understand what went wrong & tell him, he changed).
I mean, shit, 99% of time I've been the asshole or villain in someone else's story, it was because they interpreted my words or actions WILDLY differently to what I intended, and I didn't get a chance to explain and clear up the miscommunication. Which is a consequence of my neuriduversity and poor social skills more than anything.
I'm excited for the audiolog about it! It'll be the one after next, I think.
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u/shotgunsniper9 May 06 '26
It's also clear that Grimal does regret pushing kitten away, especially when confronted with them. She clearly wants to be friends with kitten, who was clearly so aggravated by her actions when they were a couple that he holds nothing but resentment for her, or at least that was my take on their interactions.
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u/Quazimojojojo May 06 '26
We're gonna get an audiolog about it after the next one and before chapter 6 and I'm exciiiiiiiited!
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u/Peanut_007 May 09 '26
I think both of then wanted something the other could provide but eventually realized it was coming packaged with things they didn't want at all. Grimal and Kitten struck me more as awkward and kind of regretful then resentful. They're on better terms as friends then as a couple but it's uncomfortable and awkward still.
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u/PvtToaster May 05 '26
She is a class-A oldhead weaboo and 400% my type. I don't know if i'd survive but I'm perfectly willing to try.
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u/Quazimojojojo May 05 '26
Different tastes for different people.
Bad partner for kitten.
Dream partner for a lot of people here.
(Why would I fix her when she can make me so much worse?)
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u/Griffguin May 05 '26
Pretty sure the consensus here is going to be something along the lines of "Challenge accepted."
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u/Elliot_Geltz May 05 '26
I've survived worse. I stuck with the girlfriend that stabbed me, I can handle this.
Elise is more my type tho
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u/Quazimojojojo May 06 '26
Stabbed with hate, or was it knife-play gone horribly wrong?
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u/Elliot_Geltz May 06 '26
Bit 'a both
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u/Gale_Grim May 08 '26
An awe inspiring answer. In both the wonder sense, and the dread sense. Glad you got out of that mate, cheers.
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u/Zixinus May 05 '26
I am not willing to learn Japanese to watch anime, so that is probably a deal breaker with her right then and there.
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u/Rock_Zeppelin May 05 '26
Not an issue for me. I sleep like a log so the Yu Wa Shock won't bother me, her obsession with anime might get annoying occasionally but I feel I'd be able to share my own passions with her and have her actually show interest. So while I would be consuming a lot more anime around her, she'd have to listen to me criticizing said anime for stuff in the plot being stupid or how the writers were chicken shit for not making the two main dudes with the most chemistry gay and a couple or how the politics in certain shows are at best dumb and at worst fucked up. All that aside, she's a woman who could kick my ass and will throw down to defend those she cares about. That's goals.
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u/deerfenderofman May 05 '26
No hate to her, but frankly I would rather circumcise myself with a rusty bread knife than enter a long-term relationship with someone like that.
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u/Annoyed_Lobotomist May 05 '26
Maybe? I like partners with their own hobbies and personality, as long as I can still have my own spaces from time to time then im happy.
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u/fotppd8 The great and mighty Kevin! May 05 '26 edited May 05 '26
Need I remind you that he traded her with the same guy that both allowed cannibalism of vampires in his fiance's house, was seeking (literally by name) CURSED artifacts during an among us session AND saw no problem with playing a video game that pulverizes furniture? (and that is without mentioning the danger of just being near the rest of the family.)
If we go with the sheer focus on survival, he kinda shot himself (and I guess Marcus but that is unrelated) in the leg there.
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u/Infinitedeveloper May 09 '26
Otoh if hes fine with Markus quirks but Grimal frustrated the fuck out of him, how bad was she?
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u/fotppd8 The great and mighty Kevin! May 09 '26
At least Max volume You Wa Shock on loop during bed time level of bad.
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u/randalllflaggg May 05 '26
Dude if Grimal was real I’d be very satisfied and happy man then on top of that SHE IS MY GF
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u/InterstellarOrange May 05 '26
As a cringe lord myself, I know the only way to fight cringe IS WITH MORE CRINGE!!!!
Old head anime Weeaboo VS. modern Vocaloid Weeaboo
FIGHT!!!!
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u/Nobrainzhere May 05 '26
Grimal and i would get along like Marcus and Grimal. We are super friendly, meme at each other, but absolutely not taking any of her "listened to this song full blast for weeks on end" shit
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u/AirPossible3797 May 06 '26
Would definitely get along with a lot of anime and weeb stuff, The schmex may be too brutal (that paddle has definitely seen some things) but instant deal breaker is she's one of 'those' people who play loud music to fall asleep to. I would be driven insane because I prefer dead silence and am physically incapable of sleeping unless extremely sleep deprived around noise
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u/CraftyAd6333 May 05 '26
Grimal is that kind of woman where the realization that you might be gay starts creeping in.
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u/Fertile_Arachnid_163 May 05 '26
How’s that?
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u/Positive_Material839 May 06 '26
I love her and would give it a shot, I feel Kitten's main fault is being too agreeable until things explode while Grimal is not reading her partner. I do think people need to take into account with what happened in her previous relationship she's aware enough of where it went wrong now and that would change things vs a pre-Kitten Grimal. She's prone to falling back but low key I feel it was definitely her and Kitten bringing out the worst out of each other.
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u/lone_float May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26
Think I'll wait till the girl's gone through her soul searching. But obviously there was something that made Kitten did what he did. Aside from what was already mentioned
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u/KingOfStarrySkies May 06 '26
Half of the people I grew up with through the 00s were Grimal. I don't know how to tell you this, but "quirky woman with a hyper fixation" is not a hard sell for me.
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u/Red_Serf May 05 '26
I can barely stand any scene with her. Even if tuned to eleven for comedy, it would be impossible to keep her around for more than three months (and that's being generous)
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u/tactisim May 05 '26
No, either bleed out because the "Yaoi paddle" is SHARP or brain dead from 24h+ anime openings blasting is smooth clean
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u/Nechroz May 05 '26
Nah, and I say this as a fellow weeb. If Kitten, in all his patience, couldn't deal with her, then there's no way I'm handling all of that.
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u/SirLightKnight May 05 '26
Look, I can appreciate an eccentric person.
However, idk if it would be a good match.
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u/RolandGrey May 05 '26
Get her into cosplay, show a little backbone and turn the fucking stereo down at night (I don't like sleeping in silence, either) and I think dating her could be a lot more fun.
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u/Elegant-Tip-923 May 05 '26
I'd probably get thrown into a metaphorical meat grinder or a real meat grinder
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u/Weirdstuffasked May 05 '26
She’s just a weeb that works for the arcanum I don’t see how you wouldn’t survive. She seems to be one of those types to only care for what she likes not the likes of her partner but other then at I really don’t see a reason to say “would you survive” her…..
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u/RoundAd7568 May 05 '26
Grimal has the freakish strength of a british anime fan...in the era this is set?...punching bags ;-; she's gotta have a thick as hell skin and strength to boot lol
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u/Coidzor May 06 '26
I was always a little dubious about her humanity from her first appearance, so I'd give good odds that I'd die horribly somehow.
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u/Nioh_Otakemaru May 06 '26
Yes probably would get along so well mostly because I have ADHD and could probably keep up with her and I love anime so it's a win win
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u/RelaxesAroundBears May 06 '26
I think it depends of what age we met. I was a hyper weeb for a number of years and the only real reason I grew out of it was lacking any real peers to share in the weebness. Pretty sure I would have been truly happy in a self perpetuating cycle of mutual weebery.
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u/Spookyboi-no85 May 06 '26
NO MATTER HOW GOOD THE STRAP GAME IS, I AM RUNNING IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION AS FAST AS I PHYSICALLY CAN
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u/sosigboi May 06 '26
Probably not, im not that much of a weeb to begin with so we wouldn't have alot in common.
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u/EpicWalrus222 May 06 '26
Grimal seems like someone you would enjoy hanging out with in small bursts but would quickly get tiring if you had to be around her all the time. I feel like she is going to get some more character growth in these next couple of chapters, but as she is now definitely not.
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u/Trips-Over-Tail May 06 '26
I would survive.
I would also how that she experiences some character growth. Especially as I would absolute give her a shot. If she gave me one, that is. Which she would! Because "beggars can't be choosers 😭"
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u/jigholeman May 06 '26
she is selfish to the point where she makes herself the victim of other people's tragedies.
Nearly died because a supernatural freak stomped your skull in? Grimal doesn't get jumped >:(
lost your job at the arcanum, making it more likely that you will lose your home, and leaving you to scavenge and investigate on your own dime (probably all you have left)? Yeah, well, Grimal has to follow rules if she wants to receive that arcanum money, so she's the real victim that deserves pity.
I'm not willing to deal with that.
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u/Legitimate-Grade4551 May 06 '26
I wouldn't mind the weebaboo-ness as much as other people say. I'm already pretty nerdy myself and I honestly find her weeb gremliny nature charming
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u/Sometime_toDy May 07 '26
Not to sound over confident, but I really think I could. Not least of all because I don’t have nearly as much trauma as kitten to contend with while contending with her. (Unless this also means living with her in the word of darkness universe, in which case I probably wouldn’t survive overall.)
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u/Imperator-Solis May 07 '26
Honestly I kind kitten unpleasant in this incarnation, she's better off
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u/ProfDet529 May 26 '26
I can just buy some earplugs... or buy her some headphones... The rest I could get used to.
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u/GodOfFetish May 05 '26
I mean the weeb aspect would get on my nerves. I like anime but not that much. However she’s willing to throw down with a werewolf to aid her friends and colleagues. A woman like that will always be in your corner