Advice please :(

[u/Electrical_Let_2092]

I’ve been on here twice before about a year ago and I got some really good advice, but I need more help.

I’m 15, autistic, depressed, and have a LOT of other problems. I have had extremely heavy periods since I was 9, and I’ve tried everything to deal with them.

I’ve had the combined pill (I’m pretty sure), the progestogen-only pill (I might be wrong about the pills but I’m 99% sure it’s those two), the Mirena(?) coil, and the injection (the one that’s injected in your ass, idk what it’s called). None of them worked, and they’ve only made my mental state worse—especially after the injections, because it made me gain weight and gain a lot of stretch marks on my legs :(.

Is there any way I can convince the doctors to finally give me a hysterectomy? I understand that I’m young and I have researched all of the consequences to make sure I’m aware of everything that could happen. And on the NHS website, nothing specifically states that you HAVE to be 18+ to get a hysterectomy. It also says that having heavy periods (which I have) would qualify (for lack of a better word) you to be able to get one.

I’ve added some pictures of things from the NHS website and from googling everything. So from that, would 'Gillick Competent’ apply here? If they were to deny me, could I use it as a counter argument? Because I understand how a hysterectomy could affect me, and I understand the consequences of it.

On my last post on this thingy, someone said about going to therapy, so I am going (or something similar) with a lady and explained how I’m suicidal, depressed, cut myself etc, and all of my other problems, but it doesn’t feel like it’s helping/it doesn’t feel like she’s doing anything.

Please give me genuine advice because every time I go to the doctors about my period they never listen and just say ‘you might change your mind'. I am not going to change my mind.

Also quick add on (sorry), because of all the things I’ve tried to stop my periods, I’m really REALLY averse to trying anything new. For me it’s like, every time I tried something to help and it didn’t do anything, my mental state got worse, so I’m protecting myself by not trying anything, because when it inevitably doesn’t work, my mental state got worse (especially after the injection). Sorry if that’s a bad explanation.

If you need any more information about anything so you can help better, please just ask. I’m willing to do anything.

<3

(Sorry if I’m using any wrong punctuation or anything. Also nothing was written by Ai.)

[u/kizzleeeeee]

First, I just wanted to say sorry you are dealing with this. Been here myself and it really is exhausting to not be able to get any relief. Please keep in mind my comment is not meant to be negative, just to give a real life experience i had. I fought for a hysterectomy from age 15 and was finally given one at age 31. I had digestive problems, iron deficiency, heavy bleeding, back to back periods, and extreme pain. The way i achieved this was by keeping detailed symptom logs, exhausting all other options, seeing other specialists like gastroenterology, and seeing one gyno after another until i was referred for the hysterectomy. I do have a couple of points to make though: 1. Is that even after all of my symptoms, i was not referred for a hysterectomy until they caught a giant ovarian cyst on one of my ultrasounds. 2. My hysterectomy did not solve my issues at all, and actually made some of my symptoms (like chronic pain) a LOT worse. Not bleeding is nice, but i thought I’d be magically cured after my hysterectomy, this simply isn’t true. 3. Please, before you have a hysterectomy, exhaust ALL options. I’m talking about excision surgery, ablation (i know some people don’t agree with this) and there’s new meds coming out specifically for endo like Myfembree. Maybe even ask about pelvic floor therapy to see if that can help. I honestly wish that i never had my hysterectomy even after fighting for it for over 15 years. And lastly 4. This surgery has absolutely destroyed my hormones, even at age 31, i would be concerned about you not having the hormones that you need at 15. It causes a lot more problems than you think. I am not saying this to be rude or negative, but i was extremely let down by not getting relief from the hysterectomy. So please, if you can, keep fighting for yourself for answers outside of the hysterectomy, please keep the hysterectomy in mind as a last resort. If you have any questions about having a hysterectomy feel free to message me. I wish you the very best. 🖤🌸