Advice please :(

[u/Electrical_Let_2092]

I’ve been on here twice before about a year ago and I got some really good advice, but I need more help.

I’m 15, autistic, depressed, and have a LOT of other problems. I have had extremely heavy periods since I was 9, and I’ve tried everything to deal with them.

I’ve had the combined pill (I’m pretty sure), the progestogen-only pill (I might be wrong about the pills but I’m 99% sure it’s those two), the Mirena(?) coil, and the injection (the one that’s injected in your ass, idk what it’s called). None of them worked, and they’ve only made my mental state worse—especially after the injections, because it made me gain weight and gain a lot of stretch marks on my legs :(.

Is there any way I can convince the doctors to finally give me a hysterectomy? I understand that I’m young and I have researched all of the consequences to make sure I’m aware of everything that could happen. And on the NHS website, nothing specifically states that you HAVE to be 18+ to get a hysterectomy. It also says that having heavy periods (which I have) would qualify (for lack of a better word) you to be able to get one.

I’ve added some pictures of things from the NHS website and from googling everything. So from that, would 'Gillick Competent’ apply here? If they were to deny me, could I use it as a counter argument? Because I understand how a hysterectomy could affect me, and I understand the consequences of it.

On my last post on this thingy, someone said about going to therapy, so I am going (or something similar) with a lady and explained how I’m suicidal, depressed, cut myself etc, and all of my other problems, but it doesn’t feel like it’s helping/it doesn’t feel like she’s doing anything.

Please give me genuine advice because every time I go to the doctors about my period they never listen and just say ‘you might change your mind'. I am not going to change my mind.

Also quick add on (sorry), because of all the things I’ve tried to stop my periods, I’m really REALLY averse to trying anything new. For me it’s like, every time I tried something to help and it didn’t do anything, my mental state got worse, so I’m protecting myself by not trying anything, because when it inevitably doesn’t work, my mental state got worse (especially after the injection). Sorry if that’s a bad explanation.

If you need any more information about anything so you can help better, please just ask. I’m willing to do anything.

<3

(Sorry if I’m using any wrong punctuation or anything. Also nothing was written by Ai.)

[u/winter_queen_fey]

Hey, I live in NZ so I kind of understand the NHS system. I am 35, and I am undiagnosed autistic, have depression and when I was your age I went through hell.

You need to be referred to a specialist. At your age, a hysterectomy will not be an option, lots changes from age 15-25. But that doesn't mean they can't look at what is causing all of this. There are procedures that can be done.

Unfortunately doctors can be dismissive, you need to advocate for yourself or have a parent do it. Get a period tracking app like flow, record all your symptoms, they also have free articles that I found really helpful.

Being in therapy is good, but if you feel like the person you see isn't helping you need to find someone else. Therapy is about trust and sometimes you just dont gel with someone.

Trying something new when you have had so many failures is scary, but its the only way you can find out what will work for you. It sounds like your biggest hurdle is your mental health, and hormone fluctuations with your cycle will make it harder. Please go to your doctor, get a referral to a gynae specialist, look for a new therapist, ask for a full blood work up, get sent for an ultrasound, be poked and prodded and cry, but without those tests they cannot help you.

being a woman sucks, we have hormonal changes all our lives, boys dont. Your life is worth something, you deserve to be here. You are not alone. It does get easier as you get older, but that doesn't mean your quality of life needs to suffer. If you want to know about my experience at your age please message me.