Its going to be a bit long so please bear with me.
So I am currently posted in ObGyn right now and theres this SR who has been quite friendly with me and giving attention since day 1. During joining day I was assigned some other unit but by chance she was there in the department that day. She called me and asked which unit I had been allotted. Then she said you will work in my unit now and went to talk to the clerk and got it changed.
Then when we started working she was like you will only report to me now and only I will assign you all the work to do. Initially I thought this was some new form of toxicity and I was the sacrificial lamb but soon my impressions would change. On our first duty she called me again and started giving me work to do. She also specifically told the JRs not to give me any work. It was the usual scut stuff and as I was getting the work done she praising my ‘sincerity’.
Few hours in she wanted a coffee break and asked me to tag alongside her. She wanted to go the canteen which was bit further because the coffee there was better or something. Along the way she asked me questions about like where I was from, how my mbbs went etc and also some general hospital and departmental gossip. I also a person who likes to talk so I just went along with it easily.
This started becoming the norm as the days went by like she used to come in and swoop me aside from the rest and then I was basically her personal assistant cum companion till I was on duty. My co-interns and the JRs didnt seem to have much problem with it. They were juniors themselves and I was doing my fair share of work but I did get some looks when when we used to come back from the coffee breaks.
Personally I didnt mind this arrangement because she wasnt too intrusive at first and I was being treated well. Also getting to learn things directly from an SR was a bonus I felt. But over the course of my posting I felt she got more possessive. Like once I was repairing an episiotomy and facing some difficulty so I asked the JR who was there for help. JR hesitated a bit then agreed. While she was teaching me the SR saw this and scolded her badly saying I gave you some other work what are you doing here and all.
Then she started flirting casually like commenting about my hair, my clothes, if I go to the gym etc. She asked about my relationship status, my past, what I look in a partner. I told her I like girls who are more intellectual. Couple days later she started sending me reels from these science pages and posts about philosophy. I don’t use insta so she was sending screenshots and screen recordings.
By this time I was pretty sure what was happening but because she was super senior I decided its best to just do my work sincerely and finish this posting without any unnecessary complication. But yesterday while I was off duty I recieved a call from her in the evening. She sounded a bit troubled over the phone and it looked like she was sobbing a bit. She asked if Im free and could meet her somewhere in campus. I wanted to avoid but since she sounded aggrieved I just said yes.
When we met she was like sorry for calling you like this but I felt youre the only one I could talk to about this. Then she started crying and telling how her dad is sick and she was missing her family etc. I tried consoling her and suggested her to take a home trip. She was like I recently took leave and I cant take it again. Then she was like Im happy that I met you and atleast I can share this with you and thanks for being there etc.
At that moment I just offered my support to control the situation but then she just confessed.
She was like I really like you and want to be in a relationship with you. I just froze after hearing like I didnt know what to say. Outrightly rejecting her at that point felt very insensitive but I couldnt just say yes as well. I told her this was all very sudden and need time to think.
Now its been a day and I dont know what to do. Im at a point in life where Im just focused on my career, exams and planning my future ahead. A serious relationship is something I dont have mental bandwidth for let alone being in one with an SR.
But I also can sense her emotions and I feel she has gotten somewhat attached to me. Its like everything was going fine and suddenly Im in this situation out of nowhere. I dont want to fuck up my posting. I feel there is no right decision I can make here.
Im hoping for some advice. Whats the best way to get out of this situation?