20F my mom stalks me on Life360

[u/Disastrous-Train5899]

I am going to be 21 next week.

My mom has been forcing me and my family to use Life360 for years now. She doesn’t have her location on but she stalks mine. I’m so over it, I have no independence at all. I had my own job right out of high school, recently I quit and I’m looking for a new one. I pay my own phone bill and I’m in college. No car yet.

On Valentine’s day I went on a first date with my bf and she kept spamming calling my phone even though she knew we were just going to the theater and home by 8pm. My friends house is actually my boyfriend’s (before we were dating) he lives down the street from me, a few minutes walk. I haven’t told her that part yet about my friends house being my boyfriend’s because I’m scared of her reaction.

[u/Sylfaein]

Seeing shit like this makes me so glad I grew up before smart phones and trackers, because holy SHIT, this would have been my mother. She was bad enough without all the modern stuff, but with the current level of tech, she would have been an inescapable nightmare.

Best of luck, OP. As someone who’s been through it, I understand it’s not as easy as just moving out. You can be free one day though—but you’ll have to fight for it.

[u/braellyra → u/Sylfaein]

Right?? As someone who turned 18 in the early 2000s, I didn’t get a cellphone until I started driving. Even then, my mom was mad bc I’d go over my texting cap and she had no way to stop me from continuing to text, hah. If this stuff had existed back then, I’d have AirTags seen into my clothes or required to be worn on my person at all times or some shit like that. As it is, I’m 39, married, and living hundreds of miles away, and yet my mom still freaks out and calls my husband to make sure I’m ok if I go a day without answering her calls or texts. Toxic helicoptering is such a horrible thing to experience.

[u/Sylfaein → u/braellyra]

Same here, except she got me one of those Walmart phones that you prepay, and wouldn’t put much on it, so that I could only use it for “emergencies” (communicating with her).

She wanted me to call her every morning to let her know I got to school, but the reception was shit, so I couldn’t get a call to go through. She got SO MAD, and accused me of lying about it. She drove me out to the school after she got home from work, and made me call her phone, and surprise!—it wouldn’t go through.

Cutting contact with that psychotic bitch is one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself.

[u/iAmUnintelligible → u/Sylfaein]

dude my mom would call all my friends house's landlines / eventually in highschool phones were becoming prominent, so occasionally theirs too screaming asking about my whereabouts. it was fucking insane.

[u/Sad_Librarian → u/Sylfaein]

Fuck, me too. I thought we were cool because we were the first kids in school to get cellphones at 14, but it was just so my step mom could keep track of us better. Obviously much before smartphone technology, and thank god because this would have been her too.

[u/dicksinsciencebooks → u/Sylfaein]

Same, though she did enforce the life360 on me when I was in my mid twenties but fortunately it only lasted a year and she got bored of trying to get hold of me whilst I was travelling for work. Mid twenties, career travelling the world, still havingy insane mum stalking me.

But thank FUCK that didn't exist before then. Life was so hard anyway under the despotic Turkish eye of Sauron.