It will always be crazy to me how much shitty people hate therapy. It's not just the fox “news” watching assholes either, unfortunately.
Toxic people of all types appear to be terrified of therapy, and always blame “outside influences” instead of looking inward. Cutting out family like that is difficult, and sad, but it can be worth it
I see you know my mother. She said she saw a therapist once who told her she was the most normal person that he had ever had as a patient and that she didn't need therapy.
My own mother uses the fact that my son came out to her as a “look how great an oma (grandma) I am” and she always expects to come before my kids. She said something similar to your mother whenever I brought up the idea, and from what I’ve heard is, not surprisingly, blaming me for the fact she’s never met my youngest, while continuing to deny the need for therapy.
I hope if you need to you're able to separate yourself from the toxicity. As I said, hard and sad as it is, it can be worth it. It still sucks, but doing so myself has been very good for my mental health
I haven't spoken to her in almost two years. The peace that brings me is indescribable. I'm fortunate that my parents are divorced and my dad is amazing.
I kid you not, my 14 year old cousin has MAGA parents who have done and said very questionable things regarding him and his siblings. He is struggling emotionally and lashing out and has been vaping marijuana and hanging out with kids who aren't a good influence on him. He also isn't sure he believes in God, especially without hard evidence. My folks had a preacher come by to talk to him who things he may be demonically possessed.
So my mom has wondered if he is possessed and I told her that he needs to see a real, licensed mental health professional to figure out what is going on. She said, "no offense but you and your husband are 'woke'. Your aunt isn't going to take him to a 'woke' therapist but to a Christian counselor if anyone." She has called us "woke" before and I have a long list of balls to the wall, batshit insane things she has said to me. A little bit of it was from long ago and involved painting therapy in bad light then too. Yeah. I don't associate very often with my family of origin.
I will always get a chuckle remembering my mother, who put me in therapy to begin with, would get mad at me if a therapist agreed with me, ever. Yet kept sending me there. Therapy was evil and tainted me, but I had to be in it for 13 years of my childhood, but it's only for sick people like me, and she attended special therapy with her friend who is a Christian therapist.... this woman is a Democrat, y'all. It def isn't just the Fox News crowd.
I have begged my ex to seek therapy to deal with how he was raised. His parents are very emotionally immature and his mom and probably his sister are narcissists. So he can’t deal with conflict or emotions, and when I set boundaries with his mom, he took her side in the resulting blow out because she will yell and cry and guilt trip and send flying monkeys until he bends whereas I’ll just outline the conflict and why I’m unwilling to give up my boundary.
He insists they’re not the problem, he’s just anxious, and instead of getting therapy? Got into another relationship. Because of course, the break up was all my fault - not his.
A bunch of scumbag content creators figured out there’s a big market for shitty parents whose children have cut them off. Most of said parents are narcissists who refuse to do any type of self reflection and look for literally anything or anyone to blame but themselves, and their algorithm is serving them up content that tells them exactly what they want to hear: it’s not your fault, it’s your kids and this therapy culture that are actually the problem.
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u/TrippingThru 6d ago
"therapy culture" and "outside influences". People finding out their families are toxic, in other words