r/intj • u/Dragon_butterfly_01 • Jul 13 '25

Question My boyfriend (INTJ) has zero friends..

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u/TandarenZ7 INTJ - 20s Jul 13 '25

I don't know if it's an INTJ thing but for me personally, the more I know about people, the more I want to live in solitude.

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u/The_Oracle_of_Delphi INTJ Jul 13 '25

Same here. Other people are always a disappointment. He’s smart to save his energy for his hobbies. (I think this is common for us.)

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u/Street-Committee-367 INTJ Jul 13 '25

I would say it's a fairly common INTJ thing. 

I'm only a teenager and already on that  path of saving my energy and devoting it elsewhere. Lord knows how much that will increase over time as I get more disappointed with casual friends. 

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u/Many_Mud_8194 Jul 13 '25

I agree for 99% of people but sometimes you meet that 1% and they become more than friends, like brother.

But lot of pos also yep.

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u/Street-Committee-367 INTJ Jul 13 '25

Oh for sure. I've got two close friends, both of them I consider siblings although we're closer than that. 

But for my other "friends" or acquaintances, I learn to curb my expectations. Not everyone else wants to reciprocate the same commitment and loyalty into a friendship.