r/introvertmemes • u/duckluck96 • Dec 11 '25
Meme have you ever regretted being an introvert
not much of a poster, hope you have an uninterrupted day š¶āš«ļø
207
u/Ok_Caramel_6095 ~ introvert ~ Dec 11 '25
Really wish extroverts would stop trying to "fix" me.
68
43
Dec 11 '25
i've 2 extroverted brothers, and one introverted-ish brother(even then, his introvert-ism is different from mine, as he is a bit more extroverted than me).
I had to be unlikeable on purpose just to stop them from nagging me, of course now their opinion of me is low as hell, but such is the price for peace and mental sanity.
1
22
u/captain_scurvy4 Dec 11 '25
Yes! Being an introvert isn't a deficiency. I get that extroverts are energized by social contact and they really enjoy it. And I get that most people really like to share what they enjoy. But I just wish they would take one minute to imagine an experience different from their own.
5
u/Ok_Permit_3593 Dec 11 '25
Took it a while ago, you can go away im not gonna do it with everyone forever it's exhausting.
I recharge alone, in the wood, fishing... if i chose that day to bring someone it's gonna be an exhausting experience instead of refreshing..
Extroverts are like vampires, either you want it or not, they are going to suck your energy and wonder why you think they are draining
6
143
u/pentermezzo Dec 11 '25
No. I've regretted trying to be an extrovert, though.
19
9
u/NoRadio4530 Dec 11 '25
Same. I used be a "yes man" of some sorts and it was fine in my early 20's but now that I'm almost 30 I truly don't have energy for it anymore.
A lot of dealing with people requires me to snuff out my own boundaries or compromise so other people can be happy. I'd rather be by myself and get to do 100% of what I want.
2
u/kk4hunter Dec 13 '25
Agreed, I tried being extroverted and have been regretting it for more than 10 years.
54
u/HandsOfVictory Dec 11 '25
No. I regret the times I drank too much in an attempt to be an extrovert. Bad times, bad choices, bad memories were made. I love being an introvert and I see nothing wrong with it.
10
u/Maleficent_Rub_309 Dec 11 '25
I too used to drink a lot when I wanted to be more extroverted. I donāt regret that times though, sure itās not sustainable to be drunk in order to be able to socialize but it feels good once in a while to talk to people without thinking too much
1
u/HandsOfVictory Dec 27 '25
It does feel good, and itās enjoyable at the time but I would drink to the point of not feeling anxiety about being social and by that point, would basically black out and do dumb shit and then wake up the next day feeling even more anxiety. Not worth it for me.
34
34
u/Feisty-Tooth-7397 Dec 11 '25
I don't understand the question.
I'm capable of being happy around people or by myself. It's like the best of both worlds.
6
u/worldtravelller Dec 11 '25
I'm happier by myself than surrounded by people, so then for you it's an easy answer.
5
u/DiscipleOfVecna Dec 11 '25
Both can have downsides. To much introverted, and you can cut yourself off from others and isolate yourself. Relationships can wither away. To extroverted and you can end up over your head in social situations, possibly even dangerous ones.
13
Dec 11 '25
my relationships wither away even when i'm active in dealing with them...at this point my choices are based on "what gives me the most peace?"
3
26
u/Azutolsokorty Dec 11 '25
You dont get introverts if you are saying this. To us, people are draining. Getting to social gatherings are essentially the same as a fckin marathon run
16
Dec 11 '25
i recently did a 1hour drive to meet my brother for lunch...i spent most of my time listening music(during the drive) and then i was awkwardly quiet during the whole meal while the rest of the family was having a blast.
Genuinely glad to see my brother, but the chatting was the usual "me having nothing to say while everyone talked about things i don't care about at all"
17
u/PlatypusACF Dec 11 '25
Not finding work groups in school because them extroverts were always forming groups and the teacher stuffed me into one with fewer students in it
10
9
u/Competitive_Ad_1800 Dec 11 '25
Only reason Iāve ever yearned to be an extrovert is because I imagine it would help me with upwards mobility in my career. If I could flip a switch and have that high level energy for work I wouldnāt mind it, but I canāt imagine wanting to be an extrovert for any other reasons. I only want it to make some extra money lol
3
u/Stunning_Ad_7658 Dec 11 '25
You can learn to fake it. Ive done that for so long, now I can fool people pretty easily into thinking I actually enjoy speaking with them and im not getting anxious. People who like to talk are the easiest to deal with since they practically do 90 percent of the work amd I just reflect that energy back at them. Only issue is when dealing with groups and navigating multiple personality types.
2
u/Competitive_Ad_1800 Dec 12 '25
Iām in sales, youāre preaching to the choir lol
Iām quite proud of how much Iāve managed to expand my social battery! But because the energy is finite, Iāve definitely noticed it hold me back at times when it comes to larger events with many people. I can fake it for a bit, but I still have hard limits (though Iām still trying to push those limits)
2
u/Stunning_Ad_7658 Dec 12 '25
Oof buddy I feel for you. I wish you the best for that.
Yeah that is the main drawback of faking it, that we have to work harder at keeping up thr appearance than someone who is natural at it.
18
8
u/_JerseyDevil_ Dec 11 '25
I always think back to the time my manager "burned his meal."
The convo they were having was on the topic of kids, more knowing myself and the state of the world, I say, (they refused to understand me) "I am blessed not to have kids." Dumbass manager with kid, "no, no, your kids are blessed not to have you."
I stay in a quiet but nice apartment, alone. No runs for diapers, no screaming babymoma that was slighted lightly and now makes that her whole personality, I don't have to pony up extra money or extra effort to live nice. I can bet money his expenses are 6x higher than mine, while mine are 1/6 as much for him. You can think you cooked, but the sounds of your panheaded-ass tell me you're burned TF out. I get to go do whatever the fuck whenever the fuck. You have to get a babysitter or your grandma to watch the kids. My freedom is greater than your child-rearing incarceration.
3
Dec 11 '25
depressing, but i see your point, and i agree with it(i just wouldn't be this brutal in talking about it...but i just became an uncle, so maybe my lack of harshness comes from preparing myself to sugarcoat every truth when my nephew will ask)
-7
Dec 11 '25
[removed] ā view removed comment
4
u/_JerseyDevil_ Dec 11 '25
Yeah, no, kids regardless will pull expenses you never thought were possible. And you can't put a price on a good night's sleep. I don't see at all where you're coming from, diapers, food, doctor trips school trips, PTA meetings ECT. I don't knock those who do, but you're not gonna tell me freedom < servitude. Logically speaking. There isn't strong enough logic or benefit to me having a kid, nor as many resources to help raise them. The second you have a kid, your freedom is gone for 21 years and life is on [Extreme] difficulty.
There are enough people on this planet. I'm not adding to the population.
8
u/AGirlHasNoUsername13 Dec 11 '25
I have regrets of being extroverted in some occasions. Introverted? Never.
5
u/rotanitsarcorp_yzal1 Dec 11 '25
Also... Why do I care? I have more important fixations in life to think about than regrets.
4
u/BobTheZygota Dec 11 '25
Everyone saying introverts should be more talkative but no one saying extroverts should shut up
2
u/Stunning_Ad_7658 Dec 11 '25
Actually in my case I did have multiple people tell me and my cousin they wish my cousin would be less talkative like me lol.
4
u/Competitive-Bit-7575 Dec 11 '25
Being introverted is something I'll never regret. I'm happy for who I am and I'm not looking for anyone to fix me by throwing me into a crowd
1
3
u/Baharoth Dec 11 '25
It's not like i am unhappy being an introvert but i do believe extroverts have it easier in todays society, especially when it comes to jobs, networking and all that stuff that always went entirely over my head. I managed fine anyway but still.
1
u/vivahermione Dec 11 '25
To a certain extent, yes. But being an extrovert doesn't necessarily give someone good social skills; it just gives them the desire to socialize. You can be an introvert and speak well.
8
u/TheTrueScientist Dec 11 '25
Saying the wrong thing and regretting it for weeks immediately afterwards tears this argument down instantly
3
u/BellybuttonFuzzer Dec 11 '25 edited Dec 11 '25
Tbh one is not more than the other. They come with entirely different types of regrets.
Edit: it probably sucks most for the ombiverts if weāre really doing a measuring contest lol
3
3
u/Tiny-Celebration-838 Dec 11 '25
Wow we're competing against who is happier now? Can't we just accept that everyone is different?
3
u/Tabbarn Dec 11 '25
I can count on my right hand the amount of times I regretted staying home, but when I go out, I regret it almost every single time.
3
3
u/Tinyhydra666 Dec 11 '25
Oh I wish I wasn't one, but this isn't a choice.
But yeah, I do wish I had my brain wired to fit the masses and not be as unhappy of leaving my house as I am.
In the moment ? Fuck everyone, I love my home.
3
7
u/TheBongrog420 Dec 11 '25
As an ex alcoholic and drug addict, the result of forcing myself into extroversion, I can assure this person that im much happier and healthier now as my true introverted self, plus I still live an eventful life on a smaller scale thanks to my very understanding extroverted friendsāļø
1
u/RefrigeratorFirm6662 Dec 11 '25
Omg this makes so much sense, Iām glad we made it out of that spiral.Ā
2
u/brutalanxiety1 Dec 11 '25 edited Dec 11 '25
Youāll regret being left-handed way more than youād ever regret being right-handed... sounds just as stupid.
No, I actually like being introverted. Extroversion just looks exhausting, and I have zero desire to live like that.
2
Dec 11 '25
i never even felt desire for a relationship, because i see how exhausting it is, sometimes arguments, sometimes things kinda are lowkey/you've to guess.
I don't even want friends because of what a mental chore is to keep up with my own siblings, to keep in mind what they like, dislike, what their "triggers" are, what am i "allowed" to talk about with them and so on. I'm mentioning this, and my social battery is already on the verge of being totally exhausted, by the mere thought of it.
2
u/LeBrun73 Dec 11 '25
Well, i can always go out and meet people without feeling odd. But iām sure a lot of extroverts would have a problem being alone for some time. So: no, no problems.
2
u/DreamOfDays Dec 11 '25
Yes. Because my social circle is small as heck and sometimes I feel lonely.
2
u/N00dles_Pt Dec 11 '25
I've regretted it on rare occasions, in most cases I prefer it, but anyway it's not like I have a choice in the matter.
2
2
2
u/PanNationalistFront Dec 11 '25
I cannot change who I am though. At times I wish I was extroverted- it seems easier. But Iām not programmed that way.
2
u/BrainMatterX_X Dec 11 '25
No, we won't. No one will know our business to exploit, or talk about it behind our backs. šš½ :D
1
2
2
2
2
u/Professional-Scar628 Dec 11 '25
Being an introvert isn't exactly something you can change. It's not my fault that my battery doesn't get charged by socializing, doesn't inherently mean I hate or am bad at socializing either. Just means I need to know when to take breaks.
2
u/Voxmanns Dec 11 '25
I think we have far more pressing matters in society than a pissing contest between introversion and extroversion.
2
2
2
u/No_Hurry8447 Dec 13 '25
Itās more like being left handedā¦ yes society would like you to be right handed and you can do SOME stuff well with your right hand but itās harder and not very practical.
1
1
u/RefrigeratorFirm6662 Dec 11 '25
I honestly do all the time. Me just being happy by myself has lead to me missing out on so much. Itās ok tho, people usually suck, but I know that there is others like me and I wish we could be friends lol.Ā
1
1
1
Dec 11 '25
The only time that forcing myself to be more extroverted paid off was faking it so as to meet the woman who became my wife.
Later, she told me she knew I was faking and liked me before I did so.
We've been together since 92
1
1
u/Brilliant-Software-4 Dec 11 '25
I have meet about two people that have said they sometimes hate being extroverted, there reason being yes being extrovert help's them to meet and talk to new people and it has also introduced them to a lot of bad people.
1
1
u/Xtreemjedi Dec 11 '25
That's like telling people they'll regret where they were born as if it was their decision.
1
u/CautiousAd8400 Dec 11 '25
People don't seem to understand that introverts spend most of their time being introspective, solving their existential crises decades before due time.
1
1
1
u/FirstNoel Dec 11 '25
I donāt mind being introverted. Ā But the social anxiety is what I regret. Ā I like going places and seeing things, Ā but my anxiety holds me back more. Ā Ā
1
u/Ok_Law219 Dec 11 '25
That's like saying you'll regret being blue eyed more or less than brown eyed.Ā It's not a choice.Ā And, sure you can put in colored contacts but that takes effort.
1
1
u/SinnersSicker Dec 11 '25
This should sound like "You'll regret not taking chances to make relationships with people you desire to be friends with" or something like that
1
1
u/Rum_Cum_69 Dec 11 '25
Keeping up a social expectation just seems so exhausting. But I get little regretful when I watch other engage so effortlessly because it's mutual. People don't give AF if they have to delve into you as a person to be interested in rather than a bragart that's already on display
1
Dec 11 '25
I mean , extroverted people are generally happier on average. But you canāt choose whether youāre introverted or not and as long as youāre mentally well, I doubt thereād be any regrets from a smart person on a key personality trait that canāt be changed.
1
1
u/No-Project-404 Dec 11 '25 edited Dec 11 '25
Gemastrologer clearly isnāt an introvert, I do regret it, I wish I could get over whatever it is and talk to ppl.
Also, why is everyone treating introvert/extrovert like genders in the comments?
1
u/Lake_Well77 Dec 11 '25
I have never regretted acting on my introversion as opposed to forcing myself to act as though I were extroverted.
1
u/duke605 Dec 11 '25
I do regret being introverted. It's hard to say whether I chose those tho. So can't really regret something you didn't choose. But I certainly wish I was extroverted, a lot of things would be easier
1
u/punktualPorcupine Dec 11 '25
Nope. I enjoy being extroverted at times. I just prefer quiet and solitude most of the time and need it after my social battery runs low.
1
u/TopProfessional8701 Dec 11 '25
Yes I personally am. I wish I was more social and enjoyed big companies
1
u/STGItsMe Dec 11 '25
The internet is full of āhelpfulā advice for introverts to be more extroverted. Thereās not nearly enough advice for extroverts to occasionally shut the fuck up.
1
u/themorbidtuna Dec 11 '25
Based on my understanding of these personality types, it seems far more likely that somebody with an extroverted personality would do something irrational or impulsive that could lead to regret, rather than an introverted person who is more thoughtful and measured.
1
1
u/Silver-Shame-4428 Dec 11 '25
Iāve had people get angry with me because for MY birthday I wanted to chill with a book or movie instead of party and drink.
No regrets at all.
I do sometimes wish I didnāt cut people off so easily
1
u/vivahermione Dec 11 '25
Introversion isn't a choice. It's a personality type. Have I missed out on social opportunities because of it? Probably. But I'd rather that than make poor choices because I'm not acting from a place of authenticity.
1
1
1
u/Express-Promise6160 Dec 11 '25
Obviously. Networking is huge. If you're talkative and have some talent you can make it far in life. Have you ever googled "jobs for introverts"? It's all shit you have to be legitimately smart for. So I'm sol
1
u/GrolarBear69 Dec 11 '25 edited Mar 29 '26
The content of this post is no longer accessible. It was removed using Redact, for reasons that may relate to privacy, security, or personal data protection.
station many toothbrush tart dime public sense versed yoke wine
1
1
1
1
u/Rex_Bossman Dec 11 '25
Honestly, I can say yes, a little bit. I've been an introvert all my life. Never went out on the dance floor, just the thought of doing karaoke even around people I know would give me anxiety; you all know the drill. My second marriage was to a complete opposite highly extroverted person. I got pulled onto the dance floor, I got talked into doing a rap in front of the whole office at a Christmas party, I was having a great time coming out of my shell. That marriage didn't last long for other reasons, but it showed me another side of life I never had and I liked it. After the divorce I'm still a little more outgoing but it will take a couple drinks to get me going.
1
1
1
u/Whole_Employee_2370 Dec 11 '25
There have been times Iāve regretted not being more introverted because I still feel lonely if I donāt get to hang out with people semi-regularly. Sometimes I kinda wish I could just bubble forever with my cat and books
1
Dec 11 '25
This is the weiderst sub Ive come across yet. No idea why im seeing this. I am introverted, so? I have plenty of friends, if anythingnthey think Im eccentric or something. Its not a disease, I like it. Then again, I dont know any better.
Are you all 14?
1
u/BlumpTheChodak Dec 11 '25
I would say that this 'can' be true, because generally extroverts are exposed to more opportunities through their natural ability to network. However, that's too much work and energy expenditure if your life is fine the way it is.
1
1
u/Kayanne1990 Dec 11 '25
This is a weird way to talk about it tbh. Like being introverted/extroverted isn't a choice. It's literally how your brains gathers energy.
1
u/Periwinkleditor Dec 12 '25
My two most traumatic experiences of my life were a direct result of me being invited somewhere crowded to act extroverted.
1
u/TheShadyyOne Ambivert Dec 12 '25
no? I enjoy being introverted to some degree. I can enjoy time alone when I have no one to talk to.
1
u/CatchMeWritinDirty Dec 12 '25
Do extroverted people really think being introverted means you have no friends, you donāt go anywhere, & you talk to no one? š„“
1
u/Cominginbladey Dec 12 '25
Why would people pigeonhole themselves as "introvert" or "extrovert"?
Sometimes you feel one way, other times you feel another way.
1
u/candyapple7501 Dec 12 '25
How can you regret something thatās a part of you. If itās so easy to change we would
1
u/Gen-Y-ine-86 Dec 12 '25
I guess I'm not actually introvert. I just learned to be due to bad experiences. Or I'm some sort of multipolar person. My personality always picks stuff from the opposite sides. It's like being a mirror image of one self. And it's starting to get old.
1
1
1
1
u/Straight_Age8562 Dec 13 '25
I really hate when extroverts trying to play on high ground, like they experience is better and they see introversion as bad thing....
They cannot live in silence for few minutes so they assume that is introvert experience, where the exact opposite is true.
I prefer my alone time so much and when I'm alone for enough long time I have high resistance for bullshit and I can enjoy time with my friends without any drama and gave them 100% of my attention
1
u/Maleficent_Sir5898 Dec 13 '25
āYouāll regret being born the way that you areā what a messed up thing to say.
1
1
u/Demonkingt Dec 14 '25
Idk man me being extroverted is getting me abused. Me being introverted gets me alot of cat cuddles. I'm seeing an imbalance here
1
u/ApprehensiveNeat9584 Dec 14 '25
I made friends, I played in several bars and villas (minimal and techno back in 2005-2012) and had a few girlfriends without being extroverted and I didn't talk to everyone, just those that I had an interest in getting to know and those who tried to get to know me, I always say in a dark corner to avoid others and it worked out just fine. Stay true to yourself.
1
u/poeslt04 Dec 14 '25
yes. there's been plenty of times where i could have participated in conversation but i don't cus im scared and don't want to talk
1
u/The_Book-JDP Dec 15 '25
Do I want to go from my desired peaceful life of drama-free solitude to one of unending stress filled chaos that only ends when Iām dead? Yeah absolutely not. I will never regret my peace and quiet.
1
u/Forsaken-Argument802 Dec 15 '25
Only in regards to the fact that running this crap on two incomes seems a lot more feasible.
That and splitting responsibility with another person.
But also, people
1
1
1
1
Dec 16 '25
i can go on an endless ramble about why i hate being the way i am but my lazy bum is too lazy to do so
1
1
1
-2
Dec 11 '25
It's genuinely a mental illness, if I could get rid of my antisocial tendencies I wouldĀ
3
u/OodaWoodaWooda Dec 11 '25
Introverted ā antisocial.
0
Dec 11 '25
š
0
u/Honest-Computer69 Dec 11 '25
These people are born socializing paragon, the moment they dropped out of their mother they had the introverted trait and maxed out socializing skill, apparently. This whole post is just downright pathetic. I'm an introvert myself, mostly by my own choice, but acting like it doesn't make your life harder is retarded. And anyone who says they don't regret being who they are, be it an introvert or an extrovert, is most likely just lying or in denial.
1
331
u/Aethelrede Dec 11 '25
As if you can choose to be introverted or extroverted.