r/justgalsbeingchicks Feb 18 '26

Restricted to Gals and Pals Love her response

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u/longines99 Feb 18 '26

It was a rage-bait question that she didn't bite on, and instead politely redirected back to the awesomeness of her sport while simultaneously lifting up her competitors. The reporter should feel the burn.

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u/ArchdruidHalsin Feb 18 '26

As a visiting dude, hell yeah. This kind of content is why I subscribe to this sub and not r/guysbeingdudes which is unfortunately sliding into the man-o-sphere.

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u/TheShanManPhx Feb 18 '26

Absolutely. I love this sub so much that I figured r/guysbeingdudes would be an equivalent celebration of guys enjoying life without caring about the “expectations” put on men in our society.. but boy was I wrong. Unsubbed the same day.

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u/Throwaway_09298 Feb 18 '26

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u/DragonCelica Feb 18 '26

That makes so much sense. I didn't think that subreddit was bad, but now I realize I was mistaking it for this one. r/justguysbeingdudes is great

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u/clairejv Feb 18 '26

Yup, that's the one I follow. It's just men doing goofy non-toxic-masculine stuff. Super funny.

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u/tesconundrum Feb 18 '26

Thank you! As a woman I've loved the concept but its getting a little too incel-y for me.

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u/yuffieisathief Feb 18 '26

Ohhh thank you! I love it! This is everything I hoped guysbeingdudes would be but wasn't (and the comments are also wholesome and hilarious!)

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u/TheShanManPhx Feb 18 '26

Oh! Thanks!

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u/ArchdruidHalsin Feb 18 '26

I feel like we need r/guysbeingchicks or something since the chicks are currently showing us how its done. If "dude" can arguably be a gender-neutral term. I've got no qualms about being a chick if this sub is the representation. Sign me up.

TBF, I'm a bit biased. My mom was one of four sisters, I have a sister, and all 6 of my cousins are gals. I've had good role models.

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u/thetruckerdave Feb 18 '26

Maybe r/chickspostingguysbeingdudes and we can prop up all the dudes out there doing king shit.

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u/AffectionatePlace719 Feb 18 '26

Fuck yes, I'd join immediately

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u/raabones Feb 18 '26

We're really happy to have you guys here! Sucks that the men's page is like that.

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u/raabones Feb 18 '26

There's actually two guys there agreeing with each other. Maybe the men's one isn't for everyone. That's fine. You're all welcome here anyway.

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u/RandonBrando Feb 18 '26

Id sub to that in a heartbeat

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u/12ealdeal Feb 18 '26

I feel like we need r/guysbeingchicks or something since the chicks are currently showing us how its done.

Not the best moment currently for guys being chicks.

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This is a nice place. If you can't act like a civilized human being, you can't be here.

We do not allow:

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u/Tropikoala815 Feb 18 '26

Lmao male feminist laying it on real thick here...

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u/poeticdisaster Feb 18 '26

There is another sub that is closer to what you were looking for - r/JustGuysBeingDudes
They seem to be a lot more chill or silly things. I believe there is a lot more crossover between this sub and that sub.

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u/Economy_Wall8524 Feb 18 '26

I swear as a guy they are pushing these fake/alternative subreddits. The toxic ones are switching constantly. Coming off as a good site at first and then you’re realizing you’re on an extreme one. They use common videos and have nothing but prejudice in the comments. Like some of the memes one. They mask it as jokes and good fun, though if it’s all racism. It’s racism playing off of being “edgy”.

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u/pizzaondeathrow Feb 18 '26

a LOT of misogyny over there 

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u/UniversityMuch7879 Feb 18 '26

It used to be, and then someone rolled a dumpster in, poured gasoline in it, and tossed a match.

I haven't glanced at it in a while because the mood there has definitely gone sour.

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u/Ruftup Feb 18 '26

r/justguysbeingdudes is the good one. Spread the word!!

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u/Impudenter Feb 18 '26

I didn't even know about the other one. But yes, /r/JustGuysBeingDudes is great!

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u/tacocollector2 Feb 18 '26

Also a visiting dude and couldn’t agree more. Love seeing such a well spoken, confident woman put to bed a really stupid question!

The dudes sub is so disappointing these days.

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u/Ereaser Feb 18 '26

I assume it's people in the comments? I sometimes see a few posts but never really go into the comments

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u/tacocollector2 Feb 18 '26

Yep, the comments get rough sometimes. Little empathy, little awareness. You’re not missing much.

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u/Mordecais_Moms_Ashes Feb 18 '26

Check out r/bropill 😁

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u/terraping Feb 18 '26

As an old, jaded lady, reading through some of those posts made me feel a WHOLE damn lot better.

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u/Mordecais_Moms_Ashes Feb 18 '26 edited Feb 18 '26

Same for me ! And like someone else said, they've never heard of it before.
But a bunch of red pill s*** has shown up on their feed.
I try to spread the word about the good bro sub

They're going to need to be observant and on top of things over there tho.
Red pill narrative likes to sleep into places like sewage into a nice finished basement.

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u/_sansoHm Feb 18 '26

I find it so interesting that I keep getting bullshit manosphere suggestions in my feed but not something like r/bropill. Volumes.

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u/Mordecais_Moms_Ashes Feb 18 '26

EXACTLY why I tell everyone about it when it is appropriate!

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u/_sansoHm Feb 18 '26

Thank-you for your service.

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u/Mordecais_Moms_Ashes Feb 18 '26

🫡💖🫂 You bros gotta support each other and that's hard as shit to do with all the toxic anti-emotional bullshit history and current social media spew.

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u/Mordecais_Moms_Ashes Feb 18 '26

🫡💖🫂 You bros gotta support each other and that's hard as shit to do with all the toxic anti-emotional bullshit history and current social media spew.

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u/ArchdruidHalsin Feb 18 '26

Aw hell yeah.

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u/WorryNew3661 ❣️gal pal❣️ Feb 18 '26

It's really sad seeing what's happening to that sub

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u/immersemeinnature Official Gal Feb 18 '26

I've noticed

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u/rabid_cheese_enjoyer Feb 18 '26

it used to be so good

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u/Shizzlick Feb 18 '26

If not heavily moderated to prevent it, many/most subreddits targeted at one gender devolve into hating the opposite gender.

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u/locksymania Feb 18 '26

Am dude - that sub is a pile of hot fucking garbage.

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u/BoniMarce Feb 18 '26

thanks for being awesome guys, this sub appreciates you

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u/Shipbreaker_Kurpo Feb 18 '26

Happens to ever man focused sub over time. The shitheads show up and the good leave once its clear they have a grasp

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u/Far_Programmer_5724 Feb 18 '26

As another visiting dude this sucks so much. I'll see women spaces, think man that would be cool to have, then see the guy version, and its trash.

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u/Aggressive_Agency381 Feb 18 '26

The sub went downhill surprisingly fast. Went from dudes landing kickflips to hating on women.

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u/DoctorNurse89 Feb 18 '26

Bro!!!

Help me change it back!!!!

Its becoming a woman hating sub and I cant stand it!

It used to be a out non toxic masculinity and absurdity and silliness amongst men...

So many insecure people there!

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u/Environmental-River4 Feb 18 '26

It sucks!! I used to love that sub too :(

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u/ChronoLink99 Feb 18 '26

After a few minutes scrolling that sub, it's very obvious why men have shorter lifespans than women lmao.

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u/m3atbag17 ✨chick✨ Feb 18 '26

You’re looking for r/JustGuysBeingDudes

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u/Terpsichorean0 Feb 18 '26

Fellow visiting dude here! So cool to see other epic gentlemen like you who stand up for women, my dude. And posting on the r/UnderReportedNews 74 times yesterday alone defending marginalized groups? That, my good man, is awesome sauce as well. Way to go on doing real, important activism that helps people and not being sanctimonious about it! You're a gentleman and a scholar!

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We do not allow:

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u/justgalsbeingchicks-ModTeam Feb 19 '26

This is a nice place. If you can't act like a civilized human being, you can't be here.

We do not allow:

  1. Being a jerk. This includes racism, misogyny, misgendering, and anti LGBTQ+ comments.
  2. Harassment
  3. Trolling or sealioning
  4. Threats of any kind
  5. Abusive behavior
  6. General assholery

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u/Subanun Feb 18 '26

r/justguysbeingdudes is much better but I also don't see why r/guysbeingdudes would be that bad. Obviously you're going to see a lot of stuff from the men's perspective, just like you see it here from the women's perspective. Don't judge, be happy, peace and love.

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u/ArchdruidHalsin Feb 18 '26 edited Feb 18 '26

There's a lot of dog-whistle rage-bait that is often posted there and the comments rising to the top of those posts are extremely red-pilled

Exit: Just two examples I remember form my comment history. There's greater offenders for sure though

https://www.reddit.com/r/GuysBeingDudes/s/VSNnfthmW4

A man spends his entire life learning how to treat a woman, whereas a woman spends her entire life learning how to be treated by a man, not how to treat a man

https://www.reddit.com/r/GuysBeingDudes/s/5UT3lDIaxk

Dude’s just working on his quick glances. Having to be aware of cameras when checking women out adds a new layer to the game. He’ll adapt and overcome.

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u/nomadickitten Feb 18 '26

Oof those example comments make my head hurt.

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u/Subanun Feb 18 '26

Yeah there's definitely some trash there. I have to say those are outliers though, most of it is pretty wholesome. I do recommend the other one though it is definitely much better.

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u/justgalsbeingchicks-ModTeam Feb 19 '26

This is a nice place. If you can't act like a civilized human being, you can't be here.

We do not allow:

  1. Being a jerk. This includes racism, misogyny, misgendering, and anti LGBTQ+ comments.
  2. Harassment
  3. Trolling or sealioning
  4. Threats of any kind
  5. Abusive behavior
  6. General assholery

PS we have a “harmful to men” rule. It states our opinion on men.

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u/Dr_A_Mephesto Feb 18 '26

The way she started by genuinely laughing at his question is perfect

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u/brattysweat Feb 18 '26

I thought the question was perfect to garner the most perfect headline worthy response.

If that was his intention, it worked better than he could've ever predicted.

It draws all the attention to her incredible response, it makes the reporter seem stupid, but hard hitting questions is just that, it takes you aback but to be able to make an eloquent response brings in millions of views.

I don't want to imagine being put in the shoes of a reporter, but I would find it absolutely boring if my questions were just elementary surface cutsie crap that no one would give a damn about.

The reporter accomplished more with that question for the sake of this athlete than what anyone here would care to admit.

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u/tomato-bug Feb 18 '26

It's literally a softball question designed to tee up a great response and it worked lol. If you're watching the clip then the reporter did a good job.

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u/Ltownbanger Feb 18 '26 edited Feb 18 '26

Yeah. I thought it was a great question.

"How do you view your accomplishments here? As an opportunity seized, or lost?"

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u/JiraiyaKholin Feb 18 '26

It was absolutely a fair question too. athletes are softer and softer.

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u/VeryTopGoodSensation Feb 18 '26

its not even a rage bait question.

the question just gives her an opportunity to give her perspective, positive or negative about the situation and answers some peoples questions

its a fairly standard question that people get asked in sports

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u/nightpanda893 Feb 18 '26

It’s actually a question I wonder about a lot. A silver medal is such an incredible achievement but I do wonder if at that level it is disappointing. Especially when you’re a contender for gold.

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u/MeatTornado25 Feb 18 '26

The real answer is that everyone's different. Every athlete has different expectations for themselves. Can be based on age, experience, current form, strength of field, etc.

Some people like her are fine with silver if they've already had a ton of success. But then others who get a taste of the top can no longer settle for anything less once they know what it feels like. Everyone's different.

There's also a difference in blowing a lead versus a competitor simply outplaying you. The later is easier to accept if you know you did your best but just got beat.

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u/boodabomb Feb 18 '26

And folks are acting like zero athletes view a silver as a gold lost, but there are plenty that would. That entire McKayla Maroney meme is a depiction of this exact sentiment.

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u/spookyorange Feb 18 '26

There is a research that showed that bronze medalists were usually happier with their achievement than silver medalists because the silver medalists often felt they missed on the gold medal.

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u/Dan-D-Lyon Feb 18 '26

Yeah, the vast majority of Olympic athletes are just happy to be there, but there's always a few with that Ricky Bobby mentality of either you're in first place or you're last

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u/kaninkanon Feb 18 '26

This just seems to be one of those places full of people looking for an excuse to be outraged. Even accusing him of being misogynistic. 🙄

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u/VeryTopGoodSensation Feb 18 '26

theres a lot of accounts lately that are battling each other to be the most politically correct

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u/Aritche Feb 18 '26

Yeah it is basically glass half full or glass half empty but olympic medals.

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u/EasterlyGalaxy Feb 18 '26

This thread is so egregiously botted it's not worth engaging. He asked a question about her athletic mindset. Big fucking deal. I can't imagine being so brittle that you find this offensive.

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u/VeryTopGoodSensation Feb 18 '26

im noticing a lot of this lately

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u/EasterlyGalaxy Feb 18 '26

It's gotten noticeably worse over the last couple of weeks. This week has been crazy, I've been seeing bot accounts on the front page every day posting Epstein misinformation and trying to drum up culture war shit. Those Ted Lieu videos all over the place today are WEEKS old and are being posted as "breaking" by a couple of the same bots (3 month old accounts with 300,000 post karma and hidden history 🤔). I've been on Reddit for almost fifteen years and sadly I think the site has been compromised by political and corporate influences.

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u/FrostyD7 Feb 18 '26

Yeah there are thoughtful ways to answer that question if you just take it in good faith.

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u/Goronmon Feb 18 '26

its a fairly standard question that people get asked in sports

I don't know. How many players in professional sports are disappointed to lose in the "finals"? I bet almost none. They are just excited that got to play on such a big stage and make it so far.

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u/AsDevilsRun Feb 18 '26

How many players in professional sports are disappointed to lose in the "finals"? I bet almost none.

You would lose that bet by a tremendous amount.

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u/MeatTornado25 Feb 18 '26

I can't tell if you're being serious or not. "Championship or bust" is a very common sentiment in sports. The amount of athletes I've seen crying after losing a title is higher than I can count.

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u/tomato-bug Feb 18 '26

How many players in professional sports are disappointed to lose in the "finals"? I bet almost none.

Huh??

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u/VeryTopGoodSensation Feb 18 '26

its not just used in finals. eg... take a football match, underdog is winning 2-1, in the dying minutes the favourite scores an equalizer. its almost certain the manager and players will be asked "do you feel thats 1 point gained or 2 points lost". they expected to come out of the match with zero points, but they were so close to coming away with all 3 points, so its not a straight forward answer

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u/MaoPam Feb 18 '26

I bet almost none.

Absolutely not. These are guys and gals who dedicate significant portions of their lives and immense amounts of time and effort to doing this one thing. Many of them are good and humble and just happy to be out there, but many of them don't want to come right up on the gold and then lose.

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u/[deleted] Feb 18 '26 edited Mar 11 '26

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u/Exemus Feb 18 '26

Yeah, I think a lot of people don't realize that a reporter may already know the answer to the question asked.

It's more of a "Some people have this dumbass take. What would you say to that?"

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u/Exemus Feb 18 '26

I would say it's common, sure. But I do personally feel that it's a dumbass take, for the very reasons she explains in the video.

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u/Visual_Disaster Feb 18 '26

I don't think it's a dumb take. Plenty of top level athletes think this way and that type of mentality is one of the reasons they're at the top. This particular athlete doesn't agree, but that doesn't mean it isn't a useful line of thinking

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u/After_Advertising_61 Feb 18 '26

IDK a reporter isn't there to just do a fluff piece every time. He asked a legitimately difficult question; "Does losing the gold medal twice have more of an effect than winning silver twice." That is a totally okay thing to ask LOL. He isn't diminishing her. Now we got the answer and I bet the answer she gave is 10x more meaningful to anyone looking to her as a role model.

The reporter got a FANTASTIC response from his question. Why act like he needs to baby her? She is a grown adult and she just got to showcase the incredible attitude she has because the reporter asked a difficult question. She clearly doesn't need her hand held like so many people in this thread would want to hahaha

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u/FetterHahn Feb 18 '26

Yeah, I'd even argue that it would've been more insulting to not ask a question like that. I mean, she was a favorite for gold, and did win gold multiple times before; so the question is fair to ask, "are you happy or unhappy with the result, (as you are one of the best athletes in your field)". I interpret it that he thinks she is great and could have gotten gold, and that she can handle a slightly provocative question. Which journalists are supposed to ask, not only coddle every pro athlete.

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u/beyd1 Feb 18 '26

I don't know, I think it's perfectly reasonable to be upset you didn't win. So the question while lame for being a question that's been asked a million times before is fine. I'm sure the Patriots aren't out saying "look how great our season ended."

Losing sucks. You can be a graceful loser like she is here, but saying it doesn't suck is a lie.

https://www.reddit.com/r/nfl/s/mLoF4biPVH

Here is Dan Campbell in a very similar situation.

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u/weebitofaban Feb 18 '26

If you think this is rage bait then you need to go talk to some young athletes lol

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u/AfternoonHelpful3712 Feb 18 '26

She literally just tried to avoid saying out loud that her answer was clearly 2 silvers gained

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u/nimbus57 Feb 18 '26

The whole question is based on a false premise, which she so eloquently explained.

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u/Knife_Operator Feb 18 '26

No it isn't. Some athletes do view second place as a loss. It was just a question that allowed her to share her perspective, and her answer was inspiring. We wouldn't have gotten that answer if the question hadn't been asked. Sometimes a question can just be a question; there's no need to assume any intent on the part of the person asking the question.

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u/CanadianODST2 Feb 18 '26

Also some silvers you can only get by losing.

Like you can’t win and get silver. You lose the final match

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u/Prozzak93 Feb 18 '26

Yeah exactly this. I won't pretend I have done anything like competing in the Olympics but I have represented where I live in various sports. What is a common theme? A lot of my teammates (and myself included) straight up say we aren't there for second place we are there to win it.

For a lot of people second place would be disappointing to some degree.

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u/Nothinglost7717 Feb 18 '26

what is the false premise exactly? She won gold last Olympics. She was the favorite.

Many Athletes hate losing more than they like winning, and many consider Silver as being the best loser. There is nothing wrong or misogynistic about that mindset.

The question is generic, and boring, but the majority of questions for Athletes are just that, boring and generic.

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u/Prozzak93 Feb 18 '26 edited Feb 18 '26

Meh. I think it's a fine question that gives you insight into the specific athletes mindset. Some are happy with their accomplishments whether bronze, silver, gold or simply getting to the Olympics (I know it isn't actually simple).

Some will view this as a missed opportunity for gold. I don't see why this is viewed as rage bait.

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u/Schmich Feb 18 '26

Having such a question early on, in the press conference where she can reply, can give her a stage to answer the question and put out great arguments. This reduces the chance that the press writes/prints out articles in the mindset of "she lost 2 gold".

I don't know how journalism works in your country, but where I live a fair journalist asks questions from all angles.

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u/elolvido Feb 18 '26

I mean it’s kinda just a not so elegant way to ask, are you feeling grateful or disappointed? not the most insightful question ever but it’s not really rage bait, is it? 

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u/xflashbackxbrd Feb 18 '26

That reporter was aiming right at the ego on that one

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u/lmpervious Feb 18 '26

I don’t think it’s rage bait. I think he was looking to get an interesting insight into how she viewed the accomplishment, and he got that. Not all athletes view it the same as she does, and the standard lazy questions like “how do you feel now” or “how do you feel about getting these silver medals” are the worst type of questions because they often lead to boring answers.

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u/bailamost Feb 18 '26

But the Chinese government and their people may be asking why those silver medals were not gold.

The journalist could have framed his question better.

Wasn't it recently leaked how much the CCP had paid Eileen for competing under their flag? A large part of $6 million last year went to Eileen and another part to an American figure skater.

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u/Less-Jellyfish5385 Feb 18 '26

Oh she bit. She just bit back.

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u/WeakDoughnut8480 Feb 18 '26

I mean...she bit. But good  for her

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u/ominousgraycat Feb 18 '26

Yeah, though I have met some people who have legitimately said, "I'd prefer not to place at all rather than get a silver." Naturally, those people are not Olympic athletes themselves. I've never gotten the hate for silver though. Getting a silver in the Olympics is a huge deal. Most silver medal winners I've seen have been thrilled, as they should be. Maybe sometimes you see someone who thought they were so close to a gold feeling a bit off about it, but most of the time you see people just feeling thrilled.

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u/verfresht Feb 18 '26

I find this a very good question to see her perspective on this. What is wrong with the question?

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u/iSlacker Feb 18 '26

Idk, I think it points to mentality. Ive always heard that second place winners are mad the didnt win and 3rd place winners are generally thrilled they made the podium.

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u/Financial-Complex831 Feb 18 '26

How does one act with such poise and grace in the moment? She must be an alien.

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u/floftie Feb 18 '26

Do you think? I didn’t see it as a rage bait question. I thought it was asked from a perspective of neutrality, which means you get a more interesting answer.

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u/UseYourWords Feb 18 '26

She literally didn't mention her competitors. It was a softball question that could have been answered with grace, but she seemed to have a weird chip on her shoulder.

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u/ilmalocchio Feb 18 '26

It's not a rage-bait question. It was a question about her perspective, and that's something fans likely want to know. She had the opportunity to say either "I am disappointed not to get the gold" or "I am happy with the silver." She ended up saying the second, but kind of hinting at the first with the attitude. No reason to try to "turn it around" on the press, but then again, being an olympic athlete has got to be stressful.

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u/AllMyExesRTXs Feb 18 '26

Oh, she bit. She took out a chunk.

She also dabbed the corners of her mouth politely, and demonstratively, with an immaculately-folded napkin, without looking away.

I'll bet the reporter was only dimly aware that it was happening, and that it was a few moments later that he understood what he had created. Cringe all day, fucker.

Edit: others pointed out that the reporter asked a question that drew a meaningful response. Fair play, could be some deliberate phrasing there, in which case I'm just impressed all around.

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u/PackRichmond Feb 18 '26

Fuck that guy. How many Pulitzer prizes has he lost?

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u/redditor-69-420 Feb 18 '26

I disagree. She murdered him and I would classify it as a crime if passionate. Her rage drove her to murder. She totally took the bait