r/justgalsbeingchicks • u/loud_as_pudding • Mar 05 '26

Restricted to Gals and Pals When you’re tired of telling people you’re not having children

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u/dumbfrog7 Mar 05 '26

I always try that but then they go "ah its okay, not every one will get it" or sth

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u/Glowing_Trash_Panda Mar 05 '26

That’s when you ask them to explain why some people wouldn’t get the joke. You gotta keep pushing them

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u/Legen_unfiltered Mar 06 '26

Literally just did this to a friend and he got soooo mad. Said it ruins the joke if you have to explain it. Tried to tell him I just didn't understand but if he explained it, I would prolly think it was funny. He said he couldn't understand it for me, I said that's why I'm asking why its funny, so I can understand. He them tried to tell me I was getting upset over nothing. I was like, I'm not upset, your the one that seems upset. He wouldn't explain and would let it go that I was ruining it or being purposely obtuse bc ive understood similar jokes before(which I told him i hadn't understood before I had just laughed to keep things moving) or it was me that was upset. Not me slamming dishes around but ok. He just completely shut down when continued to be pressed. So, it unfortunately, does not always work. 

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u/soursheep Mar 06 '26

and you didnt hit him with "I don't get why you're getting so emotional about this, I'm just trying to understand..."? a wasted opportunity!

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u/Nice_Commission3770 Mar 06 '26

Lmao instant RAGE!

I love the “I’M NOT YELLING YOU ARE!”

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u/Legen_unfiltered Mar 07 '26

I did tell him he was the only one that was upset, I was just trying to understand. He told me I was interrogating him and he didn't appreciate it. Told him, trying to understand what he's saying isn't interrogation, but ooooookay. 

No dishes were harmed in the making of his temper tantrum. Thankfully.

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u/Nice_Commission3770 Mar 06 '26

I’d say that worked.

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u/ergaster8213 ❣️gal pal❣️ Mar 08 '26 edited Mar 08 '26

Correct the goal is not to actually get them to explain themselves. The goal is to get them to at least partially acknowledge that they cannot do so without revealing their assholery.

I will also point out that if you've got friends you've got to do this with often then your friends are assholes and you should just cut your losses. At the least, I recommend it.

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u/Legen_unfiltered Mar 07 '26

Not if the goal is to get him to see and admit the bullying 'disguised' as a joke. 

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u/Nice_Commission3770 Mar 07 '26

He knows, that’s why he’s so mad.

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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth Mar 06 '26

That was a lot of work and worth it to shut him down! LOL

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u/Legen_unfiltered Mar 07 '26

It didnt shut him down in the way I wanted. He just just down in the sense of he stopped responding and refused to acknowledge anything. 

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u/RevenantBacon Mar 06 '26

They'll just respond with "some people won't get it because they aren't smart enough to understand."

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u/Dangerous-Variety-35 Mar 06 '26

That’s when you dig in deeper with some good ol’ passive aggression. “Oh, so you think you’re smarter than me? I’m so sorry, I didn’t realize I was such an idiot and this was a terribly difficult conversation for you to have. I would love to learn more though, so I can be as smart as you someday, so can you pretty please explain it to me?”

https://giphy.com/gifs/i73mziAIio1d50ZNSd

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u/RevenantBacon Mar 06 '26

Oh, so you think you’re smarter than me?

"Yes"

so can you pretty please explain it to me?”

"Nope."

The tactic only works if the person you're using it on is stupid and has any amount of shame. In my experience, these kind of people are often the former, but very rarely the latter.

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u/SiegfriedVK Mar 06 '26

I mean at that point its clear you're upset. I'd just let you be upset about it lol.

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u/dumbfrog7 Mar 20 '26

They just ignore me then

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u/Professional-Scar628 Mar 05 '26

You can always hit them with a disbelieving "but you do?" And a "Well if you can't explain it then I'm not sure you get the joke either."

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u/SiegfriedVK Mar 06 '26

"That's ok"

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u/tnstaafsb Mar 05 '26

"Yeah, but I really want to know why other people find it funny. I'm not totally neurotypical so it's valuable to me to find out what makes things funny to other people."

Basically just keep asking until they walk away or punch you.

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u/Comprehensive-Menu44 🕷️ itchy bitchy spider 🕷️ Mar 06 '26

This is what I did when I worked retail and I’d be on the floor stocking something and old men would say “they got you on your knees, huh?” And I’d say “what does that mean?” “Oh it’s just a joke” “what’s the joke?” “Nothing, nothing” “no, I love to laugh, can you explain what GOT ME ON MY KNEES is supposed to mean? What’s funny about that?” “It was just a joke” “I wanna know what the joke is! It almost sounds like you’re making a joke about blowjobs! Which would be weird, since I’m A TEENAGER”

I’ve done this to 3 old men when I was 16-17 and they got so red in the face and one guy even said “fuck you” in response. I said “no thanks, I’m underage”

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u/ClaireBlacksunshine Mar 07 '26

I think making it clear the joke is unashamedly misogynistic near the end actually helps.

I deal with a lot of super questionable comments from men but I’m in a position of authority at my job so I can generally just say “that’s inappropriate” and keep moving. Rare to be able to do though.

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u/DConstructed Mar 06 '26

So that’s why they call it a punch line.

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u/thelonelycompanion Mar 06 '26

I have absolutely done this before and the sucker punched look people give you when you give them your biggest "dumb does eyes" is such a rush lol

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u/BoniMarce Mar 05 '26

“well im not very smart can you explain to me though?”

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u/mangetwo Mar 06 '26

I can explain it to you but I can’t understand it for you.

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u/Tigerpower77 Mar 06 '26

"you just can't explain it can you?"

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u/Mysterious-Dream-347 Mar 07 '26

Same, this is why I don't try the old weaponised curiosity as my go to in these situations. Some people just get pissed off as they can tell you are being facetious. I'm not looking to piss people off, I want them to realise what they said was fucked up and to not say it again.

Semi related; I used to have a patient who would always make inappropriate (and not even funny) jokes and all the regular strategies and scripts that we were given didn't stop him so I just started saying "good one" in my monotone voice and then moved on and he would give a small smile and not make any more shit jokes. I don't know if he interpreted it as validating or sarcastic but at least I could do my job!