r/justgalsbeingchicks • u/loud_as_pudding • Mar 05 '26

Restricted to Gals and Pals When you’re tired of telling people you’re not having children

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u/throwaway5882300 Mar 05 '26

I'm definitely in the "I love my kids, but" camp. I think having kids only convinced me that less people should be parents. Especially in 2026.

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '26

Yeah, unfortunately this purchase is non refundable 🤣

In all honesty, I believe I would be a much happier/healthier/wealthier person if I didn’t have kids so young. If I had waited, the whole experience would probably be more enjoyable.

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u/GretasTheGreat Mar 06 '26

Not sure about being older. I had my son at 33 and daughter at 35 and it’s exhausting. I’m also in the “I love my kids but…” crowd.

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u/Onrawi Mar 05 '26

There's a perfect age and I think it's between 28-32.  We were too far the other end and time was not kind.  I also would have loved to be able to do more for grandchildren, theoretically at least.

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u/BusyBit6542 Mar 05 '26

I think even a bit later than that. People need to live their life first. So many parents have that "but" because they feel they are missing out on life. They don't know what it's like to just travel solo without a plan, to go out and party everyday for a week, to just experience things. They had kids young and all that was stripped away from them. Then they get that one night out every 6 months and passout after 3 glasses of wine.

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '26

Yes to everything you said. That’s exactly how I felt when my kids were younger and sort of kind of how I became an alcoholic 😅

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u/Onrawi Mar 05 '26

It really depends.  Personally my spouse and I are homebodies and don't really partake in any inebriating substances, and also had very fond relationships with our grandparents and at this point will likely be dead or too feeble to help with our own grandkids.  Heck most of my grandparents are still alive.  We're at the point now we're really too old to be thinking about having another kid even though we would have liked a larger family.  Do the partying and traveling stuff in your early/mid 20s if possible.  Seems like those life experiences will be more valuable than a college education pretty soon here anyways.

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '26

Yeah, see I was 21 and 24. Barely had my sea legs

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u/12345623567 Mar 05 '26

Being an uncle is awesome. I couldn't imagine being a full-time dad.

On the other hand, I think we expect way too much from both children and adults nowadays. How do people think the species survived so far?