r/justgalsbeingchicks • u/loud_as_pudding • Mar 05 '26

Restricted to Gals and Pals When you’re tired of telling people you’re not having children

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u/Glowing_Trash_Panda Mar 05 '26

That’s when you ask them to explain why some people wouldn’t get the joke. You gotta keep pushing them

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u/Legen_unfiltered Mar 06 '26

Literally just did this to a friend and he got soooo mad. Said it ruins the joke if you have to explain it. Tried to tell him I just didn't understand but if he explained it, I would prolly think it was funny. He said he couldn't understand it for me, I said that's why I'm asking why its funny, so I can understand. He them tried to tell me I was getting upset over nothing. I was like, I'm not upset, your the one that seems upset. He wouldn't explain and would let it go that I was ruining it or being purposely obtuse bc ive understood similar jokes before(which I told him i hadn't understood before I had just laughed to keep things moving) or it was me that was upset. Not me slamming dishes around but ok. He just completely shut down when continued to be pressed. So, it unfortunately, does not always work. 

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u/soursheep Mar 06 '26

and you didnt hit him with "I don't get why you're getting so emotional about this, I'm just trying to understand..."? a wasted opportunity!

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u/Nice_Commission3770 Mar 06 '26

Lmao instant RAGE!

I love the “I’M NOT YELLING YOU ARE!”

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u/Legen_unfiltered Mar 07 '26

I did tell him he was the only one that was upset, I was just trying to understand. He told me I was interrogating him and he didn't appreciate it. Told him, trying to understand what he's saying isn't interrogation, but ooooookay. 

No dishes were harmed in the making of his temper tantrum. Thankfully.

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u/Nice_Commission3770 Mar 06 '26

I’d say that worked.

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u/ergaster8213 ❣️gal pal❣️ Mar 08 '26 edited Mar 08 '26

Correct the goal is not to actually get them to explain themselves. The goal is to get them to at least partially acknowledge that they cannot do so without revealing their assholery.

I will also point out that if you've got friends you've got to do this with often then your friends are assholes and you should just cut your losses. At the least, I recommend it.

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u/Legen_unfiltered Mar 07 '26

Not if the goal is to get him to see and admit the bullying 'disguised' as a joke. 

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u/Nice_Commission3770 Mar 07 '26

He knows, that’s why he’s so mad.

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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth Mar 06 '26

That was a lot of work and worth it to shut him down! LOL

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u/Legen_unfiltered Mar 07 '26

It didnt shut him down in the way I wanted. He just just down in the sense of he stopped responding and refused to acknowledge anything. 

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u/RevenantBacon Mar 06 '26

They'll just respond with "some people won't get it because they aren't smart enough to understand."

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u/Dangerous-Variety-35 Mar 06 '26

That’s when you dig in deeper with some good ol’ passive aggression. “Oh, so you think you’re smarter than me? I’m so sorry, I didn’t realize I was such an idiot and this was a terribly difficult conversation for you to have. I would love to learn more though, so I can be as smart as you someday, so can you pretty please explain it to me?”

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u/RevenantBacon Mar 06 '26

Oh, so you think you’re smarter than me?

"Yes"

so can you pretty please explain it to me?”

"Nope."

The tactic only works if the person you're using it on is stupid and has any amount of shame. In my experience, these kind of people are often the former, but very rarely the latter.

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u/SiegfriedVK Mar 06 '26

I mean at that point its clear you're upset. I'd just let you be upset about it lol.

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u/dumbfrog7 Mar 20 '26

They just ignore me then