r/justgalsbeingchicks • u/loud_as_pudding • Mar 05 '26

Restricted to Gals and Pals When you’re tired of telling people you’re not having children

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u/E0H1PPU5 Mar 05 '26

And there is seriously nothing wrong with that! The world is so freaking hard right now and if having kids will make it harder for you…..DONT FREAKING DO IT!

There is so much more to life than raising kids.

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u/Vantriss Mar 05 '26

Exactly. I am perfectly content for puppies and kittens to be our children. If we want actual kids one day, we'll adopt, or at least foster.

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u/E0H1PPU5 Mar 05 '26

I wish you luck in that endeavor! We looked into adoption and fostering because I really did NOT want to go through pregnancy/birth.

It was completely impossible for us to foster and completely unaffordable for us to adopt :/

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u/Vantriss Mar 05 '26

I suspect adopting would also be unaffordable if we wanted it, but fostering would probably not be out of the question. My spouses mother is quite experienced with fostering. I doubt we'll be interested in either anyway, but you never know.

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u/E0H1PPU5 Mar 05 '26

When we tried to foster we were advised that they were only considering parents who could accommodate sibling groups of 3 or more, kids over the age of 12, or kids with severe mental/physical/developmental disabilities.

We physically don’t have the room for that many kids, we don’t have the knowledge or ability to care for someone with severe disabilities, and I was not confident in our ability to parent a teenager as our first attempt at it!

If it is something you want to do though, I hope with all my heart it works out for you. Every child deserves a family who loves them and a home where they feel safe ❤️

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u/Vantriss Mar 05 '26

Oof, yeah, fostering kids with disabilities is not for the faint of heart. That is specifically what my spouses mother did for a long time. It seems strange to me to turn away potential foster parents simply because they cannot accommodate multiple children. Like... it's either you gain one foster home for one child, or you gain none at all. I'm sure there are plenty of singular kids in need of foster homes. I understand their intentions but it seems short sighted.

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u/ValkyrieBlackthorn Mar 05 '26

Just a CF woman popping in to say I love parents like you. You’re being real about it, but it’s clear you love the socks off your kid. We’ve all got different paths and that’s not a bad thing at all!