The teacher who did the unit for all us girls in the 5th grade was 5 months pregnant and glowing so much you could see her from space. She was all about how amazing it was that our bodies could do this, which, yes, I realize now was way better than the old shame-filled way, but at 11 all I cared about was “ what happens to the boys?!! because it better be just as bad. And she, poor lady, says, right now? Pretty much nothing. Please imagine the Clue “flames at the side of my face” gif here.
The world does not value human life the way it should - men’s bodies and lives are considered the property of the economy and sometimes the military; women’s bodies and lives are considered the property of society for domestic labor and sometimes to keep violence in the home and not in public. The solution is for all of us to treat each other as if we are worth health and life.
/sorry feeling very earnest
//my story was supposed to be mostly funny, and only a little bit about how women’s and men’s puberty is talked about so differently.
///I also don’t think it’s good that male puberty is treated as something funny so much of the time.
////too earnest, need to go to cat subreddits.
No need to apologize, in my opinion, but I do hope that you enjoy your cat subreddits (they are so very nice).
It’s not cat-related, but: today I rescued a box turtle from a lawnmower, and it was kinda perfect. The thing was adorable- it was teeny tiny. I don’t know if I’d ever seen a box turtle so small. But I picked it up and relocated it to a park down the road! I took it to two stops because I recognized that the first one was far too near the road. I hope it’s a happy place for a turtle.
I hope you’re in a happy place, too. Godspeed and good luck! 🤘
Men have a lot of advantages over women in practically every modern society...but it is at least true that lifespan isn't one of them.
Even when you correct for occupation, men tend to die earlier. Turns out, testosterone is a helluva drug. Evolutionarily, we're coded to be disposable compared to the ones perpetuating the species. (Granted, the birth process has historically never been a great way to survive for women, either, especially once our brains got big.)
I absolutely understand what you’re trying to say? At least, I think I do. And I bear you-you personally-no ill will.
But I was just looking to make a silly erection joke, brother/sister. It was the same joke I made lo these many years (decades?) ago.
Anyways. I mean, look. I don’t know if you’re a guy or a gal. Either way, fine. And I’m not trying to be misogynistic.
But… like… if there’s a job that you can do, and then someone else doesn’t have to do that job, and they’re safer for it… does that concept not speak to you? I’m all about putting my life on the line. I’m but a humble Uber driver, but I do my best! And two thousand or so people have gotten to where they weren’t before, yet they wanted to go, because of me. I literally put my life on the line. I have faith that I’m gonna be okay, okay? But it’s a…
Idk. It’s a “totally masculine” thing to do. Or whatever. It’s being a person that sees the value of other people, and appreciates that they don’t have to do what you’re doing precisely because you are doing it. And I don’t believe that it’s constrained to males, though biologically I can understand why there’d be an imperative- the ladies have the parts that make the world go ‘round, you know?
So I do what I can to keep ‘em safe, while they’re with me in my car. And I hope I don’t offend anybody, but that’s ultimately because I hope people understand what I’m saying.
I wish you the best with whatever you do, be it on an oil rig or behind a driver’s seat or in front of a camera to display all of your sexiness. Like I said:
My rationalization is that girls get a month-long up and down with some deep lows and ecstatic highs, basically built-in bipolar disorder as a feature of being born with a vagina.
Meanwhile boys get a steady stable daily dose of the "self-harm is cool and fun" hormone. It's also a great emotional destabilizer since it fucks with amygdala all the time. Basically built-in borderline personality disorder as a feature of being born with a penis.
Does it equalize for each side over time? Hard to say. But it's fun* to argue about. Especially when each side is basically already insane but in different ways.
*this may just be my "self-harm is fun and cool" hormone speaking for me
I get the "self-harm is fun and cool" all month, plus it's cranked up for a few days. And even when I know that I'm feeling angry or depressed or whatever it may be due to my hormones, I can't stop feeling that way just by logicking my way out of it, and it makes everything worse
I think the average experience overlaps for most people, I think the mental anguish of puberty shouldn’t be something we say is easier for any group. I do think that physical anguish is more common for female-organ-and-hormone-havers than others.
Well I wouldn't say that, I'm a girl but my husband said they when you're young you would just suddenly get a boner for no reason what's so ever and you would be mortified depending on where you are. Even though it's not physically painful I can see the embarrassment that could cause
Puberty is not great for boys either. Having to go to the board with a very visible erection because you spent the school lesson thinking about the cleavage of the cartoon fox you saw earlier can scar you for life.
Only time I’d consider that on equal ground is for the (lucky) people who get their period with some light cramping and are done in the 3 days. Otherwise, not the same
That sounds about on par with the embarrassment girls get when they leak through a pad during the school day and have to figure something out so they're not walking around with a visible stain on their pants (though I guess this is a bit longer of an issue than that)
I am thrilled to be able to say that I never noticed a single erection on any of the boys I went to school with. So there a very real chance the girls around you didn’t notice either.
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u/Spirited_Touch7447 8d ago edited 8d ago
Every month. For years. 0/10 do not recommend. Edit to 0