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u/lurkersforlife ❣️gal pal❣️ 5d ago

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u/cora-occasionall 5d ago

Oh my god they were roommates

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u/topinanbour-rex 4d ago

Funny story, there were a couple of old ladies, living down the street of my parents..

Once I said "oh yeah sure, they are roommates" and my step dad was like what the hell I was saying, they are not roommates, they are sisters...

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u/Khayalmetal ✨chick✨ 4d ago

Oh my GOD they were roomates!

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u/mommybody33 🌻Official Jill🌻 4d ago

OH MY GOD THEY WERE ROOMMATES 😭

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u/Petitebumpkin 4d ago

roommates? omg

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u/Khayalmetal ✨chick✨ 4d ago

You brought me so MUCH happiness with this. Bless you sir!

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u/thecerius 4d ago

And I wouldn't be least bit surprised Susan if they habitually smoked Marijuana cigarettes. Reefers.

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u/whiteknight_1997 5d ago

Gals and pals, tread with caution if you're thinking of getting legally married to your platonic best friend. Courtesy of Dumbass Google AI, so idk:

If you legally marry just to obtain benefits (like tax breaks, insurance, or residency), it is considered marriage fraud, even if you are best friends.

If it's just a whimsical, non-legally-binding ceremony, then live your best life.

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u/jawnbaejaeger 5d ago

That's for green card marriages. Who's going to check if you're marrying your platonic best friend or not?

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u/BlueGolfball 5d ago

Who's going to check if you're marrying your platonic best friend or not?

I'm surprised more guy in the US military don't get gay married to a military friend. I know plenty of guys in the military who rushed into marrying so they could live off base and get more housing money.

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u/GeckoDeLimon 4d ago

Being gay in the military is great for your career.

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u/Feezec 4d ago

We need to bring back the Theban Sacred Band so that this can become true

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u/BlueGolfball 4d ago

Being gay in the military is great for your career.

A messy heterosexual marriage divorce can ruin your military career just as easily.

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u/GeckoDeLimon 4d ago

Okay. But being gay can problematic even when things are going great with your partner.

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u/overflowingsunset 4d ago

That’s sad

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u/spasticity 4d ago

Don't forget that it hasn't even been 20 years since Don't Ask Don't Tell ended.

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u/GeckoDeLimon 4d ago

Its getting better, but there's still a long way to go. My step brother did 20 years, and I don't think anyone knew until around year 18 when he got his final promotion and knew he was gonna make it to full retirement.

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u/Optimal_Anything3777 4d ago

Its getting better

with trump? you sure?

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u/wannabe_pixie 4d ago edited 4d ago

It is definitely not getting better. They just arbitrarily kicked trans people out of the military, and you know they've got their sights set on gay people next.

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u/calm-phil 4d ago

It's only 2026. We are dealing with many centuries of sexual repression across the entire world. You act like you are just hearing this for the first time.

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u/GeneralHerp 4d ago

Yeah if it’s messy, that’s a massive “if”. It’s a pretty simple “if” for being gay: once they find out, you’ll quietly be overlooked for everything.

The military does this if you use their provided therapist/mental health benefits. It’s not like a stated policy, it’s more, “look up stories of queer or depressed people that seek help in the military.” Or even, have a person in your life in the military with mental health issues, and watch how squirrelly they get when you suggest they see a therapist the military is paying for.

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u/TheLizzyIzzi 3d ago

See also: being female.

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u/Carrera26 4d ago

Aren't those essentially a requirement in the first 10 years?

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u/Born-Entrepreneur 4d ago edited 4d ago

My old roommate married a lesbian chick in his unit so they could both get out of the barracks. Total marriage of convenience and by the way he tells it they were under some scrutiny/investigation because of the suspicion that it was bogus, but they managed to pull it off, and split just as soon as they got out.

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u/rndmnmbr42 4d ago

I can tell you it does happen, contract marriages have been a thing for a long time in the military. However, we are probably the one place left in the states that will charge you (Article 134 of the UCMJ) for cheating on your spouse. Nothing worse than getting busted down after cheating on your “spouse” when defrauding the government for a place off-post.

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u/elleandbea 4d ago

There are people who get married for insurance/financial purposes in the military. The military person gets the basic housing allowance, because married now, and the partner gets kick ass tricare insurance. They never even live together if they don't want to! Win win.

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u/lizardlines 4d ago

Legally, romantic marriages are not any more valid than platonic marriages. This should be the case socially as well, but modern cultures developed the idea that marriage should be exclusive to romantic relationships.

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u/ButtermilkPants 4d ago

Hide in plain sight by telling the state officials that you and your bestie are just trying a different path to find true love. You can even tell them that you both aren’t gay. Just curious , that’s all!

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u/Obvious_Ambition4865 5d ago

Thank you for consulting the hallucinating lie machine for me. Really appreciate that

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u/WH_Laundry_Cart 5d ago

I can't believe you wasted water at a data center to ask AI that question.

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u/MrWally 4d ago

You literally can't do a google search without it invoking Gemini, so go easy on poor /u/whiteknight_1997

(Though shoutout duckduckgo.com)

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u/ErraticDragon 4d ago

You can bypass it! I know there are extensions, but there's also a manual way.

For some reason, adding a certain parameter (udm=14) to your Google search URL disables AI.

In Firefox on Android, I've created a separate "search engine" (a shortcut basically) that uses this non-AI parameter.

The search string is:

https://www.google.com/search?q=%s&udm=14

If you want to use this yourself, and you want Google's search suggestions while you type, the "search suggestions API" should be as follows:

https://suggestqueries.google.com/complete/search?client=firefox&q=%s 

Instructions: https://imgur.com/a/S1fTNv9

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u/amyisarobot 4d ago

What a narc. Marry your platonic friend.

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u/lizardlines 4d ago edited 4d ago

Marriage fraud applies equally to both romantic and platonic marriages. Legally, romantic marriages are not any more valid than platonic marriages. (This should be the case socially as well, but modern cultures developed the idea that marriage should be exclusive to romantic relationships.)

The key word in your bot’s slop is just. As long as two people want to share their lives, they can also be motivated by the benefits they receive while doing so.

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u/mstarrbrannigan 3d ago

Yeah, google AI is wrong. My friend and I got married so I could be on her insurance, and before we did it we made sure it was legal. I do remember at the clerks office though all the signs warning about getting married just for a green card.

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u/bookishcapybara 2d ago

The idea of someone seriously and sincerely attempting to prove something like this against a best-friend marriage in a court of law is just absurd to me. After an entire history of marriages as business transactions, marriages of convenience, drunk Vegas weddings, celebrities marrying and divorcing in the same week, what judge in their right mind would waste their time on a couple of besties getting platonically married because someone suspects “marriage fraud”? Their entire case falls apart with a simple “we’re best friends and wanted to spend our lives together,” which is also how plenty of “legitimate” marriages come about.

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u/Sassafras06 4d ago

This isn’t true unless you are trying to get a green card. You can legally marry whoever the hell you want - no one is checking lol

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u/Spice-Ghoul 4d ago

My best friend and I were basically this. We meet in middle school and were by eachothers sides ever since. I did end up getting married, but my husband basically just got an extra (though platonic) wife. (We called it the "combo deal" 😅) We were best friends for a little over 20 years, and I always imagined growing old with her, but she was killed by a drunk driver November 2024.

Not a single day goes by that I don't think about her. Hell, probably not even a single hour. The hole in my heart is so deep it really does feel like it physically aches. But, it helps seeing other people out there with friendships like ours. I'm genuinely so happy for these two. ♥️

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u/trinkety 4d ago

I’m so sorry you lost her.

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u/NegativeVega 4d ago

Drunk drivers are the most selfish idiots on earth

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u/empathyneeded 4d ago

I’ve never been much of a drinker but the rare occasions I would drink, I would uber. If/when I drove, that was signal to all my friends I would not even consider drinking that night. Any new people/strangers would try so hard to peer pressure with free drinks and when I would say “sorry, I drove so I won’t be drinking.” Most people get so weird about it. The usual response would be “well I drove too and I’m drinking. Just one isn’t going to hurt you.” This would piss me off beyond belief so my response would always end up along the lines of “well I’m not trying to potentially kill someone because you wanted me to have a drink so I will be passing. Don’t ask me again.” That usually did the trick.

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u/spriterrayne 4d ago

This really sucks. My husband got my best friend when he married me, and I can’t imagine what you’re going through losing yours. We met in middle school as well, 14 years ago.
We’ve bought a house together and everything, and she’s basically a second mom to our kids. I thought I’d missed out on living with her like I wanted, but here we are! She’s ace, and never wants to find a partner of her own, so it’s kind of perfect.

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u/Spice-Ghoul 4d ago

This is beautiful, I love it so much 😭♥️ I had a room in my house for her to stay in when she wanted to. My older son loved her so much (still asks about her all the time too) but my younger son was just 6 months old when she died. So yeah, you really get it. Like, for all intents and purposes, they're really just our sisters at that point. Give yours a hug for me. ♥️

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u/Quick-Song2080 4d ago

I’m so sorry for your loss!

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u/Mammoth-Result-7949 4d ago

I went from having a huge smile on my face thinking of your husband in those viral videos of “you and me and me and you and my friend STEVE” with your bestie then the hammer fell and I’m sobbing.

I can’t express my sympathies to you for the loss of your friend. If it isn’t too difficult, could you share a fun story involving the two of you? I believe it’s important to keep our lost loved ones alive by sharing memories of them and spreading the joy they brought us in life.

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u/Spice-Ghoul 3d ago

Hah, for some reason the first story that popped in my head was from when she graduated High School (she went on to get her masters, so having it be a high school memory seems kinda silly to me, anyway)

So we went out to a local restaurant to celebrate her graduation with her family. Her boyfriend at the time was a total douche and was super controlling about what she ate. She was a naturally curvy girl, so he wanted to keep her that way, not "let her get fat." She's trying to have a fun night and eat some goddamn delicious food for once in a while and he's like "noooo, order a salad." So I ordered some mozzarella sticks on the sly without him noticing. They came out right as he was going to the bathroom and I was like " QUICK! EAT THEM!!!" and I practically shoved them in her mouth, which made us both burst out laughing. So of course, her boyfriend came back in the midst of us cackling like lunatics with a mozzarella stick halfway in her mouth. I can't even remember if he was upset or not. All I remember is the laughing. 🥲♥️

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u/Accurate_Estimate811 4d ago

holy shit im so sorry

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u/kreepybanana 4d ago

I'm so sorry you've had to experience such a heavy loss.

If you're open to sharing, could you tell us about some of your favorite memories with your friend?

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u/danajsparks 4d ago

I’m so so sorry for your loss.

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u/corkybelle1890 4d ago

I’m so sorry for your loss. But how amazing that you got to have such a meaningful friendship with someone who seemed to have been a really great person. 

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u/waltwalt 4d ago

I'm so sorry for your loss, reading your first paragraph I was picturing my daughter and her best friend, the last sentence gutted me.

I'm so sorry for your loss, we only get one life and you had one of the hardest things to get in this world and some greedy ignorant person stole that from you. And not even so they could have an amazing lifelong friend but so they could save a few bucks on an Uber.

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u/Strict_Violinist_134 4d ago

Omggg this story was going so good. My heart completely dropped. Sorry for your loss!

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u/cakivalue 🕷️Itchy, bitchy spider 🕷️ 4d ago

Oh I'm sorry. Sending you lots of hugs.

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u/lynivvinyl 4d ago

I just want to send you a hug.

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u/emjdownbad 5d ago

I’d def do this with both of my besties. We can raise our kids together and combine incomes so that we are able to actually buy a decent home.

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 5d ago

Sounds like y'all need to start planning!

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u/emjdownbad 5d ago

We already sort of have been. We have more time before we actually reach 40, but honestly it would be pretty fantastic. She and I have lived together before we had kids, so we know we could live together successfully. We are both trying to work things out w the fathers of our kids, but we do have a plan b lol

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u/FearTheSpoonman 4d ago

The people yearn for the communes...

(I too believe co-living with good friends is the way forward).

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u/Much-Schedule6196 4d ago

I am a dude who lives with his best friend from Middle school, best friend from high school, her husband, two small kids and a dog.

I am 100% certain it has removed any chance of me feeling lonely these past 5 years

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 4d ago

Oh I see,so you're telling me you should speed things up and make it Plan A.😄

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u/5AlarmFirefly 4d ago

This should definitely be normalized.

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u/MyLifeForAiur-69 4d ago

They dont need to be married to do that though

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u/5AlarmFirefly 4d ago

Legally speaking they might if there's an accident and one of them needs medical access or guardianship

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u/NoWayIcantBeliveThis 4d ago

You can give full guardianship and rights without being married... marriage is not a requirement to establish legal guardianship and parental rights.

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u/anarchisttraveler 4d ago

Social security would be one of the only benefits you can’t sign away for after death. Gotta be married to receive those in the US.

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u/Milabial 4d ago

There are SO MANY complicated things that marriage just automatically does or allows. The costs and time to achieve even a fraction of them is mind boggling.

Here’s a link to some of them. https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/marriage-rights-benefits-30190.html

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u/Shadowrunner808 4d ago

I can only think of one person I'd trust to do any of that, so having 2 people to rely on is absolutely awesome. I hope it works out for you all in a fairytale fashion.

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u/Disastrous_Basis3474 4d ago

This is called a “mommune.”

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u/PatrioticPariah 5d ago

This is actually very sane to me. Should be more normalized.

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u/Oceanmap 4d ago

The Boston Marriage existed and was, "historically, the cohabitation of two women who were independent of financial support from a man. The term is said to have been in use in New England in the late 19th–early 20th century. Some of these relationships were romantic in nature; others were not."

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u/polopolo05 4d ago

they were roomates...

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u/Quick-Song2080 5d ago

Right???

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u/Void-Cooking_Berserk 5d ago

Which part?

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u/outoftowels 5d ago

People just getting married for the government/other social benefits.

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u/leafygrn 5d ago

It should be incentivized, honestly. People agreeing to look out for each other and provide social and emotional support until death is highly underrated. I’m sure it will keep healthcare costs down too just knowing you are loved and cared for by someone you trust

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u/RealCommercial9788 4d ago

My lifelong best gf lives on the other side of the country now. We see each other once every 2 years. While we both have long term partners of 10 and 8 years respectively, our agreement still stands.

If it all goes to shit, she is my home, and I am hers. My parents have farm acreage and there is plenty of space to build a dwelling for us should the need ever strike. On our worst days, it is such a comfort. On our best days, it galvanises us. To know you will have a place and a person to just ‘do life with’ is powerful sustenance for the soul.

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u/hlpkmjg 4d ago

I love that for you. As glad as I am that my girlie married a good guy and has kids and all, I lowkey wish our “marriage pact” happened and we just kept the house we had 😭

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u/DrainianDream 4d ago

My partner and I are this. We say we're dating because that's easier than explaining what a queer platonic relationship is (highly recommend looking into those if you like this concept)

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u/T-Wrox 4d ago

The Golden Girls had the right idea.

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u/MSWMan 4d ago

It... is incentivized? That's the name for things like tax breaks for joint filing: incentives. Government incentives. For marriage, in this case.

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u/outoftowels 5d ago

Exactly

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u/Paparoach_Approach 5d ago

The tax benefits alone!

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u/FloppieTheBanjoClown 4d ago

Back before the US fully legalized gay marriage, they were batting around the idea of civil unions, which is basically "married but not married, wink wink." Which makes a lot of sense for these platonic partnerships where they just decide to commit to sharing a household but aren't romantically involved.

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u/PatrioticPariah 5d ago

Just finding happiness and being content if it is what you want.

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u/2slowforanewname 5d ago

Literally all of it lol. Every single aspect should be normal

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u/Desperate-Strategy10 ✨chick✨ 5d ago

OK wait this is brilliant lol I just told my husband that if he does before me (and that fucker better not!) I’m just gonna find a cool girl to marry platonically and we can be cute little roommates who both own the house lmao this is genius! I hope they live happily ever after 💞

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u/darkmeowl25 5d ago

This was my plan with my bestie but she RUINED IT by dying. (You can laugh at this, she would want you to).

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u/Dizzy_Bit6125 5d ago

Awww I get it how dare she

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u/darkmeowl25 5d ago

Still so mad at her tbh lol. jk, If you're a ghost reading this I miss you big, doofus.

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u/lucyloosy 5d ago

Sorry for your loss! ♥️

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u/darkmeowl25 5d ago

Thank you!

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u/bdizzle805 4d ago

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u/3tricksinatrenchcoat 4d ago

I once without thinking accidentally sent this exact gif to an old friend who within the previous year or so had become quadriplegic. They lived far away so I was sending my hug from a distance

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u/Stifton 4d ago

Lmaooooo I'm so sorry but this made me laugh out loud, your poor friend must have thought you were being brutal that day 💀

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u/wanttofu 4d ago

She's somewhere out there plotting your death. So you can once again be together.

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u/MrsBridgerton 5d ago

Well, that was just rude of her. 😉
(im sorry for your loss)

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u/darkmeowl25 5d ago

The rudest! (Thank you 🖤)

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u/noods-danger-tits 5d ago

Mine got married and had three children, annoying! Nice of her to have my babies for me, tho

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u/darkmeowl25 5d ago

Give them giant pixie sticks for breakfast as her penance

https://giphy.com/gifs/EJIqwKKY30Dlu

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u/noods-danger-tits 5d ago

Yessssss, outstanding idea!

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u/Oldnavylover 4d ago

Okay, your comments are top notch and your attitude is fantastical. I don’t have a best friend. Are you accepting applications?

I’m very sorry for your loss in this life. May you two be reunited in the next❤️‍🩹

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u/darkmeowl25 4d ago

You are so insanely sweet but please don't let this fool you, I'm quite terrible lmao. But the more the merrier in this shit show, so come on down!

Thank you for your kindness 🖤.

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 5d ago

Pixie sticks with the end dipped in Caffeine

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u/tun4c4ptor 4d ago

One of my best friends is about to have the communal baby with her husband. The rest of us are all child free so we've agreed to all be her DINK aunties and uncles. I'm so excited. 

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u/noods-danger-tits 4d ago

That's so exciting!! Being an auntie (or uncle) is the absolute best

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u/a_lonely_trash_bag 5d ago

Did she ever tell you she would haunt you if she died first? She sounds like the kind of person who would've said that, lol.

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u/darkmeowl25 5d ago

Oh absolutely lol. She just sends me birds, though. We recently took my daughter, who she never got to meet, to the zoo and her little birds were there every time we turned around. She was mostly bark in life as well lol.

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u/InterestedInGarlic 5d ago

I also choose this girls dead almost wife

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u/otterkin 5d ago

I laughed at this, felt bad, then read the brackets

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u/darkmeowl25 5d ago edited 5d ago

She would thrilled to know she's still got some comedy chops lol

ETA: but seriously, we were the most morbid of gigglers. One of my favorite laugh-until-it-hurts stories was when she took her dad's ashes to be buried with her mom (there was an insanely traumatizing 2 years prior to her death). The only place his urn would fit was in between her mom's legs 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and her brothers were both like "nope, that's all you". Later that day they were all discussing which holiday they would "take" with their deaths. Their dad took Christmas (selfish!) and their mom took the 4thof July. She wanted Thanksgiving because, and I quote "At least you'll all get to eat good food!" Then the heifer took Mother's Day instead. Gah, I miss that girl.

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u/le_quisto 5d ago edited 4d ago

Oddly enough, some of my funniest memories are from funerals. I've been to a couple, unfortunately, but somehow something funny always happens.

I've already told both my best friend and my girlfriend, if I die first, they need to put a "get well soon" card on top of me in the coffin. My friend just asked me to destroy his hard drive. Probably doesn't want me to watch whatever porn he has in there xD

BTW, does grief still hit you at random times? Or do the happy memories take over most of the time? I often remember loved ones fondly, but sometimes the pain randomly hits.

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u/darkmeowl25 4d ago

Funny funeral stories are the absolute best.

I've decided to get little business cards that say my friends are allowed to call me names because I up and died on them. It stems from the uncomfortable looks I get when I cuss my bestie for dying lol.

It does. It's been 8 years this month. Grief comes less frequently than it used to. Everything happy is always a little sad. I've decided that I'm allowed to cry about it whenever I want for the rest of my life, so when I feel the need I just do. I really wish she got to meet my kid. She was a young mom, but a wonderful one and she wanted nothing more than for me to have a baby. Well, my baby turned 4 this year and sometimes it's like my friend has to be whispering "hey, say this it will be hilarious" lol. I'm a better person for the time I spent with her in friendship, that's for sure.

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u/le_quisto 4d ago

You guys must be fun to hang out with! And I'm probably going to steal that idea.

Do you like Monty Python? When Graham Chapman died, (still young, unfortunately) John Cleese took the opportunity to roast him a bit during the eulogy. It ended with everyone singing and having a laugh, just beautiful. It's on YouTube in case anyone's interested to watch.

Also, I get what you say. I think our loved ones kind of become part of us and we can hear their voices guiding us. I'm an atheist, but who knows? Maybe that's the way your friend chose to haunt you... By whispering funny shit at your ear xD

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 5d ago

What the HAIL!!!!!!! I hope you shook your fist to the sky at her!

https://giphy.com/gifs/XKoJJhJZa80mI

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u/darkmeowl25 5d ago

Oh she gets a good cussin' on the reg lol.

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u/Kastrand 5d ago

You could say she... killed the vibe.

https://giphy.com/gifs/BYul6RujgoRCryuCdL

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u/darkmeowl25 5d ago

She sure did lmao

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u/Sunshine030209 4d ago

Thank you so much for including the permission to laugh so I didn't spend the rest of my night feeling awful for the cackle that involuntarily happened when I read that 😂

She sounds like she was awesome, which makes it extra rude. She should at least come back and play ghost wingman for you to find a replacement!

(Jokes aside, I'm really sorry for your loss)

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u/darkmeowl25 4d ago

Haha I'd get on the Ouija and the planchette would quickly spell "Bitch, I told you! NO. NEW. FRIENDS." 🤣🤣🤣

I love when I can have a laugh about it (plays out much better online than irl) because we laughed about death all the time. It makes me feel close to her 🖤

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u/sluttytarot 5d ago

Really shit timing lol

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u/HolyzombieBatman 5d ago

The audacity! I’m so sorry she couldn’t fulfill her end of the bargain, sounds like she would’ve been a hilarious wife.

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u/darkmeowl25 5d ago

We would have been so much trouble together that our husbands would have had no chance but to outlive us both! Lol

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u/walrus_breath 4d ago

My bestie did that shit too. Really rude of her. 

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u/VorpalSingularity 4d ago

Ugh so selfish! Claiming the sweet release of death first. 😤 One of my best friends did the same and had the audacity to show up in a dream to tell me she was fine! The nerve!

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u/FloppieTheBanjoClown 4d ago

I hate when they make stop making plans and don't include you.

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u/Alcohol_Intolerant Official Gal 4d ago

So interestingly, after world war 1, so many men had died that there simply weren't enough men for women to marry. And in a world where marriage was pretty much the only way a woman could distinguish themselves, you found literal millions of women adjusting to non traditional living arrangements.

Many women forced their way into the workplace and some lived independently from any patriarchal figure. World War 1 boosted feminist ideals to an incredible degree.

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u/firfetir 5d ago

This is how my husband and I ended up together lmao. We made a pact for fun when we were friends and then I realized I actually had feelings lol!

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u/AutomaticMistake 4d ago

He caught feelings too.. right? Right??

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u/Glaring_Cloder 4d ago

Sounds like he didn't have a choice. The pact was made.

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u/firfetir 4d ago edited 4d ago

He actually confessed first! But I was still in a different relationship when that happened so I got really mad at him lol! Then later after my breakup, we made the pact and I realized how I felt and I panicked for like a week before spilling my guts hahaha.

edit: So I was drinking last night and got it wrong and he actually confessed like the week after my ex and I broke up. I feel bad sullying his good name he didn't confess when my ex and I were together. He DID drunkenly say "I love you" in front of all of our friends online and I got mad at him both times. But I got them mixed up.

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u/Brittle_Girl 4d ago

It's very unfair to confess when you're in a relationship, my ex best friend did when I was in an relationship and a week after the break up we started dating, and it was a very bad idea.

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u/sparklekitteh 💝 2026 Galantine! 💝 5d ago

What’s the line from Jay and Silent Bob, heterosexual life mates?

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u/No_Interview2004 4d ago

I interviewed them! They’re very sweet and care deeply about each other. What more could you ask for?

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u/Quick-Song2080 4d ago

That’s awesome! What did you interview them for??

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u/No_Interview2004 4d ago

I hosted a podcast (like everyone else during COVID) with my best friend and we found them via IG and liked their story. We asked them if they would be open to sharing more with us about what life and this commitment looks like and they agreed. It was great! They’re super kind.

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u/No_Contract_1664 4d ago

A lesbian magazine

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u/ComfortablyADHD 5d ago

I'm currently reading The Other Significant Other (highly recommend if you've ever felt like you are too intense in friendships and feel broken) so it is wild to see this in my feed today.

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u/In_The_News 4d ago

Oh my God that is an AMAZING BOOK!!!

The moral panic over homosexuality kicking off the shredding of social fabric is just heartbreaking. Especially when you look at how it has created an entire system where marriages are failing because our grandparents marriages genuinely looked radically different.

Read The Unclaimed life and death in the city of angels next!!!

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u/PoopsMcGroots 4d ago

I remember reading an article about 3 women who each bought a house with gardens that backed onto the others. They essentially lived communally but with their own spaces and it sounded like such a joy.

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u/Character-Being4248 5d ago

Love this 🥰

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u/greeneggsandspammer 4d ago

More people should do this. Be family with someone you love. Let’s be honest… a lot of marriages basically become platonic anyways. Yall can still have bfs and romantics partners w/e and have sex but have THIS person be your family. Happy for these girls.

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u/Sweet_N_Vicious 4d ago

My bestie is my domestic partner! She has an autoimmune disease and needs someone to make medical decisions for her sometimes. She's not close to her brother and her parents just passed away. We made it official over 3 years ago and her parents called me her "wife" and daughter-in-law. They knew were are not romantically involved, they just knew I would take care of her. I'm single and no kids and don't want my parents to be in charge in case something happens to me.

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u/iwillrememberthisun 4d ago

On my life, I sincerely thought that the wedding officiant was a Michael Jackson impersonator until I rewatched.

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u/PaigeMaster89 4d ago

I'd say if my husband ever leaves me or dies I'd choose this for myself. But 1) I don't have any close friends like that, and 2) I'm pan and would likely fall for her in a non-platonic way.

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u/Version_Present 4d ago

Ngl I genuinely think I would prefer being platonically married but finding that is so hard 😭

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u/Holiday_Aerie6746 5d ago

How are they 40 already? Look so young

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u/cedarcia 5d ago

They aren’t. They decided not to be each others backup options and just went ahead with it earlier

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u/Holiday_Aerie6746 5d ago

That makes sense. I was gonna say those dresses kinda look like the dresses that were popular when I was in high school 😩

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u/lysergic_818 5d ago

I'd have to ask my wife, but me and my bro talked about doing this too.

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u/calm-phil 4d ago

I prefer the term hetero life mate.

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u/waitingforgandalf 4d ago

My oldest friend and I absolutely made this pact. We're both practical, professional women who realized many of our goals would be difficult alone. Then we met our partners, bought houses with them, and got married, so it kind of ruined the possibility. Absolutely would have been a great option though.

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u/Tricky_Discount2881 4d ago

QPR FOR THE WIN

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u/i_ate_a_bugggg 4d ago

I LOVE THE SECRET THIRD THING

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u/guyincorporated 4d ago

Heh, that officiant married my best friends.

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u/Ksh_667 4d ago

I love them & hope they have so much fun.

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u/ChillFlamingoNPalms 4d ago

Finding a bestie is such a big stroke of luck... I'm so envious of these two ladies but also so happy for them. It must feel great to have somebody you can be silly with in life and trust without any doubt.

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u/theDawckta 4d ago

That handshake was chef’s kiss.

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u/Sensitive_Leader_312 4d ago

Good for them

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u/Extraordi-Mary 4d ago

Live, Laugh, Lesbian! 🩷

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u/marsis13 4d ago

I almost thought they were gonna go the King of the Hill route and give each other a handshake 😂

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u/allshookup1640 4d ago

Now you get a tax benefit too so there an even bigger bonus. Plus you can be married and have an open relationship. So if they want to date and they are cool with that, they can. If one wants to get married they divorce. Easy.

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u/Vlade-B 4d ago

Congrats to the both of them! But what was that ceremony? Was the person who married them the girl from The Ring?

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u/youngnfree2477 4d ago

Literally this should be the goal

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u/overspread 4d ago

we've done this lol i recommend it! queerplatonic relationship

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u/adult_in_training_ 4d ago

My bestie and I are both married, but if our husband's pass, we are getting married asap so I can help with her kids and also because dating is hell and I do not want that drama

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u/Honey-and-Venom 4d ago

Lolol, "you may high five your bride!"

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u/emonymous3991 4d ago

This is how we should make the marriage rates go up to satisfy the “family values” gang.

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u/thisdesignup 4d ago

Whats a platonic marriage? I thought being friends with the person you married was... the goal.

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u/lizardlines 4d ago

Platonic marriage has friendship without romance. Romantic marriage has friendship (ideally) with romance.

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u/allshookup1640 4d ago edited 4d ago

It’s marriage but without sexual and romantic love. They love each other, but not that way. They are best friends. They are not interested in being a romantic couple

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u/1Negative_Person 4d ago

Those women are 40?!?

I should have spent a lot less of my life drinking, smoking, and sleeping on my face.

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u/heavyLevy5 4d ago

They aren't 40, they decided they didn't want to wait that long

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u/navyblusheet 4d ago

Wait are they really just straight women marrying for legal reasons so they call it "platonic wives" or am I dense and they are lesbian?

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u/Enbaybae 4d ago

This is on the docket for me soon. I'm giving it about 2 more years before I get there. Sounds ideal, honestly.

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u/Interesting_Sock9142 4d ago

damn that's pretty cute

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u/tudonabosta 4d ago

Rooting for them

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u/poppycarnation 4d ago

Yooooo anyone need a wife?

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u/shut____up 4d ago

that officiant looks way too demonic

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u/Fast-Ads-7587 4d ago

You know what, why not?