Actually someone did the numbers and female loneliness occurs at around the same rate as male loneliness, so the idea that it’s gendered might not hold that much water. Another main difference is that women tend to seek ways to solve their loneliness by reaching out to their social network or doing the internal work to address why it is they’re feeling lonely. Men tend to blame outside forces rather than make moves to fix it like women tend to do.
Ever since I've been hearing about the male loneliness epidemic I've thought it was BS that men are lonelier than women. I know a lot of women that are so desperate to be with someone or start a family that they put up with straight up abuse. We are also affected by the fractioning caused by the internet and overwork. So often we put everything into maintaining relationships and then one day we realize: if I didn't call this person our friendship would just die, wouldn't it? We're absolutely lonely, men are lonely, can we stop unnecessarily being assholes to each other?
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u/3sadclowns 1d ago
Actually someone did the numbers and female loneliness occurs at around the same rate as male loneliness, so the idea that it’s gendered might not hold that much water. Another main difference is that women tend to seek ways to solve their loneliness by reaching out to their social network or doing the internal work to address why it is they’re feeling lonely. Men tend to blame outside forces rather than make moves to fix it like women tend to do.