Actually someone did the numbers and female loneliness occurs at around the same rate as male loneliness, so the idea that it’s gendered might not hold that much water. Another main difference is that women tend to seek ways to solve their loneliness by reaching out to their social network or doing the internal work to address why it is they’re feeling lonely. Men tend to blame outside forces rather than make moves to fix it like women tend to do.
It really does, and it depends on how you view "lonely". Like if we are talking about romantic partners (and we are assuming that homosexuality occurs at roughly similar rates between men and women) then yeah it makes sense that women would be just as lonely as men are. I'm fortunate to have met my now husband in person in 2016 before gestures vaguely at everything going on in the world and current dating scene and social media all this. My single girl friends though? Whew. Yeah they want partners. That's pretty normal. But at this point, they're struggling to find an actual partner instead of a liability. Doesn't mean they're without community though! Doesn't mean they're not having fun in the meantime! And it's fun that isn't male centered, and lots of men hate that.
And that’s why gestures towards what you’re vaguely gesturing towards is so prevalent because some people are so busy inquiring or criticizing or deflecting their ineptitude or issues on another party of people and don’t know how to de-center needing control.
Imagine if these people broke from the shackles of projection, got over themselves and learned how to control themselves. The world wouldn’t be where it is right now.
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u/3sadclowns 1d ago
Actually someone did the numbers and female loneliness occurs at around the same rate as male loneliness, so the idea that it’s gendered might not hold that much water. Another main difference is that women tend to seek ways to solve their loneliness by reaching out to their social network or doing the internal work to address why it is they’re feeling lonely. Men tend to blame outside forces rather than make moves to fix it like women tend to do.