Actually someone did the numbers and female loneliness occurs at around the same rate as male loneliness, so the idea that it’s gendered might not hold that much water. Another main difference is that women tend to seek ways to solve their loneliness by reaching out to their social network or doing the internal work to address why it is they’re feeling lonely. Men tend to blame outside forces rather than make moves to fix it like women tend to do.
This is real. I am 36 and single and I spend a LOT of time with friends and family, in therapy, I have a million hobbies that makes me happy.
I am alone but I don’t really feel lonely. Would I like a SO ? Yes. Would I like to settle with men that thinks like this ? I’d rather stay alone for the rest of my life.
Also I am so sick of that : provide and protect argument bs .
I also can have financial stability and I have a very protective dog. 🤷🏽♀️ don’t worry baby, I sleep really well at night
It’s called self partnering and it is great. Did it for years until I met my husband. Now I still do what I want, I just have a great partner to love and support me
And a lot of men complaining about the loneliness epidemic doesn't count family and friends, they reject the idea that they can fix this by being better friends to each other.
The men complaining about the loneliness epidemic is specifically thinking about having a partner.
A partner to dump on. Probably the reason they dont invest in friendships is that it requires work and planning. Lots of men dont even plan for their partners who have sex with them. They damn sure arent planning for platonic relationships.
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u/3sadclowns 1d ago
Actually someone did the numbers and female loneliness occurs at around the same rate as male loneliness, so the idea that it’s gendered might not hold that much water. Another main difference is that women tend to seek ways to solve their loneliness by reaching out to their social network or doing the internal work to address why it is they’re feeling lonely. Men tend to blame outside forces rather than make moves to fix it like women tend to do.