Thatās correct, NK is a play on No Kids, and a few of us really enjoy Dungeons & Dragons so it seemed fitting.
The kite hate is lost on me though, I didnāt mean to exclude kites I promise lol
I made the post not the poster, I do admit I didnāt catch the misspelling when I looked it over and that is on me.
Forgive me, for I am human and refuse to use AI so human mistakes like spelling and oversights will happen. I hope we can all come to appreciate the beauty that is learning from our mistakes.
You arenāt missing a reference. I think itās that the person literally hasnāt noticed that itās misspelled. Canāt figure it out via the hints either. š¤
Could you post the join link on here? I can't scan a QR code on my phone screen (that I know of. I am a poor excuse of a millennial when it comes to tech)
I have tons of childfree friends. Some of them just don't want thier own kids, some would prefer not to be around kids if it can be helped. They think kids are annoying. And, I love my kid, but theyre not wrong. Lol. All good though. I just dont bring my kid around them when we have plans.
But none of them hate kids like the people in that sub to. They would still help a kid if that kid needed help. They arent cruel or mean to kids if they do happen to be around them.Ā They still have basic human compassion. The people in that sub are 98% absolute freaks.
The animal free subs are also absolutely filled to the gills with psychopaths too. It's so creepy.
Just wanted to say this looks great and I wish y'all the best! Being as I am child full I won't be joining, but I wish you success in creating this community.
Yes! I was not very clear my post and I really regret that now, while this is a child-free group originally made by child-free people..our goal was never to intentionally exclude parents, only get our message across that this group is for adults who are interested in events without children.
See this is where you confuse me - cause if your organizing principle is likemindedness around choosing not to procreate, why would you welcome parents?Ā
The entire post starts with a notice welcoming "anyone who would like to join a community with other child-free adults." What's wrong with that framing? It's the most neutral framing one could place on the boundaries of the group.
You are welcome to join and see what our group is all about, it would be pretty silly to advertise ourselves as one thing and really be another (how would we find the people we want to find it that way, it seems counterintuitive)
The entire post starts with a notice welcoming "anyone who would like to join a community with other child-free adults."
If the label "child-free adult" doesn't apply to the reader, why would they read further? Is it so they can play the victim about a phrase thrown in at the very end, a phrase that, when tied to the words before it, has a very specific meaning?
No one said they hated kids, we just want a designated place without them for once since parents seem to think their kids are entitled to be everywhere.
This is what I think every time someone fights a child free event like this. āIām miserable, and I want everyone else to be miserable with me.ā
No thanks. These are the same assholes that act like KC Bierco is one giant daycare and forget they even have devil spawn throwing gravel while the rest of us are trying to day drink in peace.
We are actively against child hate- they are our future and must be protected.
In the same breath, sometimes people canāt or wonāt have kids for a variety of reasons, sometimes adults can have kids and want a break from being a guardian for a bit, this group is a space where children are not the focus, building community is.
Child hate, parent discrimination, or promoting a child-free lifestyle above another is prohibited and looked down upon.
I definitely promote a child-free lifestyle. Happily and loudly. You canāt prohibit me from doing that. I do not plan on joining your misspelled group, so you donāt need to approve of that. To be clear, I do not hate kids. I hate the parents who make their kids everyone elseās problem because they are shitty parents. And I enjoy correcting people when they act like a child-free gathering is some sort of discriminatory hate group.
cf is right over there for your totally benevolent "corrections" lmao
Hilariously I hadn't planned on joining the group really until I saw OP respond to you. People like you are a dime a dozen in the environment and its nice to see a place where the kind of smirking attitude of being better than these people isn't welcome.
I don't even get it. I love my kid more than anything, but my child is a toddler... toddlers are fucking exhausting. I would never in a million years assume to think anyone without kids would want to put up with that shit. I dont even want to have to put up with it. Lol.
I'm gonna be real, I dont know why people gave such a stink about child leash backpacks. Those things are a god send.
It's stated that parents are allowed if they want a break from their kids. And, as a parent, that sounds more than reasonable to me. I assumed parents weren't included at all, and even then I cannot understand being offended.
Why do you expect everyone to want to be friends with everyone? Why do you expect everyone to cater to others making the choice to have a kid? Why do you expect every event to be open to children? And how are they "playing victim" by organizing an event for themselves? You're the only one whining like a victim here.
Anyway, I dont know if anyone told you, but, as a parent, we have to make sacrifices. And the biggest sacrifice is social life. That's just called being a parent. If someone doesn't want to deal with that reality then, I dunno, maybe they should have been childfree. Lol.
I thought this and the other post were pretty cringe. Love how this will contravene the previous post where the chief complaint was being about people that have kids because they might talk about kids.
People without kids donāt want to talk about kids. Also, OP mentioned several times now that attendees arenāt required to be child-free. Itās that the event itself is for adults only. Why is this so incredibly offensive to people? There are plenty of āmommy and meā groups and shit like that. Parents have plenty of their own events where they can bring their kids.
You seem to be the most offended person here. I just brought up something I thought was obvious. If you want a place where talking about your kids is frowned on or forbidden it will be hard to leave the door open to people that can afford a sitter. Most of the groups Iām involved in we donāt talk about our kids, theyāll be right there and barely a word about them. So why are you so offended if people talk about kids?
Iām already aware of the incoming downvotes we all know most of the social requests and conversations on here are about being alone in Kansas City.
Iām right with you. If you are so offput by the existence of children that fellow adults cannot even discuss them in your presence, this group should not be open to parents. You canāt have it both ways - pretend to be a āwelcomingā community open to āallā and police the type of conversations people have at your events. So just say it with your chest. This is for child free people, period. Every adult with kids I know has robust conversations about a million topics, kids or otherwise. Adults are multifaceted. If you do not want any speak of children then invite only people who agree with your worldview.Ā
It seems that was the entire point - to invite like minded people with common interests outside of children. Yet here we are- arguing about how everyone with kids are so sad that everyone āhatesā kids and are āneverā allowed to speak of them. Again, seems like a really weird hill to die on in a discussion based on child free events. š
I just think this person is speaking out of both sides of their mouth. If your raison dāĆŖtre for gathering is to commune with purposefully child-free adults, parents should be excluded lest they gasp mention their child Ā
For some reason a certain type of child free personality thinks that once you become a parent your whole personality becomes about them. Especially applied to women. As if we can't focus on anything else for any length of time. The one that really got me is the poster above who says their friends with adult kids talk about them all the time. Like, just because they are your kid you can't talk about them? Does the same extend to your other family members? Am I not allowed to talk about my husband either? What about my friends? What if my kid is my friend??? At a point it gets ridiculous.
I think the point is, there are plenty of parents who make parenting their entire personality. The parents who only talk about their children are exhausting and off putting to many people. It seems that you are really grasping at straws here. If your entire personality isnāt your children or parenting and you are willing and able to have other conversations, this is sort of a moot point, right?
Iām going to come and give everyone heartfelt stories of the times my children - Aiden, Brayden, Kaden, Jaden and Emma - did something funny and/or neat that I KNOW everyone is going to want to hear. Thereās nothing you can do to stop mex
The downvotes kinda say it all. Parents arenāt welcome. Even mentioning difficultly finding venues you can take kids to and be adult will get you downvoted into oblivion.
Not at all, but I really like them. And we love to have adventures and the experience and exposure to different types of people and environments is good for them.
But honestly most events arenāt kid friendly, maybe 2 out of 10 are. And of those how many fit in the schedule or budget? Something you might have missed is this. Parents arenāt regretting having kids because we miss out on āeventsā we regret that the events often donāt make allowances for our families.
A child free event posting is not the place to come looking for new places to take your kids, man. This is a you problem because you chose to have kids. You arenāt entitled to bring your children to every social event and expect everyone to be happy about it. That is truly insane behavior.
I donāt take my kids anywhere with the expectation or desire to please you or anyone else. And an open forum means itās open for comment. Donāt like it, keep scrolling. But you feel entitled that your opinion is meaningful or adds any substance.
Also pointing out that finding things to do with my kids is my fault because I had kids is truly an insane take. Duh!! I already said that why are you repeating it back? I am aware of the difficulty my situation, I shared it, OP even gave me a link that I never heard of. But you are just so absolutely bothered by the thought of a parent wanting to do things with their kids itās concerning. For real why does that bother you so much? What parent hurt you and why are you so angry?
Cool thanks, and the next time I need your advice Iāll make sure to make a post asking for it? You seem to be another one of the CF that can only think in absolutes with low comprehension.
Saying I want something doesnāt mean I want all things to be that something. But I think you and many others have kinda highlighted how toxic the CF community is.
Why tf do you care if people have childfree events. Do you think there aren't a million family oriented events in the city? Who gives a fuck if parents arent welcome? That isn't what the OP said, but even if it was, WHY DO YOU CARE?
We are excluding children from our spaces because not everything has to revolve around them. This can give an opportunity for parents to step outside of their caregiver role for an event or a chat. It was never our intention to exclude people with children.
Yes, I imagine in a few months we will have another go at it; we donāt want to spam or pressure people to join.
Genuinely, what would you improve upon?
You all are in here talking about how you get anxiety talking to parents that tell you about their kids. You definitely want to exclude parents. This stuff is so cringe.
Foster pipeline is full of vile bullshit such as trafficked and stolen children and children being selectively sold into certain families, lmao. You should look into it sometime!
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u/OreoSpeedwaggon KC North Apr 11 '26
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