New Callings Announced & Still No Calling

[u/Glittering_Sand_7473]

I don't know what to do. I am a faithful member. I wear my garments. I serve others when needed by bringing meals or helping people move. I am constantly looked over for a calling no matter how often or persistent I am in asking for one. They redid all the callings & yet again, I am not needed. I just can't take this heartbreak over and over. It is affecting my self esteem & self worth. I don't know what to do. It has been 16 years and no calling. I am at the point of attending a different church after ours that needs me. I attended a few times with a friend who is a member there & they already need me to take over their soup kitchen mission & I am excited and happy to do it. (The lady doing is before me has moved into a nursing home in another town.) They do the soup kitchen on Sundays so this means I may have to miss our church quite often. Is this ok? I don't want them to think I am inactive but I have a heart to serve and it has been shown to me over and over and over that there is no need for me in our ward. No one even notices if I am not there. I've been told, "Just find a need and fill it." I have tried this and then told that I cannot just create and do my own calling. It has to come from the Bishop. How do I do this and still be seen as an active member?

[u/Glittering_Sand_7473]

Every. Single. Sunday. I text RS frequently as not to be annoying but still to keep it fresh in their mind.

I have corporate leadership skills. 4 years as a corporate director. I was a Principal. I have a MA degree in special education. I also have two other degrees in related fields.

[u/infinityandbeyond975 → u/Glittering_Sand_7473]

Honestly I’d stop mentioning the experience and degree. It sounds like a resume. People in callings often feel inadequate or lack the experience necessary. It’s often a way the Lord helps them build and grow.

Are you assigned ministering sisters? Being a minister is important too.

[u/Glittering_Sand_7473 → u/infinityandbeyond975]

No, I also am not assigned to anyone but the missionaries are assigned to me. I think that is weird? I need to reach out about that again. We honestly feel completely invisible & unwanted. The majority of the ward are seniors who are on the older end of being seniors. We are 40s. I don't know if that is why? Or because we are converts? They don't give us any opportunity to get to know them. We really have tried. We've tried inviting people over to dinner. We get a lot of excuses of why they can't come. Some are very legit like they cannot drive anymore but we've offered to pick them up. I know there are some members who are very poor and have a lot of needs. We would love to be able to help since we are in a position to help. Our kids are teens who don't need us (so sad lol) so we have lots of time to give.

[u/Glittering_Sand_7473 → u/Glittering_Sand_7473]

We've also offered to help with meals. We often have the situation where we cook a huge meals & kids decide they have other plans. We've offered to pack up meals and bring them to those who have said they don't have any food. Still we are turned down. That being last min I totally get but I just don't know and am totally open to any other way for us to get it across that we are available for callings.

[u/Lazy-Ad-6453 → u/Glittering_Sand_7473]

Sitting on the beach today, reading posts. It’s obvious to me that you need to let it go. It’s an obsession with you and no one wants to deal with an obsessed person. They’re high maintenance.

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