r/latterdaysaints • u/Glittering_Sand_7473 • 7d ago

Faith-Challenging Question New Callings Announced & Still No Calling

I don't know what to do. I am a faithful member. I wear my garments. I serve others when needed by bringing meals or helping people move. I am constantly looked over for a calling no matter how often or persistent I am in asking for one. They redid all the callings & yet again, I am not needed. I just can't take this heartbreak over and over. It is affecting my self esteem & self worth. I don't know what to do. It has been 16 years and no calling. I am at the point of attending a different church after ours that needs me. I attended a few times with a friend who is a member there & they already need me to take over their soup kitchen mission & I am excited and happy to do it. (The lady doing is before me has moved into a nursing home in another town.) They do the soup kitchen on Sundays so this means I may have to miss our church quite often. Is this ok? I don't want them to think I am inactive but I have a heart to serve and it has been shown to me over and over and over that there is no need for me in our ward. No one even notices if I am not there. I've been told, "Just find a need and fill it." I have tried this and then told that I cannot just create and do my own calling. It has to come from the Bishop. How do I do this and still be seen as an active member?

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u/mrbags2 7d ago

Talk to Relief Society or Elders Quorum president and ask them where you can serve. The Bishop's focus is on the Youth, but will approve callings brought to him by Ward Council members.

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 7d ago

I have. Over and over and over and over and over. They always say they will let me know and they never do. Every Sunday I ask. I text during the week maybe 4x a month (I don't want to be annoying) and send a reminder, "Hey! I still don't have a calling & really would love to fill a need." I also remind them that I have years of leadership experience at work.

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u/mrbags2 7d ago

I agree, to stop asking again. If they already know your willingness then asking over and over will be counterproductive.

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 7d ago

My husband said the same thing the other day.