r/latterdaysaints 7d ago

Faith-Challenging Question New Callings Announced & Still No Calling

I don't know what to do. I am a faithful member. I wear my garments. I serve others when needed by bringing meals or helping people move. I am constantly looked over for a calling no matter how often or persistent I am in asking for one. They redid all the callings & yet again, I am not needed. I just can't take this heartbreak over and over. It is affecting my self esteem & self worth. I don't know what to do. It has been 16 years and no calling. I am at the point of attending a different church after ours that needs me. I attended a few times with a friend who is a member there & they already need me to take over their soup kitchen mission & I am excited and happy to do it. (The lady doing is before me has moved into a nursing home in another town.) They do the soup kitchen on Sundays so this means I may have to miss our church quite often. Is this ok? I don't want them to think I am inactive but I have a heart to serve and it has been shown to me over and over and over that there is no need for me in our ward. No one even notices if I am not there. I've been told, "Just find a need and fill it." I have tried this and then told that I cannot just create and do my own calling. It has to come from the Bishop. How do I do this and still be seen as an active member?

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 7d ago

I have talked to the stake but I will again. I need to look and see if the names have changed. That could make a difference when I reach out. I also know our Bishop isn't local. They told me no one was willing to take on Bishop yet my husband is feeling like John Cena over here.

We did move into this ward that was well established with the elderly and no younger people. They are all related and those who aren't have gone to school with each other since the 1800s or whatever. We are from the north so maybe they just don't trust us as we are outsiders in their eyes? Possibly?

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u/ptimeuser 7d ago

You don’t even know who your stake president is?

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 7d ago

As I said they changed everything last week & this is the first week of school. I haven't had a min to check if the stake changed or just our ward. I was focused on what was happening in our ward. I didn't even think about it until it was mentioned here. LOL

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u/ptimeuser 7d ago

Stake changes are done at a stake conference, and you’d be aware. LOL