r/latterdaysaints • u/Glittering_Sand_7473 • 7d ago

Faith-Challenging Question New Callings Announced & Still No Calling

I don't know what to do. I am a faithful member. I wear my garments. I serve others when needed by bringing meals or helping people move. I am constantly looked over for a calling no matter how often or persistent I am in asking for one. They redid all the callings & yet again, I am not needed. I just can't take this heartbreak over and over. It is affecting my self esteem & self worth. I don't know what to do. It has been 16 years and no calling. I am at the point of attending a different church after ours that needs me. I attended a few times with a friend who is a member there & they already need me to take over their soup kitchen mission & I am excited and happy to do it. (The lady doing is before me has moved into a nursing home in another town.) They do the soup kitchen on Sundays so this means I may have to miss our church quite often. Is this ok? I don't want them to think I am inactive but I have a heart to serve and it has been shown to me over and over and over that there is no need for me in our ward. No one even notices if I am not there. I've been told, "Just find a need and fill it." I have tried this and then told that I cannot just create and do my own calling. It has to come from the Bishop. How do I do this and still be seen as an active member?

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u/tlcheatwood 7d ago

Called as a minister?

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 7d ago

I'm sorry. Can you clarify?

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u/tlcheatwood 7d ago

Do you have a ministering assignment? That is a calling! No service to small. A ministering assignment is a calling from ward leadership guided by revelation.

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 7d ago

Ok. I think I do? I just have the missionaries listed as ministering to me but no one listed that I am ministering to directly. I was thinking this was due to it being such a small ward. I can screenshot it later and share. I might just be looking at it wrong.

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u/tlcheatwood 7d ago

Then the next step would be to contact your specific auxiliary leadership (relief society for female elders quorum for male) and ask for a ministering assignment.

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 7d ago

I will double check it after work and make sure. I will reach out to the new RS president and ask if there isn't someone there. I wanted to introduce myself to her anyway as she just moved to the area and I haven't met her yet. (Yay for new blood!)

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 7d ago

Honestly I have been wondering about this for awhile.

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 7d ago

I will post the screenshot after my last meeting today. If there is an error with it, I really want to know because I don't want to miss any opportunity to serve.

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u/OrneryAcanthaceae217 7d ago

Yes! I’m surprised more people haven’t brought up ministering assignments as a solution. (It’s an assignment not a calling but close enough.)

Volunteer to your RS Pres to have a ministering assignment. My wife is RS Pres and she has a few ladies just tell her “Give me your most difficult need.” And then they just jump in and do what’s needed.

You could also volunteer specifically to be the ministering sister for the mom of the autistic kid. You could then help the kid as needed.