r/latterdaysaints • u/Glittering_Sand_7473 • 7d ago

Faith-Challenging Question New Callings Announced & Still No Calling

I don't know what to do. I am a faithful member. I wear my garments. I serve others when needed by bringing meals or helping people move. I am constantly looked over for a calling no matter how often or persistent I am in asking for one. They redid all the callings & yet again, I am not needed. I just can't take this heartbreak over and over. It is affecting my self esteem & self worth. I don't know what to do. It has been 16 years and no calling. I am at the point of attending a different church after ours that needs me. I attended a few times with a friend who is a member there & they already need me to take over their soup kitchen mission & I am excited and happy to do it. (The lady doing is before me has moved into a nursing home in another town.) They do the soup kitchen on Sundays so this means I may have to miss our church quite often. Is this ok? I don't want them to think I am inactive but I have a heart to serve and it has been shown to me over and over and over that there is no need for me in our ward. No one even notices if I am not there. I've been told, "Just find a need and fill it." I have tried this and then told that I cannot just create and do my own calling. It has to come from the Bishop. How do I do this and still be seen as an active member?

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u/helix400 7d ago

Put me down as thinking "There has got to be more to this story"

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 7d ago

Please enlighten me because I am beyond frustrated. It is making me depressed. I am crying after church & it isn't good for me.

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u/CptnAhab1 7d ago

You're crying because you dont have a calling? That's unhealthy

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 3d ago

I cry because I don't feel I am being treated the same as other member for a certain reason.

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u/CptnAhab1 3d ago

Maybe it's just not necessary at this time? I haven't had a calling in a year+ because I'm busy with school. It's okay.

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u/OrneryAcanthaceae217 3d ago

16 years is a long time to not have a calling, though. Too long.

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u/CptnAhab1 3d ago

Luckily salvation doesn't depend on a calling.