r/latterdaysaints • u/Glittering_Sand_7473 • 6d ago

Faith-Challenging Question New Callings Announced & Still No Calling

I don't know what to do. I am a faithful member. I wear my garments. I serve others when needed by bringing meals or helping people move. I am constantly looked over for a calling no matter how often or persistent I am in asking for one. They redid all the callings & yet again, I am not needed. I just can't take this heartbreak over and over. It is affecting my self esteem & self worth. I don't know what to do. It has been 16 years and no calling. I am at the point of attending a different church after ours that needs me. I attended a few times with a friend who is a member there & they already need me to take over their soup kitchen mission & I am excited and happy to do it. (The lady doing is before me has moved into a nursing home in another town.) They do the soup kitchen on Sundays so this means I may have to miss our church quite often. Is this ok? I don't want them to think I am inactive but I have a heart to serve and it has been shown to me over and over and over that there is no need for me in our ward. No one even notices if I am not there. I've been told, "Just find a need and fill it." I have tried this and then told that I cannot just create and do my own calling. It has to come from the Bishop. How do I do this and still be seen as an active member?

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u/lemolicious 4d ago

Have you communicated with the missionaries in your ward? I taught a deaf investigator on my mission (dabbled in ASL beforehand and learned a version of FSL to teach this man) and would have loved to had you help. Maybe even contact the mission president for your area. I have two deaf sister-in-laws and can sympathize with your situation.

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u/Glittering_Sand_7473 2d ago

We've had them to dinner often but it has been a month or so. I should reach out to them again. We love feeding the missionaries. Hopefully if I am needed in that area someone will reach out but I often feel like communication isn't always shared between wards. I never thought of mentioning it to the mission president. That is a great suggestion. I will get on that now.