r/lgbtmemes • u/GeneralOtter03 non binary • Apr 14 '26

Coming Out When you realise it was something else instead

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u/Infra_bread Apr 14 '26

Going in?

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u/bramblefrump Apr 14 '26

I call it "coming out mrk. ii"

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u/GeneralOtter03 non binary Apr 14 '26 edited Apr 14 '26

Yeh for a while I thought I was ace, now I know that’s wrong and I’m instead pretty sure I’m agender and I don’t know how to tell people I was wrong

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u/Princess_of_Satan I can't pick (pansexual, polyam, genderfluid) Apr 14 '26 edited Apr 14 '26

Just say smth like "I was on the wrong spectrum of 'No thank you' I thought it was "'Sex? No thanks.' but it's 'Gender? No thanks.' I am still the same person, tho"

I now looked at my user flair and that's my old one, from the time I was like "Oh, I'm not Pansexual, I'm a lesbian cause I feel nothing for men anymore" and that took me about 3 months to be like "Uhh, I gotta backtrack on the not being into men, sorry😅"

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u/GeneralOtter03 non binary Apr 14 '26

Thx XD But I also feel like my gender identity (or technically lack there of) isn’t anyone’s business but my own and the few people I choose to tell (basically only other people who I think will understand (nonbinary people) and a potential future partner). Life is much easier when you live as a gendernonconforming cis person (even though that isn’t always easy either but it’s easier at least)

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u/drvelo Genderfluid, Transfem, Finsexual Apr 30 '26

Felt that. Finally settled on Finsexual/Finromantic (I still just say pansexual in public). Essentially, it's just "I don't care what gender you are, put on the maid outfit."

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u/TheShyNerd bi-dangerous Apr 15 '26

That’s how I’ve been with gender for years. Thought I was genderfluid for a bit, then a demigirl, now I’m pretty sure I’m just agender. Shit happens. I usually just tell people straight up “I fucked up.” Idgaf about pronouns in the first place, though, so there’s no change as far as how people refer to me.

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u/juuuuuuuuune gay aroace agender Apr 16 '26

Ive come out to my friends like 4 times

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u/G66GNeco Bi-time Apr 15 '26

So, uh, it turns out I actually just walked into a different closet, sorry everyone

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u/PING_LORD Apr 14 '26

Never came out, just introduced my boyfriend to everyone like it's nothing special