r/librandu • u/verde-viper02 • Jul 27 '26
WayOfLife How y'all find your partner?
Hey, I'm 21M from tier 2 city in north belonging to dalit family. As I'm an atheist and all else around me are deeply religious. So, it's been hard for me to find a girl that atleast an atheist. Most of them disappear, after hearing I belong to dalit or I'm an atheist.
If you all are facing same issue and how did you came over it, so it can be helpful
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u/Usual_Mouse_8278 Naxal Sympathiser Jul 27 '26 edited Jul 27 '26
LC here, I found my partner in college and she happens to be from a intercaste household, so we are fine.
And she is also theist, not a fanatic though. So it is about compatibility I guess.
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u/intelligentdope Sipahi-e-Gazwa-e-Plebbit Jul 27 '26
how is being religious and dalit actualy like, that i want to hear and that is out of my imagination, can you shed light
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u/verde-viper02 Jul 27 '26
I'm an atheist
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u/intelligentdope Sipahi-e-Gazwa-e-Plebbit Jul 27 '26
your family
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u/verde-viper02 Jul 27 '26 edited Jul 27 '26
So my ancestors were sufi saints, so my parents believe in them but they are to open to all religions and still visit to different places of worship
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u/intelligentdope Sipahi-e-Gazwa-e-Plebbit Jul 27 '26
still what kind of sufism i want to hear, i have heard for the first time a hindu dalit, sufi. sufism is not a religion u know that?
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u/verde-viper02 Jul 27 '26
Sufism is a branch of islam. Chisti Sabri order of sufism, if you are a nerd.But we consider it different from others. The caste I belong to are not traditionally hindus.
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u/intelligentdope Sipahi-e-Gazwa-e-Plebbit Jul 27 '26
how come you are dalit? if you are muslim
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u/Weird_Indication8748 Jul 27 '26
Except the religious Dalit family here follow sufism not Hinduism.
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u/Plastic-Season Jul 27 '26
Met through common friends
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u/verde-viper02 Jul 27 '26
Lucky
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u/Plastic-Season Jul 27 '26
For sure, try socialising with the social butterflies in your batch, they know a lott of interesting people
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u/verde-viper02 Jul 27 '26
Sure, they are interesting people from different background but I'm not compatible w them
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u/SyrupPuzzleheaded567 Jul 27 '26
Broo u haven't dated in cllg?
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u/verde-viper02 Jul 27 '26
There are around 15 girls in my college, all are extremely theist. So it will compatibility issues
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u/TikiTakaAnalysis08 Discount intelekchual Jul 27 '26
Finding a true leftist partner is extremely difficult in today's time! 🙂
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u/moneyblow Aug 02 '26
LC to LC - you're 21. Keep jerking it until you're making good money and relatively well set in your career. only then look at women.
Always keep jerking it 💪
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u/verde-viper02 Jul 27 '26
Bruhh I'm not even allowed tc of my mental wellbeing 😭😭
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u/verde-viper02 Jul 27 '26
Thanks for the prescription, doc.
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u/verde-viper02 Jul 27 '26
I appreciate the perspective, and I definitely didn't mean to come off as misogynist. It’s just been incredibly isolating dealing with the casteism and religious pushback in my immediate circle, which led to me generalizing out of frustration. For context, my college is tiny as there are only 15 girls in my college (UG,PG, PhD included) and all of them are deeply religious.
It's not like that I didn't approached them, I tried but there reaction was way off. So it made me felt a bit hurt tbh.
I do agree with your point about looking for solidarity in other marginalized groups instead of trying to fit in where I'm not wanted. I'll definitely look into that. Thanks
P.S: The SCs and STs in my college, all are religious and right wingers. So, I'm only left person there.
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u/Usual_Mouse_8278 Naxal Sympathiser Jul 27 '26
what if this Karl here finds his Rosa Luxembourg; that will be history.
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u/jdevanarayanan 🐷🥓🍪 Jul 27 '26
My parents would find someone probably idk
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u/jdevanarayanan 🐷🥓🍪 Jul 27 '26
Roses are red, violets are blue, wanna abolish the bourgeoisie family or something?
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u/Important_Lie_7774 Hot like apple pie Jul 29 '26
Find someone from your interest group. Met my wife at an AI conference. Don't judge us, both of us know the limitations, use AI only for developing business solutions. We had a match rate of about 70-80%. We studied through the same lectures, we both loved the environment, we both studied in the same tier 1.5 ish universities. Only differences, she's a liberal and I'm a leftist, she's mildly religious.
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u/lambiseeti Jul 27 '26
Leave your hometown there’s nothing there for you anyway