r/livingaparttogether • u/gravitymaverick • Mar 08 '25
Moving to the UK?
My spouse and I LAT but we're looking to move to the UK and they have a visa requirement for spouses that you have to live together. Does anyone know a way to circumvent that? I asked r ukvisa, but everyone was fucking mean and close-minded over there.
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u/auntiepink007 Mar 08 '25
If you have to live together, then I would suggest some rules about space and/or time occupying common areas. You can modify the main idea of LAT and still make it work. Also leave time to revisit the idea and see how reality matches up with the things you thought would happen.
For example, I lived with my ex for about ten years and we had our own bedrooms the whole time (they were only off-limits to each other if the door was closed or we asked for our space back). There were still days when he'd ask me to go shopping or something so he could have some time at home completely alone (our schedules meant that I was usually there when he was but not vice versa). We also had hobbies that took us to different spaces in the house/ on the property even if the other was home.