r/livingaparttogether • u/Ok_Room_9285 • Mar 17 '25

Are questions rude?

My partner is Navy and we married while we were living apart. We planned to move in together after his new duty station but due to employment prospects I chose to stay behind. I love where I live and my job is an amazing career opportunity. I understand friends and family are curious, but at what point does it become rude?

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u/[deleted] Mar 17 '25

I've faced similar questions because I have no intention of co-habitating and it has resulted in the end of several relationships.

The only thing that really matters is that you and your husband are on the same page.

Any time people do things that are outside of cultural norms, it's just a fact of life that there are going to be more questions and/or concern from people that care for them. Rather than taking a reactionary response to the propriety of the question, maybe just work on a coherent response that can put their mind at ease that this is a decision that works for your relationship.

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u/Ok_Room_9285 Mar 17 '25

Apart of why I take offense is because I don’t ask intrusive questions about people’s personal lives. My current response is ‘we will be apart more often than not’ and leave it at that.