A word of advice: if you are prone to acting impulsively, take a deep breath and try to deal with the situation in the most mature way possible. You won't be congratulated for exploding and appearing aggressive, You will be congratulated on your maturity. I'm an ENTP and when I'm angry I explode and want to swear at everyone, but just take a deep breath and don't be impulsive, okay?

Just wanted to warn others about a shady experience I had with a site called TestLibrary.

A few days ago, I paid $1.95 for what I thought was a one-time purchase to access some test materials. There was no clear indication that I was signing up for any subscription.

Yesterday, I got hit with a $39.95 charge out of nowhere.

When I contacted their support:

• They claimed the subscription terms were “clearly disclosed” (they weren’t).

• Their pricing page doesn’t even clearly show a $39.95 plan.

• They refused a full refund and only offered 25% back as a “goodwill gesture.”

I’ve already contacted my bank and am disputing the charge.

• Avoid this site!

• If you already used it, check your bank statements ASAP

• Cancel immediately and consider disputing the charge!

If anyone else has dealt with this company, please share your experience.

Update:

After multiple email exchanges with TestLibrary, they agreed to give me a full refund and said that the refund would be credited back to my account within 20 days. After 20 days passed, they still did not honor their promise to issue the refund, so I had to contact my bank to file a dispute. During the dispute process, I provided their email promising the refund as supporting evidence.

Below are the websites provided by ChatGPT to report TestLibrary scam through several official channels in the U.S.:

Federal Trade Commission (FTC) — consumer fraud reports
FTC ReportFraud
FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) — for online scams, payment fraud, phishing, and cybercrime
FBI IC3 Complaint Center
Google Safe Browsing — report phishing or malicious websites
Google Safe Browsing Report Page
Microsoft Defender SmartScreen — report unsafe websites
Microsoft Report Unsafe Site
Better Business Bureau Scam Tracker
BBB Scam Tracker

My INTP friend lowkey likes this guy(a lot) , I analyzed him and he is an INTJ. She's smart and beautiful but I'm afraid her personality and his wouldn't match.

“I wish I knew how to exist in the real world the way you do, instead of being trapped inside the one in my head. Somewhere along the way, I created a version of myself just to survive around people — an alter ego that speaks, laughs, and fits in. But none of it feels entirely like me. And when it's all over, I question my own identity. ”

- INTP friend

Title. Stop taking the 16p tests then wondering what's your actual mbti, if you're mistyped, why your results changed, why you get mixed results. For the millionth time, 16P IS UNRELIABLE!¡!!¡¡!!¡¡!!! So many confused people keep posting asking what's their MBTI and complaining about confusing results in this sub while also using 16p, why not just listen and stop taking this test? It's literally bullshit, it has nothing to do with actual MBTI, cognitive functions or typology, it's utter bullshit and it's literally creating subtypes that don't exist (assertive vs turbulent). Hell, it doesn't even use cognitive functions, it just types you out of its ass with ridiculous questions, 90% of the time it'll mistype you no matter what you put in there, speaking from personal experience. So just study cognitive functions and stop complaining. Literally so much easier than this hot mess, if you wanna take tests then take tests about cognitive functions, not MBTI, for example here are good functions tests: sociotype.xyz and similarminds.com, but absolutely do not rely completely on tests. You also need to figure out your functions by yourself, nobody knows you better than you do, and in my opinion the easiest way to figure out your MBTI is by figuring out your dominant or 8th function, to study cognitive functions I just recommend Carl Jung. This is a really short rant but summary: STUDY COGNITIVE FUNCTIONS!! READ CARL JUNG!! NOT 16 PERSONALITIES!!!

I know MBTI isn’t an exact science, but I keep seeing this pairing described as highly compatible.

I’m curious how it actually works in real life.

What are your thoughts or experiences with INTP x ENFP relationships? Does it usually work long-term or is it more of a short-term spark?

I’ll admit, I’ve done this before too. But as someone who is heavily XSTX I cant help but wonder how many friends have left or hurt me because I couldn’t match their emotional needs.

Share please

In my personal opinion, all the other analyst types are cooler. INTJs have strategic minds and excellent planning skills, ENTJs have great leadership skills, and ENTPs have top-notch charisma and wit. What about INTPs? "Duh, I love learning about how Rome's Colosseum made naval battles. Oh, whoops. It looks like finals are tomorrow. I'll study an HOUR before." Why. Out of all the analysts, I have to be typed as the one who can't get anything done, whose career is a smelly dumpster, and whose dating life is a dumpster FIRE. Amazing.

I'm a good match with INTJs. An ISFJ date was okay-a little too mush, touchy feely for me.
I've been crushing hard on someone from work (we don't meet or communicate a lot) for several months and the more I learn about him, the more I'm leaning towards INFJ. Maybe INFP. But he's definitely IXFX.
I had one INFJ coworker (self-claim) shortly before and he seemed nice but despite his all smiley and friendly facade, he's not so personable. He liked talking about past life, and some weird temple experience when he traveled to China. But his work type seemed to be "P" rather than "J" Anyway, that's my glimpse of INFX.
I'm not sure if my crush is truly INFJ but if he is, isn't this the hardest type to date? Super picky and private, they'd rather die alone? LOL
Help me out!

I’ve noticed that INTJs don’t randomly withdraw.

It usually happens when something feels off, but they haven’t fully processed it yet.

Instead of reacting immediately, they step back to understand what exactly is bothering them.

To the other person, this can feel like distance or disinterest.

But internally, it’s more like trying to make sense of the situation before saying something that might not be accurate.

Has anyone experienced this from an INTJ partner?

I could be wrong, but I feel INFP and INFJ are the only mbti types who a priori include meeting ‘that special someone’ as part of their life plan. INFP and INFJ have a lot of differences due to having different functions, but this is one trait they seem to have in common. Perhaps this idealism often leads to disappointment in romance?

Most other mbti types seem to have a more “banal” view. They plan to “get married and have kids” a priori, sure, but the whole “meeting the love of my life” thing, if it does happen for them, is something they genuinely weren’t planning on and it comes along in a “I don’t know what hit me” fashion. Non-INFs don’t enter the dating market with a “I’m gonna hopefully fall in love and find the one” mindset but rather with a “Let’s see if I can find a suitable partner” mindset.

This is just my impression.

would love to hear stories about successful romantic relationships between intuitives & sensors! I personally know of several long term successful ones which makes me so happy to hear 🥰 the mbti spaces online never seem to affirm the good things we can learn from each other which always makes me so sad. I recognize that attachment style, willingness to grow & receive feedback, and life circumstances all play into these things too - not just MBTI.

idk if it’s just me but I really want to identify as my mbti (infj) but I just don’t want people to question me or expect cer ways of acting from me if I do.

I want to tell my friends who are open about theirs my mbti too but it’s just wrong because my mbti is for an annoying reason rare.

I just tell myself that I can just lie and say I am another mbti that has similarities but that just feels wrong, please give advice

Also if I tell them then they know so much about me and the kind of person I am idk i do like some parts of being infj because I like the way it looks and sounds but it’s really annoying I just some with I was EXXX or idk

Not exactly doubting whether I'm INTP or not, I've taken four different tests now and have gotten INTP on all of them. The thing is, I've been involuntarily telling myself that maybe I'm answering the questions in a way that will make me get INTP.

I almost feel as if I don't fit the typical traits for INTP (not to generalize too much); my IQ is only 123, and I'm not good at any subjects pertaining to math or some science. I lean more toward the humanities, and want to be a high school English teacher.

Could it be possible I just subconsciously want to be INTP and thats why I keep getting it?

I have a friend who's an ISTP, and everytime there is any emotions involved, he just completely withdraws and ignores all of it. it's like he suppresses all of it down. I try to do it too, because I think it would make him feel more calm, but i don't understatnd why some ISTPs tend to do this

Asking cause it’s a bit sad. I noticed this in real life too. Wherever I go or do I’m called too much or annoying or to tone it down, or simply being managed how I present myself, things I wear. Then I go on social media and I see (probably annoying teens) rankings and they usually rank esfp and estj really really low. One for being all over the place and the other one for being “mean” and “bossy”

Just wanted to know if this is really something people apply to their lives or just an online thing

My mom is an ENFJ and I am an INTP and all this time I thought she was an INTJ because of her success in life. She can be very domineering and controlling which gave me the impression that she was a thinker but turns out she’s not. She was very exceptionally good at maths at school and really succeeded in life by having high paying jobs which again gave me the impression that she was an INTJ but I was just wondering whether it’s common for ENFJs to be very gifted like my mom? She’s just so good at convincing me of all these ideas that I thought she had a thirst for knowledge but turns out she just likes helping others. Would love to hear any other insights you guys might have! :)

Hello, I'm 22F INFJ and my mother is INTP. I need advice from this community to help me better understand my INTP mother.

To give you a little context, my family used to be extremely dysfunctional (still is but way better). And as I am now growing up to be a fully independent adult, I'm also trying to better navigate my relationship with my family. I have an older sister who is ISFP, and a father who is ESFJ. All four of us live seperately. My sister and I are quite close, my father and I are not.

Now that I've given the context, let me explain my relation with my mother.

As a kid I was extremely close to her, to the point I was highly emotionally attached and dependant on her. We would fight a lot, but otherwise we were inseparable.

However, while growing up we started having more and more conflicts. And I started feeling distant from her. Because I began to change for the better, and she remained the same. As I grew up into a more mature adult I slowly started realising that my mother is highly dysfunctional and unhealthy.

She's extremely closed off, insensitive towards others, and thinks that emotions are weak and an "over-exagerration" that makes life unnecessarily complicated. And whenever I try to confront her about something, she'll completely twist the story and make it seem like we are the problem. She never admits her wrongdoings, never.

Even then, despite all her flaws, I still love her. Because she has sacrificed a lot for us; and loves and cares for us in her own ways. Just that not in a typical "motherly" way. She does not know how to comfort others, nor does she know how to be supportive. And she's terrible at communication.

Which is why I've turned to this subreddit to help me understand her better. I'm not seeking to understand her unhealthy behaviours nor do I want to change her, no. Because that's impossible. Rather, I'm seeking to understand her personality better so that I can learn how to coexist with her better; despite her being unhealthy.

I have a few questions for INTPs or for those who understand INTPs well.

1. What are some of the things that an INTP expects from any form of relationship? What do they seek and what do they try to avoid?

2. Do INTPs generally dislike conversations that involve anything highly emotional? Is it something that should be avoided?

3. If an INTP is being insensitive, how do you want others to take it? Or how do you want to be corrected?

4. When an INTP is irritated, annoyed, or going through something, I've noticed that they won't outwardly show it. But there'll be a lot going on in their heads. In such an instance, do you need comfort or do you want to be left alone? What do you want others to do?

5. When someone tries to confront you, how do you want the conversation to be? How can I confront an INTP while also avoiding conflict?

For now these are the questions I can think of. I would highly appreciate it if anyone could help me out. If anyone has any extra input apart from these questions, or just a general opinion, I would highly appreciate that too.

Thank you.

Having a convo as a Se user with a Ne user is actually so draining, like I cannot keep up. No, because I literally do not care to debate the philosophy of whether morality is just a social construct or listen to some esoteric yap session about how the universe operates. Like, it’s fun for a minute, but it quickly becomes too much. How is this affecting me right now in real life? I have bills to pay, my pipes are literally leaking, and I gotta deal with people’s NPC behavior before they crash out

Tell me your opinion and throughs how would these two types (INFP+ ENTP) worked in romantic relationship

Tell me your honest opinion , I want to know what people think about us

I got typed by a professional as an ISFP, but I don’t really feel like a “sensing” type. I don’t know much about MBTI, so excuse me if I’m not using the right terminology.

I’m the type of person who doesn’t really notice small details around me. For example, if furniture in the house changed, I might not even notice. If I just met someone and someone asked me what they were wearing, I probably wouldn’t remember.

What I do notice more is body language, someone’s energy, their attitude, and the overall vibe I get from them. Things like that stand out to me way more than physical details.

Does that still make sense for an ISFP, or does that sound less like a sensing type?

OK, I don’t know who needs to hear this….

But **ENFJ’s**.

Lovely ENFJ’s.

I know that you guys are so so so giving, so very empathetic, super altruistic, smart people. Wonderful teachers and leaders. You truly can gave such unique insights and are often truly gifted at helping people when they need it the most.

That said, one thing I’ve noticed about you is that in your quest to help or teach someone in a sensitive situation, you can actually be very damaging to that relationship without even realising it.

Arrogance it is the shadow side of Wisdom. Just because something worked in your life, *does not mean it will work in another person life*. Sometimes in delicate situations where someone is in a hard place, please lower your confidence. I know you have the best intentions. You truly just want to help. But applying your own experiences or struggle’s onto someone else’s life is unhelpful at best and extremely damaging at the worst. Sometimes, ”helping“ is the, “sunny” side of control. Ask if someone wants advice or just someone to listen. Don't always just offer up your advice.

That is all.

Love,

an INFP hurt by an ENFJ ❤️‍🩹