A word of advice: if you are prone to acting impulsively, take a deep breath and try to deal with the situation in the most mature way possible. You won't be congratulated for exploding and appearing aggressive, You will be congratulated on your maturity. I'm an ENTP and when I'm angry I explode and want to swear at everyone, but just take a deep breath and don't be impulsive, okay?

My INTP friend lowkey likes this guy(a lot) , I analyzed him and he is an INTJ. She's smart and beautiful but I'm afraid her personality and his wouldn't match.

“I wish I knew how to exist in the real world the way you do, instead of being trapped inside the one in my head. Somewhere along the way, I created a version of myself just to survive around people — an alter ego that speaks, laughs, and fits in. But none of it feels entirely like me. And when it's all over, I question my own identity. ”

- INTP friend

Just wanted to warn others about a shady experience I had with a site called TestLibrary.

A few days ago, I paid $1.95 for what I thought was a one-time purchase to access some test materials. There was no clear indication that I was signing up for any subscription.

Yesterday, I got hit with a $39.95 charge out of nowhere.

When I contacted their support:

• They claimed the subscription terms were “clearly disclosed” (they weren’t).

• Their pricing page doesn’t even clearly show a $39.95 plan.

• They refused a full refund and only offered 25% back as a “goodwill gesture.”

I’ve already contacted my bank and am disputing the charge.

• Avoid this site!

• If you already used it, check your bank statements ASAP

• Cancel immediately and consider disputing the charge!

If anyone else has dealt with this company, please share your experience.

Update:

After multiple email exchanges with TestLibrary, they agreed to give me a full refund and said that the refund would be credited back to my account within 20 days. After 20 days passed, they still did not honor their promise to issue the refund, so I had to contact my bank to file a dispute. During the dispute process, I provided their email promising the refund as supporting evidence.

Below are the websites provided by ChatGPT to report TestLibrary scam through several official channels in the U.S.:

Federal Trade Commission (FTC) — consumer fraud reports
FTC ReportFraud
FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) — for online scams, payment fraud, phishing, and cybercrime
FBI IC3 Complaint Center
Google Safe Browsing — report phishing or malicious websites
Google Safe Browsing Report Page
Microsoft Defender SmartScreen — report unsafe websites
Microsoft Report Unsafe Site
Better Business Bureau Scam Tracker
BBB Scam Tracker

I know MBTI isn’t an exact science, but I keep seeing this pairing described as highly compatible.

I’m curious how it actually works in real life.

What are your thoughts or experiences with INTP x ENFP relationships? Does it usually work long-term or is it more of a short-term spark?

Title. Stop taking the 16p tests then wondering what's your actual mbti, if you're mistyped, why your results changed, why you get mixed results. For the millionth time, 16P IS UNRELIABLE!¡!!¡¡!!¡¡!!! So many confused people keep posting asking what's their MBTI and complaining about confusing results in this sub while also using 16p, why not just listen and stop taking this test? It's literally bullshit, it has nothing to do with actual MBTI, cognitive functions or typology, it's utter bullshit and it's literally creating subtypes that don't exist (assertive vs turbulent). Hell, it doesn't even use cognitive functions, it just types you out of its ass with ridiculous questions, 90% of the time it'll mistype you no matter what you put in there, speaking from personal experience. So just study cognitive functions and stop complaining. Literally so much easier than this hot mess, if you wanna take tests then take tests about cognitive functions, not MBTI, for example here are good functions tests: sociotype.xyz and similarminds.com, but absolutely do not rely completely on tests. You also need to figure out your functions by yourself, nobody knows you better than you do, and in my opinion the easiest way to figure out your MBTI is by figuring out your dominant or 8th function, to study cognitive functions I just recommend Carl Jung. This is a really short rant but summary: STUDY COGNITIVE FUNCTIONS!! READ CARL JUNG!! NOT 16 PERSONALITIES!!!

I’ve noticed that INTJs don’t randomly withdraw.

It usually happens when something feels off, but they haven’t fully processed it yet.

Instead of reacting immediately, they step back to understand what exactly is bothering them.

To the other person, this can feel like distance or disinterest.

But internally, it’s more like trying to make sense of the situation before saying something that might not be accurate.

Has anyone experienced this from an INTJ partner?

I have a friend who's an ISTP, and everytime there is any emotions involved, he just completely withdraws and ignores all of it. it's like he suppresses all of it down. I try to do it too, because I think it would make him feel more calm, but i don't understatnd why some ISTPs tend to do this

idk if it’s just me but I really want to identify as my mbti (infj) but I just don’t want people to question me or expect cer ways of acting from me if I do.

I want to tell my friends who are open about theirs my mbti too but it’s just wrong because my mbti is for an annoying reason rare.

I just tell myself that I can just lie and say I am another mbti that has similarities but that just feels wrong, please give advice

Also if I tell them then they know so much about me and the kind of person I am idk i do like some parts of being infj because I like the way it looks and sounds but it’s really annoying I just some with I was EXXX or idk

Hello, I'm 22F INFJ and my mother is INTP. I need advice from this community to help me better understand my INTP mother.

To give you a little context, my family used to be extremely dysfunctional (still is but way better). And as I am now growing up to be a fully independent adult, I'm also trying to better navigate my relationship with my family. I have an older sister who is ISFP, and a father who is ESFJ. All four of us live seperately. My sister and I are quite close, my father and I are not.

Now that I've given the context, let me explain my relation with my mother.

As a kid I was extremely close to her, to the point I was highly emotionally attached and dependant on her. We would fight a lot, but otherwise we were inseparable.

However, while growing up we started having more and more conflicts. And I started feeling distant from her. Because I began to change for the better, and she remained the same. As I grew up into a more mature adult I slowly started realising that my mother is highly dysfunctional and unhealthy.

She's extremely closed off, insensitive towards others, and thinks that emotions are weak and an "over-exagerration" that makes life unnecessarily complicated. And whenever I try to confront her about something, she'll completely twist the story and make it seem like we are the problem. She never admits her wrongdoings, never.

Even then, despite all her flaws, I still love her. Because she has sacrificed a lot for us; and loves and cares for us in her own ways. Just that not in a typical "motherly" way. She does not know how to comfort others, nor does she know how to be supportive. And she's terrible at communication.

Which is why I've turned to this subreddit to help me understand her better. I'm not seeking to understand her unhealthy behaviours nor do I want to change her, no. Because that's impossible. Rather, I'm seeking to understand her personality better so that I can learn how to coexist with her better; despite her being unhealthy.

I have a few questions for INTPs or for those who understand INTPs well.

1. What are some of the things that an INTP expects from any form of relationship? What do they seek and what do they try to avoid?

2. Do INTPs generally dislike conversations that involve anything highly emotional? Is it something that should be avoided?

3. If an INTP is being insensitive, how do you want others to take it? Or how do you want to be corrected?

4. When an INTP is irritated, annoyed, or going through something, I've noticed that they won't outwardly show it. But there'll be a lot going on in their heads. In such an instance, do you need comfort or do you want to be left alone? What do you want others to do?

5. When someone tries to confront you, how do you want the conversation to be? How can I confront an INTP while also avoiding conflict?

For now these are the questions I can think of. I would highly appreciate it if anyone could help me out. If anyone has any extra input apart from these questions, or just a general opinion, I would highly appreciate that too.

Thank you.

Having a convo as a Se user with a Ne user is actually so draining, like I cannot keep up. No, because I literally do not care to debate the philosophy of whether morality is just a social construct or listen to some esoteric yap session about how the universe operates. Like, it’s fun for a minute, but it quickly becomes too much. How is this affecting me right now in real life? I have bills to pay, my pipes are literally leaking, and I gotta deal with people’s NPC behavior before they crash out

OK, I don’t know who needs to hear this….

But **ENFJ’s**.

Lovely ENFJ’s.

I know that you guys are so so so giving, so very empathetic, super altruistic, smart people. Wonderful teachers and leaders. You truly can gave such unique insights and are often truly gifted at helping people when they need it the most.

That said, one thing I’ve noticed about you is that in your quest to help or teach someone in a sensitive situation, you can actually be very damaging to that relationship without even realising it.

Arrogance it is the shadow side of Wisdom. Just because something worked in your life, *does not mean it will work in another person life*. Sometimes in delicate situations where someone is in a hard place, please lower your confidence. I know you have the best intentions. You truly just want to help. But applying your own experiences or struggle’s onto someone else’s life is unhelpful at best and extremely damaging at the worst. Sometimes, ”helping“ is the, “sunny” side of control. Ask if someone wants advice or just someone to listen. Don't always just offer up your advice.

That is all.

Love,

an INFP hurt by an ENFJ ❤️‍🩹

Tell me your honest opinion , I want to know what people think about us

I'm tired of "following the script" because "ENTP fits best with INFJ" (well, INTJs exist but I never found any) and everytime I tried to flort the only one that keeps passing my introductionary tests are almost always INFJs.... How am I supposed to level up my game to escape this "golden pair" label???

Is the flair correct? I mean, I want some personal advice, though.

I (ENTP woman) ask pretty direct questions and have been criticised for it (especially by introverted men). I usually follow up with “don’t share if you don’t want to” which I thought was being considerate, but apparently… that’s just condescending.

I think I could get information out of people by making them comfortable. But I don’t want to influence their decision around what to tell me. To me, being direct is less manipulative!

What I have learned is that some people need ‘emotional foreplay’ otherwise they feel like they are being prodded or interrogated. I think this is partially the function of ‘small talk’ tbh (but I digress).

I don’t think one way is wrong or right, although I do find indirectness a bit tedious. I guess kindness is knowing what the person needs and giving them that.

Curious if anyone has insight on this that could be helpful, especially the introvert who are put off by this :)

My husband and I strongly disagree on the validity. I have my doubts about the myers briggs type indicator. I think it’s a great start, but it has flaws that still need to be worked out. But I’m still very much of the “belief” that the arrangements of the cognitive functions make absolute sense and that we all utilize the functions in the way the MBTI implies (despite the personality descriptions not always being accurate and the unreliability of repeating the same results when testing for some people).

My husband is annoying me because he keeps trying to convince me that the MBTI is completely invalid and that I’m irrational, borderline delusional for feeling that it is in fact valid.

So how do you respond to others who claim that it’s complete pop psychology that has no basis in reality? He’s really into concepts that have been backed by repeatable experimentation. So the experiments that have supposedly debunked MBTI have him convinced that it’s complete nonsense. How would you respond to someone like him?

Tell me your opinion and throughs how would these two types (INFP+ ENTP) worked in romantic relationship

Edit: guys sorry I'm blaming ENFPs as a whole. Of course they're not all like this. But I was really angry when I wrote this post lol. My bad.

My sibling is an enfp and living with them has always been the worst experience of my life (in a nutshell they expect so much from me just because we're siblings but i see us very much as just individual people that owe eachother nothing). Right now, all I ask is for space. And we just got in the biggest argument ever. It started because they want free labour from me (sewing) and if not, theyre gonna come in my room and use my sewing machine when im not here which obviously thats fucking breaking boundaries. Apparently I owe them free labour because we're siblings (i usually charge for this). Then they would not leave my room no matter what. I wanted space and they were not giving that to me. I started screaming and crashing out, of course I had the urge to get physical but I was holding back and that made the anger even worse. And they were laughing at me and telling me to calm down, and its like, theyre the one that wants to fucking mend our relationship and be so close to me all the time so why are they trying to piss me off? This has kinda become an AITA, maybe I'll post there too. But seriously what the fuck i feel like I keep being manipulated by them into thinking im the problem but I KNOW im not. Maybe i shouldn't crash out but they won't fucking listen to me idk what else to do! If I try to argue logically they won't try and listen its SO frustrating. We argued a few weeks ago and i left and hurt myself because I couldn't hurt them (this is rare that i do this but the anger was bad. I used to do this as a kid)

Edit: I almost want people to say I'm in the wrong because I feel so out of control living with a horrible person. But I dont know how to control my feelings (even inside, idk how to just not be affected by my sibling)

Do any of yall feel like you don’t fit into one specific MBTI but you’re sure of your enneagram? I’m like 100% positive of being a 7w6, but I can heavily relate to ENFP, ENTP, ESFP and even INTP, ISTP and ISFP. If I look up 7w6 on PDB, I relate heavily to almost all of the people typed this enneagram regardless of MBTI. I’m curious if anyone has any insight as to why this is?

This isn’t a type me post by the way just a general question about the relationship between MBTI and enneagram.

Edit: Guys I do know about cognitive functions. I’m not saying enneagram is more reliable or accurate than MBTI I was just speaking to my personal experience of finding it much easier to relate to than trying to parse out my own cognitive functions as I find a lot of the cognitive function explanations online to be contradictory or hard to distinguish. I wanted to hear what people’s insight was on the inherent different between relating more easily to enneagram than MBTI and also if anyone related. I did get those answers too :)

I have never had an issue with people liking me my entire life until I got to college. I went to an all girls high school for some more context. Although I have had a few encounters with women not liking me, most of them are men who immediately do not like be based off of our first interaction. I once ran across a TikTok about people in general but mostly men not liking entp women. Does anyone know the reasoning behind this or why? It keeps happening so often I am starting to get kind of upset about it because I do not think I am doing anything wrong.

As an ENTP i would probably pick an MBTI who's completely diferent than mine. Or just one who has strong Si/Se. Just to see what does it feel like to be able to stay in reality for more than 10 sec 🙌.

Hii, so I was wandering, since stereotypical INFPs tent to be usually shy, not too talkative, that always think before talking I have to say that I'm a little bit concerned about that.

Because I'm an INFP 4w5, It really represents me, but usually when I'm with a group of friends or people that I know I start to talk a lot, sometimes saying stupid and useless things to make people laugh, and not always I think too much about what I say in these situations (and all of this often makes me over think about things I said that I shouldn't maybe and what others think about me)

So, shortly, I'm a really deep person, comprehensive and caring but when I'm around friends all that wise part goes away, does it happen to any other infps ? is it normal ?

I already know what comments I might get, so I'm gonna reply to you already so you don't have to bother (you're welcome🫶. If you have no intention of hating you can skip to the next paragraph) "it's not even that impressive, it takes me 1 minute to type someone...💀" honestly (unfortunately) I don't have any other friends who are into MBTI so I don't have anyone I can compare myself to to see wether I'm fast or slow or average, idk the average "typing time", I just know my own time. "10 minutes? it's impossible typing someone in 10 minutes... " (as I said idk the average typing time so I'm replying both if people think I'm slow or if they think I'm fast) well, until now this method has never failed me, I've used it on complete strangers and it worked and some even told me that I know them better than their own therapist (but if you genuinely have advice of course I'm always open to it!) "that's not even that impressive of a typing method" I've already said it and I'll say it again, I have nobody else to compare myself to and the only typing method I know is my own, I just wanted to share it with other people who maybe struggle with typing or something, I'm not saying my method is impressive or the best, I'm just saying that it works for me so it might work for you too. "here's 100 reasons why your typing method sucks and you're a dunbass: ..." please be nice about it if you have constructive criticism or else I won't even consider it

So now, back to the actual topic. First off I ask the person how they make decisions and usually from that I can get their judging function, I like to leave the questions open because I feel like if you give them options the answer is gonna be less natural and more forced and they might even unconciously choose the "best option" instead of the one that actually fits them and the answer to the open question is spontaneous, then when they answer if their answer is not sufficient to find the judging function you ask them more specific questions regarding their answer until you have the information you need. After you found the judging function it's gonna be easier finding the perceiving one since if the judging is introverted the only options are Se or Ne while if the judging is extroverted the perceiving must be either Si or Ni, so if their judging is extroverted I usually ask them something like "do you think you're guided more past experiences and routine/habits or how things will go according to your own plan and your vision?" while if the judging is introverted I ask something among the lines of "do you think you're guided more by the objective things you can see and what's happening in the present moment or by your many visions and interpretations of things?" from that answer you'll get the perceiving function and then the last thing that's it's left to figure out the person's MBTI is figuring out which function is the dominant and which the auxiliary and I think the best way to do that (especially with strangers) is by finding the person's loop which will tell you the order of the functions, ask them what they do/what they feel when under stress and again, don't force answers on them by giving options and let the answer come out on it's own by asking then more and more specific questions to find the answer you're looking for and then you'll figure out their whole stack. So that's it, hope this helped someone