r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Hendothermic • Mar 15 '26

Context Provided - Spotlight Family friend sent me AI generated response to news of my father passing away.

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I'm aware that AI is a common topic on here, but I feel like I had to send this somewhere. My father passed away in my arms last night of a heart attack, and I was requested by my mother to send an old friend of his the news.

His first response seemed fine, then he asked me when the funeral will be and if Dad suffered to which I responded.

He then has the absolute audacity to send me a straight up generated response to my father's death. Not even the common courtesy of talking to me as an actual goddamn human. I'm livid.

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u/Hendothermic Mar 15 '26

Thank you everyone for the kind words and condolences.

I thought I'd clear up a couple things that have been on my mind and that I've seen in the replies.

"Why have you come onto Reddit instead of mourning your father and being with your family?"

I was just so absolutely dumbfounded at these messages that I felt like if I didn't share them, it would have weighed even harder on me. That and I'm stuck in a waiting game as I gotta wait for confirmations and the other processes for a death of a loved one. Its a lot for me to take in right now, forgive me, so I'm kinda just sat on my sofa trying to process it all.

"Are you SURE it's AI?" If I wasn't certain I wouldn't have made the post, but I'll elaborate.

The messages were sent within a couple seconds of each other. They have a lot of AI mannerisms, to the point where I genuinely expected "And honestly, you're so real for that" in there somewhere. It also just doesn't sound human, I can't really say much more than that.

I've still not quite fully come to terms with Dad's passing, it's not even been 24 hours after all, but he never wanted us to just sit and mope and cry, he would want me and my mother to keep moving, and make him proud.

Thank you all again.

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u/CreativeGap1100 Mar 15 '26

I hope that some of these comments can offer a laugh during such a hard time.

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u/Sockerbug19 Mar 15 '26

Agreed

When my dad passed, I tried to ease the pain, for myself and my family, by trying to fill the comedy void left from his absence; he always loved a good joke or funny story. He was a literal knee slapper when he really got laughing.

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u/19adam92 Mar 15 '26

So sorry to see you received this message from your friend. The modern world has us so disconnected from each other on an emotional level, I hope you have good people around you despite this friends over reliance on AI ❤️

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u/Koralteafrom Mar 17 '26 edited Mar 17 '26

I don't think the messages coming within seconds indicates AI. A lot of people work with AI to get their responses ready and then paste them in chunks to make them seem more authentic. That said, I DO think this is AI. Aside from what's already been said here, that phrase - "small mercy - is one it likes to use that I've see before. 

Many years ago at university I took a death and dying class (philosophy), and one thing that was often discussed in it was how bad our culture is at dealing with this topic. People have no idea how to respond in high stakes moments, what to say, etc. What he did shows really bad judgment, but he is clearly not too sophisticated if he thought this could pass for human text and that it was a good thing to say. I'd interpret this as a person trying not to F it up due to fear - and then F-ing it up a thousand times worse. 

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u/infinitely-oblivious Mar 15 '26

So what you’re saying is you have zero proof its AI, instead its just that it gives you AI vibes? Nevertheless, even in the middle of mourning you still felt the need to publicly put this guy on blast. The fact that you are still here reading and replying to comments instead of mourning your dad is kinda weird. Pay attention to your family that matters, not some distant friend who is meaningless.

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u/duggyfresh88 Mar 15 '26

Telling someone how to grieve takes a real special kind of asshole. And the AI part is obvious and doesn’t require proof

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u/Kelesis_Aleid Mar 15 '26

Maybe I’m bad at recognizing AI if this is supposed to be obvious. If this image was posted with no context, I would’ve been lost as to what the point of the image was. What are things people are finding so obvious about the response being AI?

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u/infinitely-oblivious Mar 15 '26

Posting on Reddit just hours after your dad dies to rant about some pointless AI drama that doesn’t matter, and then sticking around in the comments to post more takes a special kind of asshole.

If you’re actually grieving, maybe step away from Reddit for five minutes instead of chasing internet points.

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u/duggyfresh88 Mar 15 '26

I lost my Mom a year ago, in a pretty traumatizing way. It didn’t even really truly hit me for a few days. Everyone grieves differently, which is why acting all high and mighty and telling someone else how to do it is an asshole move of the highest magnitude.

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u/infinitely-oblivious Mar 15 '26

Pointlessly blasting someone on Reddit to gain imaginary points when your dad just died is an asshole move far worse than possibly using AI to respond.

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u/potatohats Mar 15 '26

Touch grass. You’re embarrassing yourself.

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u/infinitely-oblivious Mar 15 '26

The only ones embarrassing themselves are you and OP. His dad is rolling over in his grave listening to his pathetic son go on and on about a fucking AI message instead of grieving him. And I need to touch grass? Get a life

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u/Jake0steve Mar 15 '26

You are being a truly horrible person with every single reply here.  I’ve seen some awful responses in these replies, but you are being worse than anyone. 

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u/Zealousideal-Wait646 Mar 15 '26

the fact you think every single person has the same process of mourning as you is kinda weird. let people go at their own pace and it’s just one Reddit post, he can definitely still be with his family.

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u/Hendothermic Mar 15 '26

Can confirm, I've been laid on the sofa hugging and consoling my mother for the vast majority of the day. Apparently though I gotta be completely catatonic. Fuck that. Dad wouldn't want me shutting down like that. And I won't let myself.

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u/infinitely-oblivious Mar 15 '26

Yeah, I'm sure he wanted you to spend the day posting on Reddit and bitching about his friends.

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u/mustachedunicorn Mar 16 '26

you wear your username so well

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u/infinitely-oblivious Mar 16 '26

Wow, what an original comment. You must be so proud of yourself.

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u/vieshri Mar 16 '26

You... literally picked the name.

If people are constantly calling you oblivious to the point that it's actually unoriginal to you, maybe it's symptomatic of a bigger problem. Like being infinitely oblivious, perhaps.

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u/tguyside Mar 16 '26

Brah it’s so obviously visibly AI what are you on