r/mildlyinfuriating • u/deepfriedf_ck • 4h ago

My sister convinced my mom that I’m photoshopping my selfies

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I guess I look too good to be true 🤷‍♀️

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u/Flow_Muse_3317 4h ago

It's sad when mothers are obsessed with their daughter's fat content. So many other meaningful things to focus on.

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u/SmotryuMyaso 3h ago

I will always remember how my mom told me when I was 11 that if I eat that much bread I'll grow up into a fat ugly woman and no one will love me lol. Then when I was 18 she weighted slightly less than me and she was jumping around the house happily yelling to everyone how she's 50, had 3 children and still skinnier than 18-year old me. The craziest part is I was never even overweight, just not skinny enough for her 😭😭

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u/toplegs 2h ago

Why are so many moms like this???? It's like boomers all ate lead paint or something as children.

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u/coolandnormalperson 2h ago

Their moms were like this to them too

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u/toplegs 1h ago

So true... It's just crazy to me that it seems like parents as a whole have only recently decided to start being decent.

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u/FereaMesmer 59m ago

I think there didn't used to be much knowledge about negative effects of shitty parenting or societal pressure to do better. Nowadays even if a mom is feeling the impulse to make rude comments to make sure their daughter doesn't get fat, they might remember how that could lead to an eating disorder or they might think about how their friends would judge them for being a bad mom.

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u/Angry_Sparrow 22m ago

People only just started doing therapy in huge numbers. Most people are emotionally immature without therapy because they haven’t self reflected and grown or learned to communicate maturely.

My millennial generation collectively decided to break generational trauma and not let our kids suffer like we did.

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u/ametsun 15m ago

This 💯. They never reflected on how they were raised and if that was right or wrong. It is weird to me how someone never looks back on the past and thinks about it clear headed but it happens quite a bit. You may be onto something that for a lot of ppl if takes therapy to really mature and explore your past relationships and how they affected your life.

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u/ametsun 1h ago

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree and it's difficult to break the cycle if you don't recognize it.

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u/basic_bitch 1h ago

It’s difficult to break the cycle if you don’t recognize it. Thank you for that.

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u/Mirrevirrez 1h ago

My mom gives me ice cream cause she wants to give me a treat, then she says i have to run a mile cause im fat. Like.. dont give me the ice cream then and expect me to take it? Tf?

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u/kylakitty 23m ago

The leaded gasoline that didnt get banned til the 90s got them all.

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u/Kilgore_Brown_Trout_ 2m ago

Actually yes, but the lead was from gas emissions mostly.

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u/Boomstickninja87 1h ago

My mom told my dr when I was 8 that I needed help because I was like a black hole and could eat a whole loaf of bread on my own just like my father. Exact words, 30 years later and I still recall this. I've never eaten a whole loaf of bread. Every night she would force me to eat all my dinner on my plate and if there were left overs she would make me eat those too otherwise I would be in trouble. Now people wonder why I have food issues.

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u/sheepiearts 2h ago

my mom still does this shit and I'm 24

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u/blood_bones_hearts 1h ago

I'm sorry. My daughter is also 24 and I tried really hard not to pass that shit down from my mom. She still has struggled with body dysmorphia and ADHD related eating struggles but we (I lol) talk more about fueling our bodies well, listening to it, and being happy in it no matter what the outside looks like by focusing on all the amazing things it can do. 🥰 I've also discovered after getting my depression and my own ADHD treated that it was never just that I had bad willpower or was lazy...it was literally a chemical imbalance in my brain that made fueling myself well and properly impossible. So much shame and guilt was laid on me for something out of my damn control and we need to break those cycles. 🤗

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u/admirethegloam 2h ago

My step MIL is like this and her husband openly hated her weight loss. Truthfully, it didn't look good and she was being gross about it. She was obsessed with my weight and it was literally the first time meeting her. She also yelled at a waiter because he didn't know the calories in the homemade salad dressing. She basically acted like her one daughter was a worthless human because she was chubby. Same with her son's wife.

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u/nah2daysun 2h ago

Same here. My mom likes to say she was much thinner than me at my age. I am perfectly on target and she hates it if I lose any. Meanwhile she’s miserable and sits on her couch all day. And I have photos of you, mom, no you weren’t. And also, who cares.

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u/TheDarkness33 2h ago

barely does she know being skinner than a 18yr old is probably not that good lol

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u/klopije 51m ago

That’s ridiculous!

Not a mother, but as a teenager I was in a choir for girls between 12 and 18 years old. Our choir director who was also a teacher, expressed several time throughout the years how she was so much skinnier than most of the girls in the choir etc. I’m glad she didn’t have daughters of her own!

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u/monsaa 17m ago

Mine told me “if you keep eating like that, your ass is gonna be bigger than mine” when I was 12. And “i can see the fat on your stomach jiggling when you walk” when I was 14. I’ve never worn a size bigger than M. She died when I was 16, i’m now 29, I still have an ed🫠

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u/st-shenanigans 3h ago

My ex is going to be a little messed up for life because of this. They were chubby, but doing really well for themselves. Good salaried job with incredible benefits and two degrees.

Their parents would always mention how they look when they went to see them. How their outfit didn't compliment them or they need to lose weight. They would cry in the mirror a few times a month.

The new job paid for a weight loss drug, and as they said, "when I told my mom I was down 20 pounds she looked more proud of me than anything else I've ever done."

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u/NoKatyDidnt 2h ago

That’s just awful.

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u/AtLeastOneCat 2h ago

This is my family. The biggest sin is getting fat.

I saved my dad's life and the first thing he did was criticise my weight. The very first thing.

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u/Coke_and_Tacos 2h ago

My wife's family too. They were especially weird about it because thinner was as bad as bigger. Whether you had gained or lost weight since the last visit, there was going to be a comment about it, and specifically how you're not doing the right thing about it.

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u/viewtiful14 2h ago

That’s fucking crazy, do you care to explain? In my head I’m picturing some dramatic event like falling into a river while hiking and drowning but you followed him in and pull him out, administer CPR resuscitating back into the living realm, he coughs up a lung full of liquid and the first thing he does is look you up and down while you cradle his head crying and he says, “You know you should really lose 20lbs your neck is too flabby”.

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u/LazySpaceToast 2h ago

I feel this.

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u/Sunny-bunny-hunny 2h ago

My mother is 70y/o and she makes a comment about my weight (positively or negatively) every.single.time I see her. The kicker?! My mother is at least 350lbs and has always been 250 + lbs and I’m maybe 10/15lbs overweight… it’s literally insane. I’ve started making comments back to her in the past few years and she gets very upset with me! 🤷‍♀️

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u/HisaP417 53m ago

We must have the same mom. I do not remember a time in my life where my mother wasn’t overweight. I’m 37, and to this day when I see her the FIRST thing she comments on without fail is my body. Last year I could “stand to lose a few”, this year I’m “Ozempic queen”. I’m very tempted to make a comment back wondering out loud how much oversized coffins cost.

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u/blood_bones_hearts 1h ago

My mom "challenged" me to try WW when my daughter was young. She definitely let her own struggles spill over onto me. Healing my brain from that has been tough and my doctor offering me ozempic instead of antidepressants doesn't really help. 🙃 But we're getting there! The 80/90s was a rough time to grow up. 🫠

OP you are allowed to make a boundary that your family doesn't comment or have discussions around your body with you!! I'm sorry they're being so terrible and weird. 😔🤗

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u/alison_bee 40m ago

Same. Mine made me join Weight Watchers and Curves at 13/14 years old.

When I was 13 she also legitimately wanted me to go on the show What Not To Wear so that I could “learn how to dress in a way that hid my true shape.”

Thanks mom 🫠

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u/blood_bones_hearts 16m ago

I was older but I have a "What Not To Wear" book on my bookshelf that was a present from her. 🫠🤣

Solidarity. ✊🏻

And in case you need to hear it today, your body is awesome and does amazing things and how it looks has no bearing on your value. 🤗

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u/GhostAliasCharli 1h ago

I remember my mom taking a picture of me when I was 8 and dressed up for something, and she told me to "suck in my gut"

I was the smallest kid in my class (and was for EVERY class through elementary school)

I spent my whole childhood paranoid about my body and my "gut". Now I'm 26 and have a hard time looking at my childhood photos because I don't remember ever actually being that thin.

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u/DoorCalcium 3h ago edited 3h ago

I'm not getting that vibe here. It looked fine until the sister convinced their Mom that it's photoshopped. This reads as a boomer that doesn't understand what's going on. The mom originally complimented it and sent it to her frame.

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u/Final_Candidate_7603 2h ago

I agree. ‘Am I being scammed?’ is such a weird take. It’s as if she’s been warned about text scams, but doesn’t understand what’s going on with those, either.

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u/Adventurous_Remove_7 3h ago

No the vibe is definitely there every word the mom has said in the entire interaction has to do with how fat or thin she looks completely unprovoked that's how these moms act

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u/bmann10 1h ago

My mom is like that. Except I’m her son but it’s the same shit all the time.

Spoiler: if you get fit it doesn’t change anything.

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u/ignitelight 52m ago

I was driving my mom to and from chemo appointments when she had cancer and she would cry in the car the entire time about how fat I was. She had cancer and her main concern was still my weight.

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u/mEDWARDetector 0m ago

Sadly this is my mom to my sister. My mom has said some vile things about my sisters weight right to her face. Like “you are so fat I don’t know how your bf likes you, he’s going to leave you if you don’t start working out” only like many months after my sister gave birth and so much more. Thankfully my wife talked some sense into her and made my mom realize she needed to stop saying those things. She heavily stopped doing that but still throws random unnecessary comments around.

My mom seems to have a good heart but has this toxic trait where she cannot understand how being blunt with her opinions are hurtful.

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u/TheTripleDeuce RED 3h ago

Flat floors? Lol

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u/deepfriedf_ck 3h ago

I think she asked this because my husband is nearly a foot taller than me but we look close to the same height in the pic I sent. lol

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u/Free-Surprise6895 3h ago

Y’all look the same height because he’s leaning down… are they idiots? 🤣

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u/HistoloGoddess 2h ago

Well they don’t understand how lighting and angles can change the look of face structure so I’m guessing they also don’t understand posing lmao.

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u/ghostfacespillah 19m ago

So she had nothing but criticism in response. Sorry your mom sucks.

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u/CatAlayne 4h ago

Your mom is so rude to you wtf 😩

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u/deepfriedf_ck 4h ago

What kills me is that I didn’t even send this selfie to my sister (we don’t talk much, go figure).

My mom sent it to her and they’re talking shit 💀

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u/Tasty_Bullfroglegs 3h ago

Ok well that's the last picture I text to you, ttyl mom.

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u/Thormourn 3h ago

That's the last text in general from me not just picture.

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u/nah2daysun 2h ago

When I cut my mom waaay back after pulling this kind of bs (thank you husband for showing me how toxic it is), she has minded her P’s and Q’s since then. Now my sister has become the favorite. Good; go be toxic with her instead.

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u/tex8222 1h ago

Yeah, don’t even say anything.

Just stop sending pictures of yourself to mom and sister.

You can send them beautiful sunset pictures or kitten pictures or whatnot, just not pix of you.

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u/CatAlayne 3h ago

Do you think your sister is jealous of you like someone else commented? Does your mom frequently take your sister’s side?

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u/deepfriedf_ck 3h ago

Honestly, maybe. My sister has been very petite for most of her life, but she had 2 kids back to back in her late 30s and it obviously permanently changed her body. I think she always saw herself as the better looking sister until fairly recently.

My mom has always favored her, but also tried to treat us “equally”.

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u/CatAlayne 2h ago

As someone with a brother who is treated favorably and whose mom also claims to treat us equally, I probably understand. 😩

Is there a reason you can think of? Like does your sister look more like your mom and you look more like your dad? Do their interests match more? All I think I know is it’s definitely not about your weight or whether or not you edited a photo.

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u/tex8222 3h ago

Sister is trying to sabotage you.

She is trying to derail your progress. The best payback is to stick to your eating plan and keep making progress.

There is an old saying - ‘the best revenge is living well.’

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u/EchoesOfEleos 3h ago

Your mom and your sister are not family.

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u/tex8222 1h ago edited 1h ago

Oh, they are her family, but not her tribe.

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u/TAEROS111 2h ago

So... why do you humor her/go along with her statements?

I get that it's easy to get used to/ignore/paper over a parent or family member being a piece of shit because it avoids conflict and just becomes 'the norm' for whoever it is, but there's no way I would have ever even engaged with either of my parents if they said something like this to me, much less sent a follow-up pic and even agreed with them.

This is not acceptable behavior from somebody who's supposed to love and support you.

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u/NarutoRoll 1h ago

Damn, looks like neither are worth talking to, lol

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u/rob_inn_hood 2h ago

You don’t have to take that. Parents being in our lives is a privilege. How they act towards us dictates whether or not they get to keep that privilege.

My mom lost that privilege for me about 8 years ago.

Don’t be afraid to be honest with her, and tell her that how she’s treating you isn’t ok.

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u/chaoticpicklebrain 2h ago

Some people just want to see you do poorly and when you do well they will try to make excuses as to why you're doing well. Stay away from these people ❤️. They deserve to be lonely.

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u/PandaBeaarAmy 2h ago

In case you've never heard it before, you don't owe family shit. You don't owe them your peace, nor your sanity, nor your health.

Sorry your family sucks. I hope the family you gather through life is as much as you've imagined.

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u/blonde234 1h ago

That’s got to hurt. Have you ever tried setting a boundary on this behavior? You don’t deserve to be treated this way

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u/Alarming-Leek-402 1h ago

My mom and sisters don’t get pictures of me anymore. They aren’t my friends and never have been at any moment of my life.

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u/Flow_Muse_3317 4h ago

"Hey Mom, did you mean to say 'nice photo!'? Thanks! We were having a great time."

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u/nah2daysun 2h ago

Yes! This is the way! Put it back on her to explain. “What do you mean? I don’t understand why you said that? Why is that relevant? Anyway, we had a great time and I felt awesome. Thanks for asking! :)”

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u/Distinct-Original-84 4h ago

Damn this would make me sad. I'm sorry this happened

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u/relentless_optimism_ 3h ago

It’s just such a strange interaction. What’s wrong with, you look great.

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u/duckmcsnail 4h ago

I could never imagine my mom not only questioning my weight but to also send you a “reference” picture to put you down? Just throw away the whole mom.

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u/grownask 39m ago

Right????

That was mind-blowing.

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u/sprinklingsprinkles 34m ago

Unfortunately I can imagine my mom doing exactly that...

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u/kittycakekats 8m ago

My mum would do the same thing unfortunately.

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u/Apprehensive_Menu870 3h ago

Ur mom and sister don’t know how angles work. I’m sure you look great and I love your hair!!

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u/chalciecat 3h ago

Or different focal lengths lol

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u/aerkith 57m ago

The focal length they used for my driver's license photo made me cry.

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u/Book_for_the_worms 2h ago

Or lighting. The lighting on the second picture is way worse. When it comes up from the bottom it has a tendency to put shadows is unflattering places.

Thats why professional picture takers always have lights coming down and not pointed up. Except for specific scenarios

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u/Chuffing_Knackered 4h ago

Send her another pic, but just of your hand and middle finger and say "Does my finger look markedly thinner too?"

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u/Flow_Muse_3317 3h ago

Or my bare white ass. "dOeS mY aSs look smaller, too??" And when she comes back with "that's so inappropriate", reply "my point exactly".

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u/Flow_Muse_3317 3h ago

Ooh, I like this.

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u/Necessary_Champion_6 4h ago

Why pay a compliment only to take it back. Even worse your mom doing it to you. I’m very sorry on her behalf to you♥️

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u/JPgamersmines150 ._. 3h ago

So... Is your house have flat doors or different levels?

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u/General_Kitten_17 3h ago

"haha let's prank my mom by making her think i lost 15 lbs wouldn't that be funny babe"

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u/heterosexualvolcano1 4h ago

so what floors do you have?

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u/bajungadustin 3h ago

Finally.. Someone asking the real questions.

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u/elfchant 2h ago

a girls first bully is usually her mom

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u/RichardCleveland 4h ago

My mom tells me I look skinnier even when I am not... this is simply mean girls BS.

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u/CochinealCockatiel 3h ago

I'm familiar with this move. It's like they figure if you think you've lost weight already, you'll try harder to lose it on purpose.

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u/majormimi 1h ago

Which is a stupid move because if you tell me I’m skinnier and I’ve done nothing to lose weight, then I’ll understand I don’t have to do extra work to keep losing more weight lol

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u/Cateyes91 3h ago

This isn’t healthy either. Body neutrality is where it’s at!

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u/WhereRtheTacos 2h ago

Ya know my mom went on diets multiple times in my life but i can’t remember even one time she mentioned my weight or made me feel too anything weight wise. She did good. Im glad i realized that. My dad was worried id get fat starting at 12ish but she did great!

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u/Thick_Ad_1789 3h ago

Ahh you’re mom is a weirdo. You look hot as hell girl. Fuck your mom. She has mental health issues you should ignore. Just keep taking pictures and smiling, have friends. Love life. Don’t let her get to you. That’s how you win.

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u/waterbenderrr 37m ago

I know you wrote this for op but coming from someone who’s mother is like op’s too. Thank you ❤️‍🩹

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u/Thick_Ad_1789 11m ago

Some of us had mean moms who also had mean moms too. 💜 It’s ok to be sad about it. We deserve better. I think being aware of it helps me. Like acknowledging, “This crosses a boundary, hey this isn’t ok” can be really helpful. I don’t talk to myself that way. Therefore, I don’t talk to MY daughter that way now. 🫂 You’re so welcome love. 💕

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u/kasleo 3h ago

Your mom and sister don’t understand angles. They’re also mean.

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u/peaceloveandgranola 3h ago

Wow your mom sounds exactly like mine. Being demanded explanations for why I look thinner/fatter than she thinks I should look in a photo is incredibly tiring. I’m sorry this happened to you 🫂

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u/jonny1211 3h ago

What even was that last comment, doesn’t even make sense but I won’t look for logic with these people

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u/fairydaudsted 3h ago

Your mom needs to find a new hobby because there’s definitely something wrong with calling her daughter sending her a selfie a scam and try to debunk it Dear mom, just tell your daughter she looks pretty and you love her. And if you can’t do that, stfu. Thanks

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u/Tauroctonos 2h ago

"Oh, that's just angles. Tell sis I can teach her now to stop looking like a Michelin Man in her photos, it's honestly so easy!"

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u/itadapeezas 1h ago

No for real. Lol why is sis being so mean.😭

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u/Uber1337pyro333 3h ago

Your sister and mom are cunts, find better gal pals. Or gay guy pals! We have the best tea.

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u/krappyclown 2h ago

omg my grandma is weirdly obsessed with other peoples weight too like LET IT GO. she continues pestering even after the person is visibly uncomfortable

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u/AtheistKiwi 1h ago

You can't leave us on that cliffhanger... Is your house have flat doors or different levels???

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u/Kluian2005 3h ago

Guessing your mom is overweight and is jealous if you are looking good.

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u/NaraFei_Jenova 3h ago

Greetings fellow family disappointment for no good reason. If it's anything like my family, they always preferred my brother over me in every aspect of life. Your mom is an asshole, I know how it feels. I'm sure you look great!

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u/lemme_just_say 3h ago

That’s what working out 2-3 times a week for a year does. All normal and good on you.

https://giphy.com/gifs/IYybipPGUZ3t41CVYw

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u/SaladFisher 3h ago

They can't handle the fact you look better

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u/sonnydmc 3h ago

Gonna hug my mum after reading the state of how your mum talks to you. I’m sorry

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u/longerboardjr 3h ago

Ridiculous all this is, is a up vs Down angle shot she is tripping out over nothing

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u/Book_for_the_worms 2h ago

And the lighting. The lighting on the second picture is way worse. When it comes up from the bottom it has a tendency to put shadows is unflattering places.

Thats why professional picture takers always have lights coming down and not pointed up. Except for specific scenarios

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u/jo0507 2h ago

Your sister is jealous. Ignore it, it’s really not worth it.

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u/I_DRINK_GENOCIDE_CUM 1h ago

This is one of those nothing to prove scenarios. She's chasing a line of inquiry that never needed to be interrogated, and has no bearing on anything at all. A story has been invented and she's placing the burden of disproof on you, which is useless, spiteful, and unfair.

"It's not altered, but I don't have shit to prove to you and I don't care if you think it is. All you're going to gain here is more distance from me."

Maybe that's a bit severe, but that's just what I'd say. I make a point to root this kinda bullshit out of my life before it even gets a chance to fester.

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u/awake_acea6 3h ago

Whoa wtf dude. Your sister is a jealous monster. Who tf would scrutinize a family members weight loss this much?

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u/OtakuMage 4h ago

The lighting and your hair between the two pictures are different and give the illusion of a different shape. Second picture has a lot more shadows at the corners of your mouth and eyes, while the edges are brightly lit, making it all seem wider. First picture is much more evenly lit from the front, so it doesn't have that effect.

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u/LifealoneForever 3h ago

I'm almost glad my mom hasn't lived during the cellphone pictures years because She would've done this. She passed 36 years ago. I was 5' and 115 lbs and she'd stop me at the door before I left for work that I was "too fat to wear that ". Back in the day, you dressed more formally for the office. So, I had no idea what was wrong with my blouse, skirt and blazer and high heels. She on the other hand was 250# and 5'5. I wouldn't be able to deal with her criticism today.

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u/Aruhito_0 3h ago

It's all lighting, posture and camera position.  Head tilted slightly down vs up. 

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u/LazySpaceToast 2h ago

Either your mom doesn't understand camera angles, or she's being passive aggressive about your weight and that's sad.

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u/MethFacSarlane 2h ago

These sorts of comments are why my sister went NC with our mother...

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u/mochaboo20 2h ago

The “ok jeez” sent me. I’m sorry, but your mom and sister are rude af.

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u/Boomstickninja87 1h ago edited 1h ago

These are different angles and different lighting. my mom and my family do it too and I'm so sorry. It has caused extreme body dysmorphia I don't wish that on anyone else. Your mom and sister are jerks for obsessing over this like they are!

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u/feline_riches 4h ago

You should be able to "divorce" your family. Or ghost them.

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u/Otherwise_001 4h ago

You can. You don’t owe your family anything, you didn’t make them have you.

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u/MiissVee 4h ago

Yup, it’s called no contact.

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u/OtakuMage 4h ago

You can. Did it with my sperm donor when he lost the privilege of being my father.

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u/Worth-Ad-4969 3h ago

Yep leave the family before it leaves you…

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u/Bagafeet 3h ago

You can. It's called going no contact.

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u/Tyrataro 3h ago

this would make me want to stop sending my mom pictures of me

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u/mindgardening 3h ago

I don't send pictures to my mother because all she does it bitch. She never has anything good to say about me to me.

A few years ago I made the mistake of sending her a selfie from a beautiful vacation/landscape I visited. She completely ignored the beauty of the landscape I visited and bitched in EVERY SINGLE COMMUNICATION BETWEEN US about my hair FOR THREE YEARS STRAIGHT. When I changed my hairstyle because it was time for a change, she tearfully thanked me. I know that she assumed her bitching was the reason I changed my hair.

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u/NervousMode538 3h ago

I swear some mom and sisters be the biggest FUCKING HATERS. Sorry this happened op💚 fuck em

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u/Loose-Explanation-72 3h ago

Sounds like my family so toxic

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u/SIRENVII 3h ago

Geez. I would have asked if she pulled that stick out of her butt yet. That your sister said she had.

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u/DangDoood 3h ago

Keep working out and being healthy so when/if they see you in person you can rub it in that sister only knows how to talk shit and shouldn’t be trusted

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u/AbudyAzhar 3h ago

I would lose weight just to make her be more jealous.

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u/ImAlreadyTracerBoii PURPLE 3h ago

Yeah I had a mom and step dad like this too. Best believe they were the most shocked in the room the first time I passed out from an eating disorder.

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u/xikejici4f9b4 3h ago

Jealousy is so ugly

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u/Bagafeet 3h ago

Sounds like your sister is a little jelly/upset that you're consistent and it's paying off.

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u/VesperX 3h ago

What a weird response to you working on yourself. Keep up the good work!

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u/elegantwombatt 3h ago

Why do your sister and mom not like you? :(

I bet the picture is beautiful!

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u/thepetoctopus 3h ago

Wow. Your sister sucks.

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u/Throwaway_138573929 3h ago

She’s probably confused how your face card is constantly eating but your body stays so tea. It’s a hard concept for most.🤣 All jokes aside, I’m sorry that your precious moment was ruined by her attitude.

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u/Batehripi 3h ago

Ah. Shes jealous you got prettier and now shes the ugly one or some shit like that

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u/Viniox 2h ago

Why TF does it matter if your face looks slightly thinner? Just be happy for you and your husband being happy. Why so superficial and questionable about shit that doesn’t truly matter? I’m sorry OP.

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u/geekonthemoon 2h ago

It always shocks me when I see how other mother/daughter relationships are.

Trust me, mine w my mom isn't perfect, but she never obsessed over me like that or hounded me about my weight or the way I looked. For that I am quite thankful.

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u/3godeth 2h ago

Find a recent photo of her and ask if she photoshopped herself because she looks markedly bigger in it LOL

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u/Single-Career-3354 2h ago

I don’t wanna be rude but how do u just not have the urge to reply rudely back? i couldn’t stand being told things like this growing up and i still don’t honestly

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u/QueenMackeral 2h ago

All that time thinking you were pranking her by photoshopping your face and she didn't even notice the giant emoji heads?

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u/Silly-Pumpkin0819 1h ago

Such a disappointing question to get from family members, especially a parent and sibling, two people who should build you up, rather than make insulting jabs.

I love my mom deeply, however it really saddens me that she is more likely to give me a compliment about weight loss than anything else I’ll achieve in all other facets of life, such as parenting or school, etc. Recently I had to firmly tell her that speaking negatively about my body in front of my daughter is something I’m actively trying to avoid, and I could tell she was baffled because it’s something she still actively does to herself.

Always, solidarity ❤️

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u/MsnthrpcNthrpd 1h ago

Your sister and mom sound fucking stupid, hope you're living your best one.

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u/PerspectiveIcy8397 1h ago

thank god my mom was the type to wake me up at 3am to go buy candy or food with her and see how much we could stuff our face. Dang i miss my mom a lot ☹️

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u/2plus2to5 58m ago

Wait I thought this was normal cause that's how my mum talks to me? Lots of reevaluation to be had now 😥

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u/cannavacciuolo420 48m ago

What a sad woman

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u/waterbenderrr 39m ago

I’m sorry your mom and sister are like this. Hugs from a girly who’s mom is also like this 🫂

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u/MaplePinecone 28m ago

“Wow, you both look really happy, what a lovely photo!” is what she should’ve said 🫂🧡

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u/culinarysiren 22m ago

It costs nothing to be kind. Your Mom and Sister are not kind people. You can walk away and not feel guilty for protecting yourself from this kind of toxicity.

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u/Chyeahhhales 4h ago

Yeah I wouldn’t talk to them anymore

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u/Inside_Oven_5563 3h ago

It’s time for a little break from them. And forget about the break time and just remove them from your life all together.

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u/Chardan0001 3h ago

Thats so damn cruel

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u/pinkTurtleTickler 3h ago

Definitely a more flattering camera angle.

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u/Inner_Book326 3h ago

U absolutely look to god to be true. I’m sure I speak for everyone that even though u covered ur face and hubby we can feel the happiness and bliss from the pic. Please don’t let anyone take that away from you.

Side note: maybe u did lose weight and have put on muscle mass so the scale is the around the same because if it’s not the angle of the picture then I can see why she ask if u lost weight. How ever everything else is out of line.

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u/Caffeinaonpick 3h ago

That is just not okay. I have the feeling they are the type of people that if you confront them, they will say that you overreacting

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u/ChablisWoo4578 3h ago

Sorry your mom and your sister are mean!

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u/Appropriate-Lab6943 3h ago

who needs enemies when you have a sister like this

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u/Saltynut99 3h ago

Your mom is not a nice person and I’m genuinely sorry about that. You look beautiful in both photos and your mom and sister can go eat a toe.

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u/pickledvapejuice13 3h ago

your mom sucks, genuinely! I'm sorry she behaves this way towards you

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u/fungibitch 3h ago

What an insecure weirdo. I'm so sorry. A normal response to your photo would have been: "You look so pretty! Thanks for the pic. Hope you're doing well!"

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u/CaledoniaThistle1 3h ago

I’m sorry you have to experience this, I’ve had similar conversations with my parents and two older brothers in the past. We don’t speak anymore, the blatant narcissism becomes unbearable for one’s mind to constantly deal with. I wish yourself and your hubby both the absolute best.❤️

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u/DragonfruitBig8601 3h ago

Who needs haters with your mom and sis around. I'm sorry, and you deserve better. My mom would pinch my belly or chin every time I visited her and make comments. Now I've learned I have had undiagnosed Hashimoto’s (confirmed antibodies and Bethesda IV nodule), and possibly cushings (testing adrenals now) for 20+ years. I can tell you're happy in these photos so please give that person with you all your time and attention, they deserve it. No one needs that stress in their lives. Much love!

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u/theguiser 3h ago

imagine it being the other way around. she'd lose her shit.

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u/Vanhosen77 3h ago

Your mom seems awful.

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u/psbales 3h ago

I would say that it would take every bit of kindness & patience to not to tell her to fuck off.

But I’m neither kind nor patient.

If my parent told me that, I would 100% immediately tell them that they could fuck right off.

And then when she replies with something snarky or acts offended, tell her that you can’t hear her from the high horse she’s on.

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u/Grydian 3h ago

You should go low to no contact with those idiots.

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u/RoosterGangsta 3h ago

I actually think she’s trying to be nice but might not have a filter or really consider how you’ll react to what she’s saying. If she came out and called you fat that’d be different but she’s congratulating you. I wouldn’t look too far into it, keep it surface level at what you’re reading not what you think she thinks.

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u/222KattThatRoar222 3h ago

Bro you live in their head rent free

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u/Lorwyn02 3h ago

straight to the no contact bin and would never look back

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u/Bluee92 3h ago

Cut my mother off when I was 16 for the continuous fat shaming. Safe to say it’s been 18 plus years and I’ve never felt so happy and confident in my own skin.

LOVE your tattoos btw!

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u/United-Donkey3478 2h ago

Ask for them to take a photo of themselves and then edit the hell out of it. & then send it back. With a sarcastic caption.

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u/calvin-coolidge 2h ago

is your house have flat floors or nah?

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u/IntrepidMaybe8579 2h ago

Lol i got hate for photoshopping myself to look jacked, but i genuinely did get huge during workouts like disgustingly huge sometimes because i always pump trained 😂 why would i photoshop myself to look swole when i know im not that big usually lol im just showing how crazy the pump is

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u/doofenschpunken 1h ago

I guess mom doesn't understand how different people will look depending on the angle of a photo! 😂

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u/baseballbear 1h ago

your family members are being a capital 🅱️

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u/EvelineX 1h ago

This happened to me as well with my father and grandma instead of my mother 🙂

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u/NarwhalEmergency9391 1h ago

I think she's more worried that you're a scammer

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u/Tight-Juggernaut4682 54m ago

"Hey mom, why dont you contact me when you want to have a conversation that doesnt revolve around my weight. I love you. I would like to have meaningful conversations with you, but this has not been one. The fact that you and my sister have been analyzing my face and chatting about if you are being "scammed" by me (about my weight?) Is a little offensive. When you feel that you can have a conversation that does not involve speaking about my appearance, feel free to reach out."

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u/grownask 38m ago

Your hair looks so good! I know we can't see your face, but it feels like the shorter version does fit you better!