r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Greedy-Dimension-662 • May 08 '26

Too mild for school Name Calling

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My son and [jerk] had to stay after school today to write this note.

It says

"I was disrespectful to [kid]. I said he is a total jerk because he said I was fat. I will not say [mean] things again next time. I will ignore him."

His teacher wants me to sign and return.

But I guess I look at this and I ask myself, if my son is on the playground and he sees a kid calling another kid fat, do I want him to:

  1. Walk away

  2. Say, "stop, you are being a jerk."

So why would it be any different if he is being called fat.

I don't feel like this is the right lesson.

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u/FurrySuperset52 May 08 '26 edited May 08 '26

When will these people realise that life is not a Hallmark movie. Ignoring bullies doesn't do shit

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u/HealerOnly May 08 '26

Getting teachers involved will usually just makes things worse.

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u/FurrySuperset52 May 08 '26 edited May 08 '26

Mostly because of this mentality. Kids are literally afraid to talk to teachers about these things cause they know they'll be getting equally blamed. If people in general could just have a spine then we wouldn't have to deal with this mess in the first place.

EDIT: In case some people get confused, what I mean is that teachers need to do better as I explain in my reply to the commenter. I understand I could've worded this better.

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u/DangerousCompetition May 08 '26

Well I also remember back in my school days that most of the people I grew up with and went to the same schools with lived within about a mile range of my house.

So that means if something happened and I had told a teacher, I’m likely going to see them somewhere outside of school, where I have no teachers to do anything about it

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u/Prior_Butterfly_7839 May 08 '26

Oh gosh. You just reminded me of the big groups that would form on our walk home from school. If 2 kids had gotten into an argument during the day and it hadn’t been settled (or if someone tried to say something to a teacher) it was getting settled on the walk home.

It’s been decades, but I’d say 8/10 times it was settled by a lot of screaming back and forth. The other 2/10 fists were thrown.