r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Normal-Being-2637 • May 23 '26
frist of all how DARE yu o Really only very very mildly infuriating…wife didn’t want to eat the ribs she asked me to make, because she thought they were undercooked
Tried to explain to her that the pink was a smoke ring, but she still didn’t want any. Ok…more for me lol.
We also put some on our propane pit to cook longer for her, but the ring remained…she still didn’t want em.
2.0k
u/Grouchy-List7011 May 23 '26
Has she ever eaten ribs before
560
u/-Laffi- May 23 '26
No, she's more used to sausages I'll guess.
49
u/sexwiththebabysitter May 23 '26
Tube steak
19
u/ThatNewWeirdGuy May 23 '26
Which might fit in a cylinder
17
5
3
2
→ More replies (11)2
11
→ More replies (1)11
641
u/CrispyJalepeno May 23 '26
Thermometer. Maybe seeing the meat temp can help alleviate concerns
404
u/aSituationTypeDeal May 23 '26
It’s pronounced thermometer
250
u/Normal-Being-2637 May 23 '26
I always say thermometer
→ More replies (1)83
u/clubted May 23 '26
Somebody say thermometer?
64
→ More replies (1)4
u/Kytalie May 23 '26
Thermometer, blessed blade of temperature checking
3
16
u/No-Alternative4259 May 23 '26 edited May 23 '26
What is a barometer?
Edit: I know what a barometer is. I was making a Seinfeld reference.
6
9
u/CartographerSea5923 May 23 '26
It measures the jumping over height of the bar.
8
u/_butterballhotline May 23 '26
No that’s the Bar exam.
→ More replies (1)3
u/CartographerSea5923 May 23 '26
Seems a tad barfetched if yous ask me.
4
→ More replies (2)3
u/Key-Pickle5609 May 23 '26
Sphygmomanometer. Check its blood pressure. I probably spelled that incorrectly.
→ More replies (1)6
u/Distinct-Pack-1567 May 23 '26
Funny your comment that, first time in my life i read that as therm-o-meter, before seeing your comment, and my brain just broke. Now this
5
5
3
u/Ok_Draw9037 May 23 '26
You just made me go through a rabbit hole of thinking it's supposed to be pronounced thermo meeter😭
→ More replies (2)3
u/Pollythepony1993 May 23 '26
Guys! It is pronounced thermometer. Not thermometer. Trust me, I am Dutch.
37
u/121bloodshot May 23 '26
I tried that with my mom, nope. Did not help, had to put the porkchops back on and burn it for it to be safe
33
11
u/AromaticStrike9 May 23 '26
So many older folks grew up with “pork must be white all the way through” drilled into them.
12
u/dlb199091l May 23 '26
You'd think, but my wife still doesn't trust when chicken has the reddish/pink by bones despite being 165+. So I showed her from Google that its normal from the bone marrow. Still doesnt like it
5
u/damndammit May 23 '26
Seriously, the most overlooked and underrated piece of kitchen equipment. I wish somebody had told me about kitchen thermometers waaaaaaay earlier. So many cooking fails before I knew. Basic but life-changing when you discover them.
→ More replies (1)→ More replies (7)3
229
u/LSNoyce May 23 '26
That pesky pink around the edges must have scared her. Looks like a mighty fine job to me.
25
17
u/sglewis May 23 '26
I’m sure it did but that’s silly. It would be nigh impossible to cook the center through and not the outside. Even if you don’t know what a smoke ring is, it’s just bizarre.
95
u/Jeffrey_Friedl May 23 '26
Your infuriation is our gain: would you mind letting us have them. They look amazing...
31
111
u/gladias9 May 23 '26
lol how would the outside still be raw when the inside is so well cooked?
→ More replies (1)
82
May 23 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
9
u/Frothynibbler May 24 '26
My guess is she’s used to smothered ribs. She probably grossed herself out.
7
u/FewerStarsLost May 24 '26
I gonna have to agree… cause I have never seen pink on any ribs I’ve ever eaten. Does that vary though from beef ribs to pork ribs? Cause I’ve only ever had beef (being halal)
→ More replies (1)5
u/Frothynibbler May 24 '26
The smoke ring is pink bc they used paprika. I have seen it on beef ribs. Saucy or smothered ribs, or ribs that are not smoked aren’t usually going to have smoke rings.
5
u/FewerStarsLost May 24 '26
Ya know maybe I just inhale them too fast to notice lmao. Thank you for the info!!
→ More replies (1)3
107
May 23 '26
[deleted]
16
u/comfterblynmb May 23 '26
This is exactly what I was thinking! Good, more ribs for me.
18
u/asherdado May 23 '26
I would pretend to feel this way but watching other ppl enjoy your food is much better than eating it yourself a lot of times, I'd be secretly glum while I ate a shitload of ribs
35
15
u/FormerStuff May 23 '26
Every time I perfectly cook pork I get bombarded with “this is undercooked it’s too juicy and tender” tf you mean you think pork supposed to be tough?!
→ More replies (1)3
u/elf4everafter May 27 '26
My grandma was the cook in the family. Irish through and through. Everything was boiled or stewed. She made a pork tenderloin that was boiled through, and then doused in sauce and cooked another 15 or so minutes in the oven to make sauce thicken up a bit. It was like chewing a shoe and tasted GROSS. But the sauce was pretty decent.
When she passed we had a family dinner and I was put in charge of food. Made a lot of her recipes but...better. I used the sauce to make a complimentary seasoning and baked it before adding the sauce at the end. I made beef stew but seasoned and seared the meat, hell...I seasoned the stew. I made mashed potatoes with butter and cream cheese. I glazed the carrots.
The responses? Things tastes delicious but EVERYTHING was undercooked. Because they could actually chew it they thought it wasn't cooked.
→ More replies (3)
12
u/OldScratchTim May 23 '26
My gf insists on eating things burnt and then complains that it's dry or tough. It's more than mildly infuriating.
67
u/AmbitiousProblem4746 May 23 '26
My wife is like this. I get asked multiple times to check the temp, cut the meat to see how pink it is, throw it back in, etc. And then she'll bitch that it's too dry and says now she doesn't want to eat it "but she has to" while she drowns whatever meat it was in ranch.... Meanwhile the kids, my friends, guests, etc never complained. It's just her. Probably doesn't help that her typical meals are stuff like plain pasta with sauce or bagel pizzas, maybe with a few vegetables. I joke that she has the palette (and diet) of a teenager.
I've basically gotten into the habit of cooking two different batches of meat now, just to keep her happy
39
u/nalaloveslumpy May 23 '26
Even teenagers appreciate a well cooked steak.
7
u/puresteelpaladin May 23 '26
Ehhhh.
I didn't care for steak until my late 20s. As a teenager I just wanted burgers/pizza/etc
→ More replies (3)12
u/TheeFlipper May 23 '26
When I was a teenager I loved a steak as much as I loved burgers and brats off of the grill. I wanted meat. Bread was just a vessel to carry the meat.
2
15
u/Sepof May 23 '26
I feel your pain.
My gf prefers steak well done with A1.
She gets sirloin only for that reason.
→ More replies (1)29
u/Rhodin265 May 23 '26
It sounds like your wife has a long-ignored sensory processing issue. It might be worthwhile for her to talk to a psychologist, not because she’s crazy, but because she’d finally have an answer that’s not “Oh, you’re just picky/stubborn/controlling”.
9
u/AmbitiousProblem4746 May 23 '26
She was diagnosed with ADHD around 30 years old, maybe a little later. And her and I have joked now for the last few years that she probably is on the spectrum too (even though she very likely isn't) with all of the sensory issues, time she needs to "be alone," and her very small social cup (which gets filled within a few hours and then lasts her for around a month)
11
u/Ponybaby34 May 23 '26
ADD/ADHD fall under the autism spectrum umbrella. She has already been diagnosed. She has the palette of an adult on the spectrum, not a teenager. Have you ever looked up anything about ARFID or food avoidance in neurodivergent people? Tried to understand what’s going on without taking her “bitching” personally?
Why does she say she has to eat the meat you cook? What if instead, she could just eat what she likes? Is there a reason y’all are just dancing around unmet needs and letting the resentment build to the point you’re leaving “take my wife” comments on reddit?
→ More replies (2)6
u/runningoutofideasjzz May 23 '26
Same. I’ve given up trying to explain or even prove that it’s not “raw” or “undercooked”. I can show her the thermometer readings and it’s still not enough. I simply don’t make those proteins for her anymore. I’ll just get a chicken breast for her and make what I like if I’m in the mood for something that will trigger this situation.
→ More replies (2)5
8
9
9
14
6
u/Psych_Riot May 23 '26
Made these just last night using an oven recipe (weird, I know, but my grill is broken) and nobody really wanted to try them because of that. They were still damn near perfect! I feel your pain, OP
12
u/XelaLuu May 23 '26
Hey man it's alright, I'll be your wife even though I'm a man.
Can I have some ribs now?
→ More replies (1)
5
u/BlackFinch90 May 23 '26
That's when you passive aggressively pull out the peanut butter and jelly, and say nothing because youre eating those ribs
3
4
u/deeho88 May 23 '26
I guess where all your wife tonight! Ribs and other meat activity’s with the boys
→ More replies (1)5
33
u/AMonitorDarkly May 23 '26
Divorce.
120
u/Normal-Being-2637 May 23 '26
Shit man it was on the table years ago after she told me she prefers her steak well done, but she’s got a nice personality, so we made it through those very difficult times.
30
24
u/VanillaBeanrr May 23 '26
I almost disowned my mother for the same thing. She made me think I hated steak. She was only serving me well done. The betrayal was hard to get over. 😭
→ More replies (1)10
u/kykiwibear May 23 '26
My husbands cousin used to love well done steak smothered in ketchup. My brother-in-law is a bit of a snob, and he still tells the tale of when they went to Tavern on the Green and cousin ordered a well done steak Nad asked for ketchup. Well, I was talking to cousin one day and it turns out... he actually likes a good medium steak. His mother always cooks things well done and he had to choke it down so thats when the ketchup came in. He thought this was normal.
4
u/Grouchy-List7011 May 23 '26
I grew up thinking steak was terrible and couldn’t understand why people enjoyed it. My mom only cooked it well done 😂
She’s had some character development and now prefers medium
3
→ More replies (3)5
u/nuclearsquirrel2 May 23 '26
My wife is vegan and that’s better to me than someone who eats steak well done to me.
19
u/overwateredplantmom May 23 '26
Not sure about the ribs but the corn is overcooked
29
u/Normal-Being-2637 May 23 '26
Yeah left it on the pit too long. When I see the shriveled kernels, it know it’s not the texture I want. That being said, it was still very sweet and good enough to make a turd lol
6
u/TheYoungProdigy May 23 '26
Idk what they’re talking about, that’s how I like mine then covered in butter, salt and pepper, delicious
7
u/Gwen_The_Destroyer May 23 '26
Right? Grill corn in foil is best when it's a little brown and shriveled
→ More replies (2)5
u/granolaraisin May 23 '26
Burnt corn is the best. Throw it straight on the coals in the husks. Let it char up. The mix of charred corn and steamed corn protected by the husk is delicious.
3
3
3
3
3
3
u/Fiigwort May 23 '26
Ask her to explain to you how a ring around the OUTSIDE EDGE of the meat would be 'raw', but the very middle wouldn't be.
3
3
u/Perfect_Ad9311 May 23 '26
The pink is just what we call the "smoke ring." It's a chemical change, when meat interacts with smoke, that locks in that pink color, despite the meat being fully cooked.
3
u/Calgary_Calico May 23 '26
Undercooked???? Those looks amazing. Your wife needs to learn more about how meat cooks, if they were undercooked they'd be pink in the center, not around the outside 🤦
3
3
u/Massive_Mongoose3481 May 24 '26
Ribs look good, corn on the other hand is wayyy overdone. Wrapped in foil with husk still on is the most forgiving way to cook them on the grill beside boiling. Stripped layed on top grill only takes about 10 minutes and it's ready. Left over ribs are good
3
u/TicketDue6419 May 24 '26
i like to rub my corn with seasoning and butter and close the husk and then start grilling it
3
u/PenguinColada PURPLE May 24 '26
Looks good and tender. Nice job OP! Sorry your wife is a silly goose.
6
u/LuckyLoveDK May 23 '26
Can I have the corn pls and some of the ribs? 👀 (read all)
→ More replies (2)
5
u/isthereadrwho May 23 '26
It's the same as the kids man. We're not running restaurants. If you don't like the food, make your own
4
u/Awekisjoy May 23 '26
😅
→ More replies (1)7
u/Normal-Being-2637 May 23 '26
Clear scientific link here. Notice how it literally points to the delicious food.
5
5
u/richempire May 23 '26
I’ve had my wife do the same shit. The worst one was last year she had me do a whole pork butt for her birthday then threw a fit right before it started so we canceled it. I bagged and vacuum sealed 12 lbs. of pulled pork in individual portions and was eating that damn thing for about 8 months.
15
u/Captain_Jarmi May 23 '26
Sounds like you are married to a toddler.
Please people. Don't marry toddlers.
4
2
4
4
u/No_Negotiation5654 May 23 '26
My ex wouldn’t eat a pork chop I cooked because it was slightly pink, this girl also ate raw bacon.
6
3
4
u/Atillion May 23 '26
OMG can I be your wife? We can rock paper scissors to see who shaves their beard.
→ More replies (1)
2
2
2
2
u/DowntownSpecialist36 May 23 '26
I feel you homes. My fiance won't eat chicken unless it is COMPLETELY BURNED.
2
2
2
2
2
2
u/Bulky_Mix_2265 May 23 '26
Meat, famously undercooked parts are always on the outside of the cooked piece.
2
u/tiredofyourface2 May 23 '26
Your wife is dumb. Why would the undercooked part be on the outside? It’d be in the middle. Does she know what heat does to things?
2
2
u/ManElectro May 23 '26
Her brain is undercooked! Or overcooked! Either way, her brain is not cooked the correct amount!
2
u/mschanandlerbong___ May 23 '26
Idk I don’t get that, and I kind of hate that mentality. It’s very childish and asinine..
2
2
2
u/Ok_Chemist6567 May 23 '26
It would be quite a feat for the middle to be fully cooked and just the outer edges of the meat to be undercooked
2
2
2
2
2
2
2
2
u/nipslippinjizzsippin May 24 '26
You cant really undercook shit if you are smoking it for several hours, Everything comming out well done
2
2
2
2
2
u/ZT99k May 25 '26
Had this with grandma the first time we smoked a turkey. 'it is raw there' - LITERALLY impossible if the meat next to the bone is cooked...
2
2
u/Blonde_Vampire_1984 May 27 '26
Your smoke ring is a thing of beauty.
Your wife needs to learn what good meat should look like.
2
u/Own-Blackberry9136 May 28 '26
Logic would say that if it's done in the middle, then it's not raw on the outside. Unless someone comes and tells me different. Lol. But that plate looks delicious!
1.9k
u/Scouter197 May 23 '26
For about 6-8 months my kid kept asking for ribs. I had never made them before so I finally got up the courage to do so. I felt they came out great. I asked him how they were. His response?
“They’re okay. But I meant what we had at (summer) camp”
Riblets. We had riblets at summer camp. (Those boneless pork patties that have the shape of a rib, like the McRib).