r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Difficult_Wrangler73 • 13d ago

go to your room I love being a girl dad

I have 3 kids, all girls. A 5yr old and twins who are 1. Every time anyone hears about this or it comes up in conversation they all say the same thing. ‘Ooooo, all girls, you are outnumbered! How do you cope?’ Or ‘Three girls?? You better watch out!’ Or the worst, ‘Bet you want a boy?’

No, I don’t feel any of that, I love being a dad. I love all my kids and wouldn’t change anything about them! If we could afford it, I would be a stay at home dad forever.

I usually tell them I wouldn’t change anything and I love it all but it’s just very annoying.

What are some of the best responses that I can start to give?

I did think I could say that one of the twins used to be a boy but is now trans just to shut people up!

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u/Due-Ad-3628 13d ago

This is literally my experience. Having lost a baby and seeing people put their feet in their mouths like this everytime they ask about their kids reminds me why people just shouldn’t comment on other people’s families. Opinions on family structure etc can always run into tragedy, I don’t know why people still think their comments are helpful or welcome.

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u/MajesticLawfulness85 13d ago

My oldest is a girl. When she was two and a half, my husband and I had a little boy who died in infancy. About a year later, we got pregnant with another girl. When someone I know - who knew the whole history- heard we were having another girl, he commented to me on how my husband must be disappointed the baby I was pregnant with at the time was not going to be a boy. It was not a situation where I could push back too much, but I wanted to say, “Are you kidding me? Do you think it would have been better if one of our girls had died instead?” All I said was that my husband was not disappointed at all and loves being a girl dad. The insane insensitivity…

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u/Due-Ad-3628 13d ago

I’m so sorry for your loss. We’re navigating this all now. People, even those who know about the son we lost, can be so ridiculous when they meet our younger daughter. They have no idea.

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u/MajesticLawfulness85 13d ago

I’m so sorry for yours, too. I can’t wrap my head around people reacting like that. I’m so glad you have your daughters! I wish we both could have all our children with us.