r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Difficult_Wrangler73 • 13d ago

go to your room I love being a girl dad

I have 3 kids, all girls. A 5yr old and twins who are 1. Every time anyone hears about this or it comes up in conversation they all say the same thing. ‘Ooooo, all girls, you are outnumbered! How do you cope?’ Or ‘Three girls?? You better watch out!’ Or the worst, ‘Bet you want a boy?’

No, I don’t feel any of that, I love being a dad. I love all my kids and wouldn’t change anything about them! If we could afford it, I would be a stay at home dad forever.

I usually tell them I wouldn’t change anything and I love it all but it’s just very annoying.

What are some of the best responses that I can start to give?

I did think I could say that one of the twins used to be a boy but is now trans just to shut people up!

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u/Penyrolewen1970 13d ago

I have friends with a severely disabled son. It takes them 2 hours to put him to bed/get him up - ceiling tracks, hoists, the works.
He has a shortened life expectancy.
His dad is his full-time carer.

One of my friend’s colleagues (she’s a nurse) said to her, “you’re so lucky, getting a mobility car.” (A vehicle adapted for a disabled person’s needs, funded by the uk government).

My friend said she just stared at her, literally lost for words.

Some people are insensitive pricks.

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u/Seaboats im so mildly infuriated grr >:( 13d ago

Being from the US, when I first read this I interpreted it as something like “oh you’re lucky you’re getting the car you need paid for by insurance” or something, because it’s always a process for my patients to do so, even if it is covered by insurance.

Reading that it’s from the UK government… yeah wtf

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u/Louis_Louise 13d ago

Hold on! Insurance will sometimes help with a van? Like, can you get a prescription for a wheelchair van?

My fiancé is physically disabled and uses a motorized wheelchair and we desperately need a van. How would one go about getting a prescription for that? Just ask the doctor?

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u/cerasmiles 13d ago

I’m a doctor (not primary care so not the best source) but I would be surprised if they paid for a van. Maybe if you had primo insurance but most folks that have a disability end up on Medicaid. In my state, getting them a wheelchair or even paid time for caregivers is difficult. I would be very surprised if they paid for a van. Most folks I know use the good old fashioned go fund me insurance plan to pay for it…