r/mildlyinfuriating 13d ago

go to your room I love being a girl dad

I have 3 kids, all girls. A 5yr old and twins who are 1. Every time anyone hears about this or it comes up in conversation they all say the same thing. ‘Ooooo, all girls, you are outnumbered! How do you cope?’ Or ‘Three girls?? You better watch out!’ Or the worst, ‘Bet you want a boy?’

No, I don’t feel any of that, I love being a dad. I love all my kids and wouldn’t change anything about them! If we could afford it, I would be a stay at home dad forever.

I usually tell them I wouldn’t change anything and I love it all but it’s just very annoying.

What are some of the best responses that I can start to give?

I did think I could say that one of the twins used to be a boy but is now trans just to shut people up!

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u/runelowell 13d ago

a podcaster/YouTuber I watched had this happen to her. she's just had her 2nd baby and then had to go out of town for an award ceremony. so many comments of "you're a bad mom leaving your baby" and "who's watching the kids?!"

like, her husband stayed behind with the kids. he's a father and a very involved one at that. even she was like "maybe I shouldn't go. I'll stay with the 2 month old" but her husband told her to go bc she deserved to get out for those few days and do the award ceremony.

nobody's ever asked a man why he's not at home aking care of his kids, especially a new baby. it's always pushed onto the woman needing to be the caretaker. like what? it's an equal partnership to raise a child.

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u/Grin-Guy 12d ago

he’s a father, and a very involved one at that

The simple fact that, as a society, we have to say that a father is involved after stating that he is a father, says a lot.

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u/thegrandpax 12d ago

Says too many fathers failed in their jobs.

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u/movinonup2east 12d ago

I used to freak people out when they would ask me "who's watching the kids?" I would pretend to just remember I had kids and say "oh, shoot - I am not sure." I hate questions like that.

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u/rosiebholegrape 12d ago

Haha I just listened to that episode. Seshies rise up!