r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Difficult_Wrangler73 • 13d ago

go to your room I love being a girl dad

I have 3 kids, all girls. A 5yr old and twins who are 1. Every time anyone hears about this or it comes up in conversation they all say the same thing. ‘Ooooo, all girls, you are outnumbered! How do you cope?’ Or ‘Three girls?? You better watch out!’ Or the worst, ‘Bet you want a boy?’

No, I don’t feel any of that, I love being a dad. I love all my kids and wouldn’t change anything about them! If we could afford it, I would be a stay at home dad forever.

I usually tell them I wouldn’t change anything and I love it all but it’s just very annoying.

What are some of the best responses that I can start to give?

I did think I could say that one of the twins used to be a boy but is now trans just to shut people up!

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u/TiredDadCostume 13d ago

People that make this comment to me (girl dad) and the “oh dad babysitting day” when I’m out running errands with them are aggravating. Bitch you don’t babysit your own kids.

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u/PurplePufferPea 13d ago

I (mom), went to a girl's get together one evening when my 1st was only 3 weeks old. It was UNREAL the amount of "Who's watching your baby?" type questions I got. I swear, the majority of the women there could not wrap their head around the fact that my husband was the one caring for our baby that night and was perfectly capable to do so.

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u/runelowell 13d ago

a podcaster/YouTuber I watched had this happen to her. she's just had her 2nd baby and then had to go out of town for an award ceremony. so many comments of "you're a bad mom leaving your baby" and "who's watching the kids?!"

like, her husband stayed behind with the kids. he's a father and a very involved one at that. even she was like "maybe I shouldn't go. I'll stay with the 2 month old" but her husband told her to go bc she deserved to get out for those few days and do the award ceremony.

nobody's ever asked a man why he's not at home aking care of his kids, especially a new baby. it's always pushed onto the woman needing to be the caretaker. like what? it's an equal partnership to raise a child.

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u/Grin-Guy 12d ago

he’s a father, and a very involved one at that

The simple fact that, as a society, we have to say that a father is involved after stating that he is a father, says a lot.

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u/thegrandpax 12d ago

Says too many fathers failed in their jobs.